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tkgurl

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well the other day me and some other girls at my school got in this discussion about...well guys. and they all said that they had "types" of guys they liked best. and that if a guy didnt meet up to these standards then they wouldnt date him. but they meant like hair color and build and stuff like that. well the outward appearance. i totally disagreed with them and i told them that the guys heart matters more. and i quoted some verses in the bible and they all thought i was crazy. ive been getting that a lot lately but it really doesnt bother me. anyway i started wondering if im supposed to have an "ideal" guy picked out, like an idea of what i like or something....i dont prefer a hair color or skin color or whatever like these other girls do, but should i have an idea personality wise? and would someone want to date someone else if they didnt think they were attractive? its all so confusing and dumb and i dont want to date anyone for a while but i was just wondering....
 
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tkgurl said:
well the other day me and some other girls at my school got in this discussion about...well guys. and they all said that they had "types" of guys they liked best. and that if a guy didnt meet up to these standards then they wouldnt date him. but they meant like hair color and build and stuff like that. well the outward appearance. i totally disagreed with them and i told them that the guys heart matters more. and i quoted some verses in the bible and they all thought i was crazy. ive been getting that a lot lately but it really doesnt bother me. anyway i started wondering if im supposed to have an "ideal" guy picked out, like an idea of what i like or something....i dont prefer a hair color or skin color or whatever like these other girls do, but should i have an idea personality wise? and would someone want to date someone else if they didnt think they were attractive? its all so confusing and dumb and i dont want to date anyone for a while but i was just wondering....
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Let me guess...they only want guys that are tall, smart, look like they're favorite actor or pop star (cough!-justin beiber-cough!), athletic, loves animals, and drives. How far off is that? Don't worry, u r way ahead of them in maturity. When they get older they will understand what u told them.
 
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ChristianTeen

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Well, it definately helps to have a 'imaginary' and 'ideal' guy picked out so when you start dating, it's much easier if you know what you are looking for..
 
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chazwicked82

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I know several women in different age groups and all of them have their "ideal" guys, but none or them are with guys that fit their ideals, so there you go
 
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Narn

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chazwicked82 said:
I know several women in different age groups and all of them have their "ideal" guys, but none or them are with guys that fit their ideals, so there you go
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Or they don't have a guy
 
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704champion

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hey gurl,

I think it's important for everyone to know what they want. that doesn't mean right now in every aspect of life, though.

if you're not sure of what you want in a guy right now, definitely don't jump into a relationship anytime soon. the day will come when you know what you want. and still don't jump too quickly!! trust me.

blake
 
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yahweh_is4me

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For me one of the first things that impress me is his walk with Lord, .. and his personality is a biggie with me also but I have to be attracted to him, integrity means allot to me .. but then again all that rolled into one is attractive to me ...
 
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hapigrl

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I think a personality and a strong faith are important. I also think you should be attracted to your boyfriend or spouse, so I guess it goes both ways!!
I personally have a list of characteristics I want for Mr. Right, so I agree with christianteen with that one.
(lol zero, justin b is da bomb!! to bad he's too young for me :) jk
 
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tkgurl

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personally i think justin bieber is gross:p he cant sing good either.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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tkgurl said:
well the other day me and some other girls at my school got in this discussion about...well guys. and they all said that they had "types" of guys they liked best. and that if a guy didnt meet up to these standards then they wouldnt date him. but they meant like hair color and build and stuff like that. well the outward appearance. i totally disagreed with them and i told them that the guys heart matters more. and i quoted some verses in the bible and they all thought i was crazy. ive been getting that a lot lately but it really doesnt bother me. anyway i started wondering if im supposed to have an "ideal" guy picked out, like an idea of what i like or something....i dont prefer a hair color or skin color or whatever like these other girls do, but should i have an idea personality wise? and would someone want to date someone else if they didnt think they were attractive? its all so confusing and dumb and i dont want to date anyone for a while but i was just wondering....
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I dont care about skin color or hair color, as long as he is tall then its all good.
 
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zeroturbulence said:
Let me guess...they only want guys that are tall, smart, look like they're favorite actor or pop star (cough!-justin beiber-cough!), athletic, loves animals, and drives. How far off is that? Don't worry, u r way ahead of them in maturity. When they get older they will understand what u told them.
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I'm almost that XD Only medium height (5'8/9ish).... And I'm not exactly very athletic either, though I don't uber-fail sports lol. And animals are just alright =P

I'm smart, drive, and look kinda like a Jonas Bro though =P


I see nothing wrong with having preferences, but if not having EVERYTHING 100% is a dealbreaker, then there's a problem there =/
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I dont care about skin color or hair color, as long as he is tall then its all good.
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I was joking with a friend the other day that I like tall guys as well... and she said, "Kim (seeing as I'm 5'2"), a 'tall' guy to YOU would be 5'7"."

OUCH!!!
 
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Love009

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I definitely want someone who is completely after God, I would have to say though looks may not matter but you do have to be somewhat attracted to the person lol. That would be weird marrying someone you didn't find attractive, and they may not even have to be attractive to anyone else as long as you find them attractive.
 
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brotherdee

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Hello! I'm single; Who's awake?
 
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leeannabanana

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You've got a lot of time to figure all this out! Don't worry, in time, you will definitely "discover" your type! Everyone has one.. Although, you may have many types. For me, I think, more then anything, I have the "types" of guys that I DO NOT like.... Those are the guys who tan, spend 20 minutes doing their hair, take their shirts off all the time, and when they decide to wear one, it's pink! I am personally REALLY turned off by narcissistic men! Like the ones on "The Jersey Shore!" Lol!
To answer your question on "attractiveness"... I do not know anybody that would date someone that they weren't "attracted" to. That said, there is A LOT in the definition of "attractiveness". Usually, most people, need an initial attraction to another person in order to be interested in them as "more then a friend". However, although you may not be initially attracted to someone, you may become attracted to them over time. This is where the saying "beauty is on the inside" comes from. The more you get to know someone and like who they are on the inside, the better looking they get on the outside. Weird, but true. Hope this helps!
 
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Jennifleur

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I wouldn't say that I really have a type. Yes, there needs to be some physical attraction, but I don't have a specific hair color/eye color/skin color/clothing style etc. that I have defined as "my type". Most importantly, he needs to love Christ more than anything. Other than that, I would want to date someone whom I shared some things in common with, common interests and views. That way, we'd have something to talk about, some common ground to begin getting to know each other and build a relationship.
 
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tkgurl

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leeannabanana said:
You've got a lot of time to figure all this out! Don't worry, in time, you will definitely "discover" your type! Everyone has one.. Although, you may have many types. For me, I think, more then anything, I have the "types" of guys that I DO NOT like.... Those are the guys who tan, spend 20 minutes doing their hair, take their shirts off all the time, and when they decide to wear one, it's pink! I am personally REALLY turned off by narcissistic men! Like the ones on "The Jersey Shore!" Lol!
To answer your question on "attractiveness"... I do not know anybody that would date someone that they weren't "attracted" to. That said, there is A LOT in the definition of "attractiveness". Usually, most people, need an initial attraction to another person in order to be interested in them as "more then a friend". However, although you may not be initially attracted to someone, you may become attracted to them over time. This is where the saying "beauty is on the inside" comes from. The more you get to know someone and like who they are on the inside, the better looking they get on the outside. Weird, but true. Hope this helps!
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you are completely right! ive noticed that when i know and like someone for who they are they become more attractive on the outside. i do find that a little odd, but i guess thats for the best.
 
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Love009

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I disagree, I think he can sing. He may be a little ten year who thinks hes in love with every pretty girl he sees :) but he's still a good singer. Think about it, Usher helped him out.
 
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