gb9 - a quick f.y.i. to tell people how they come across, what they appear to be saying,
the emotions they are expressing, how hearts can be addressed when in certain situations,
is speaking the truth.
The problem with feedback is often the person themselves is not listening to their own
words, or emotions, or key indicators of where their heart is.
So if someone says "I love Jesus, He is my everything, my Lord and Saviour" and then
ignore his words they are lying to themselves. It is like saying I read the instructions
to operate the television, but it will not switch on. Either it is broken or you did not
read the instructions.
What I find interesting is how people will say something, you repeat it back and they
say you are lying, when you use the same words. What they are saying is in their mind
the assumptions and meaning within the words are different than the ones the person
hearing it has, so its meaning changed. So both are probably speaking the truth, the words
mean different things to both parties. Now with a good heart, you can start to work this
through, but it depends on how much love and understanding is really there. For some
clearly not a great deal.
the emotions they are expressing, how hearts can be addressed when in certain situations,
is speaking the truth.
The problem with feedback is often the person themselves is not listening to their own
words, or emotions, or key indicators of where their heart is.
So if someone says "I love Jesus, He is my everything, my Lord and Saviour" and then
ignore his words they are lying to themselves. It is like saying I read the instructions
to operate the television, but it will not switch on. Either it is broken or you did not
read the instructions.
What I find interesting is how people will say something, you repeat it back and they
say you are lying, when you use the same words. What they are saying is in their mind
the assumptions and meaning within the words are different than the ones the person
hearing it has, so its meaning changed. So both are probably speaking the truth, the words
mean different things to both parties. Now with a good heart, you can start to work this
through, but it depends on how much love and understanding is really there. For some
clearly not a great deal.
telling someone that you do not personally know what they believe and how they feel, or that they are emotionally damaged, all of which YOU do regularly, are lies, since you do not know these things.
it is called logical reasoning. try it sometimes.