church is the worst place to meet a spouse

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so you have about a 2% chance to meet a partner in church nowdays, online dating is heavily skewed in favor of women because there are more men than women on any dating site, I have basically no friends so meeting one through friends is not going to happen and you have a pretty small chance of finding a christian in a club and I don't even go to them.

are you really surprised when nowdays christians either are forced to be single their entire lives even if they haven't the gift of celibacy or they start to date unbelievers as there is no other option.
 
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Besides that subline
I notice two curious lines
Notice how up they are going up
For both online
And very noticeably
At my least favorite places
The bars
And of course in this time
Matchmaking is between millennials dominantly
It's nothing to wonder at, we're reaching marriageable age
Not just here for Christians are these a troubling trend
My entire generation is at stake here man!

Ha ha as for your last point I guess it has some merit
But then again I don't care much for today's stone churches
No, I see my problem now
Too shy to try online dating
And let's just put it politely
Of bars my biased opinion gives a low rating
 
Our most desperate times of emotional brokenness tend to bring to the surface what we really believe about God and ourselves. If we are not convinced of God’s love before a romantic crisis, we may negatively measure His love for us during or afterward.


While brokenhearted, Asaph asks in Psalm 77:8, “Has His unfailing love vanished forever?" (NIV).


Finally, accepting that God’s love for me has nothing to do with my marital status has allowed me to relax and rest in Him. As a result, He’s put a new song in my mouth and gratitude in my heart.
 
Looks like I need to go out and eat at restaurants more often. ;)
 
God trumps statistics. To suggest it's harder to meet people is to say God is not involved.
 
Besides, what is your primary goal in life? Is it to live life or is it to find a spouse? If you do find a spouse, will that bring meaning to your life that it did not previously have?

I don't go to church to meet a spouse, I go there to meet God. I don't go to a restaurant to meet a spouse, I go there because they can make some dishes I can't make at home. I don't hang out on the internet to meet a spouse, I hang out here because there's a lot of good thoughts bouncing around and I want to see some of them.

(And if a guy goes to a bar to find a girl he is going for the wrong reason! You go there to hang with your buddies and maybe get drunk or maybe just hang out.)

From what I have seen in my friends' lives, they keep finding their true loves when they are doing things in their normal everyday lives and happen to meet somebody. All the analysis in the world didn't help them. And the people I have observed desperately looking anywhere and everywhere for their soul mates have settled for something they thought was true love, just because they were so desperate, but they usually seem to get the short end of the stick.

Mind you, all this is based on what I've observed here in southwest Tennessee. It may all be different in a big city or some place across the world.
 
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I met a girl who was in church every day of the week who I was advised she wanted to date. I went through each day in my diary and not one was free for the rest of the month so I said forget it!
 
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God trumps statistics. To suggest it's harder to meet people is to say God is not involved.
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That's right! I still believe "a prudent wife is from the Lord" even though I don't always believe it at times. (Yeah, it doesn't make sense. I know the Scripture is true, but at times, I don't always have faith in it.)

Also, not only is God involved in leading you to the person, if He chooses to do so, but also leading you into WHY you're interacting with this person. Yeah, she may be single and Christian, but is there something else besides "she's available" that makes you curious? Such as her background, her family, her own statements of faith? Something that makes you want to know more, even if you two never date?

That previous paragraph was a little deliberate. I was reminded of someone that I just described that I'd like to get to know more as a person, even if we never date, and I heard of her from a friend.
 
If barely anyone is going to church then obviously they won't be meeting a spouse there. This data doesn't really tell you anything about your chances of meeting someone at church, just that of those who do meet someone, they were going somewhere other than church - and that is consistent with the fact that the majority of single Americans in their 20-30s probably go to church twice a year.

Unless the percentage of singles in churches has declined, your chances of meeting someone there is actually higher than the other options given that it is less congested.
 
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so you have about a 2% chance to meet a partner in church nowdays, online dating is heavily skewed in favor of women because there are more men than women on any dating site, I have basically no friends so meeting one through friends is not going to happen and you have a pretty small chance of finding a christian in a club and I don't even go to them.

are you really surprised when nowdays christians either are forced to be single their entire lives even if they haven't the gift of celibacy or they start to date unbelievers as there is no other option.
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I'd be curious about statistics for what percentage of the marriages are still marriages.

For those that met at a bar/restaurant...how many are still married to that same person?
For those that met at a church...still married or no?
Same with the rest of the situations.

The divorce rate is just a little shy of 50%, regardless of it being Christian or non-Christian.

I wonder if how/where people meet affects marriage longevity.
 
An interesting stat, but it thankfully doesn't tell the whole story. Fewer young people are going to church, and since it's young people that get married, fewer are meeting at church. Also, it takes a huge dip right around 2008, and then the graph ends at 2009. That was right around the time of the economy crashing. Not sure how those two things could be related, but it bears considering. Maybe the line went back up.

I'd like to see what the graph looks if you only count actual believing Christians. My bet would be close to a third or more of them met at church.
 
Good on you to beat the statistics, that's smart Faith, and walking in His Love everything is easy including being single, except when we wish we were somewhere else: referring to a marriage bed.
 
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