Advice on child's hair

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So, I need some advice on my younest daughter's hair.
her hair is fine with plenty of volume, blonde, and curly (pretty curls and waves, I would cry if I had to cut it short).
BUT on the back of her head, her hair frizzed, kinked, gets matted, and looks damaged.
I've tried oils and that is about it. I'm afraid I don't know much about treating damaged hair. I am considering giving her a bobbed haircut, which would break my heart a little because the rest of her hair is beautiful.
 
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Hey, have you tried detangler before you comb or brush her hair? My youngest sister had fine, curly hair. My mother rolled her hair on sponge curlers every night. Like five or six of the biggest size. It set her curls and gave it more body.
 
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I have not tried that. I will as soon as I can, the 'oils' I tried was a spray to control frizz and it just made her hair look dirty and greasy.
I wonder if rag tie curling would do a similar job as sponge curlers. :confused:
 
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shrimp said:
I have not tried that. I will as soon as I can, the 'oils' I tried was a spray to control frizz and it just made her hair look dirty and greasy.
I wonder if rag tie curling would do a similar job as sponge curlers. :confused:
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Oils are tricky. Too much and it is too greasy. Rag curlers are kind of tight, where the sponge rollers don't twist the hair. One thing my mom did and I still do to try to control frizz is use lotion. It smells good and is not AS greasy as oils. You could try the rag curlers, but I don't know. One thing we did was spritz a little hairspray/water mixture when curling our hair to cut down on frizz. A good trick if you put too much oil or lotion on her hair or your hair is to put some powder on your hair and brush out the powder. It absorbs the oil.

Just some thoughts. We all had long hair as kids (I still do) and live in a very humid place, so I understand your problem.
 
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shrimp said:
So, I need some advice on my younest daughter's hair.her hair is fine with plenty of volume, blonde, and curly (pretty curls and waves, I would cry if I had to cut it short). BUT on the back of her head, her hair frizzed, kinked, gets matted, and looks damaged. I've tried oils and that is about it. I'm afraid I don't know much about treating damaged hair. I am considering giving her a bobbed haircut, which would break my heart a little because the rest of her hair is beautiful.
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Hi Shrimp,


Why not take her to a hair salon. Or even a cosmetology college if you have one in your town/city. If she really has damage, they can let you know. If it just looks like damage, they may be able to recommend products that would help.


I like Galatea's suggestion about the pink foam rollers. My sister and I used those growing up as well. It might help train the hair if it's not damage.


The one nice thing about cutting hair is that it grows back and she's got youth to her advantage. :)
 
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Thanks a TON. you have no idea how much I don't want to cut her hair. I will give it a try and let you know if it worked.
 
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Desertsrose said:


Hi Shrimp,


Why not take her to a hair salon. Or even a cosmetology college if you have one in your town/city. If she really has damage, they can let you know. If it just looks like damage, they may be able to recommend products that would help.


I like Galatea's suggestion about the pink foam rollers. My sister and I used those growing up as well. It might help train the hair if it's not damage.


The one nice thing about cutting hair is that it grows back and she's got youth to her advantage. :)
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sadly no go on the hair salon and such. we live in remote alaska.
and I'm afraid that her father's family genetics will win out if we cut it making her hair less curly.
 
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Thanks a TON. you have no idea how much I don't want to cut her hair. I will give it a try and let you know if it worked.
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I hope some of these ideas work. You are very welcome. :)
 
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shrimp said:
I have not tried that. I will as soon as I can, the 'oils' I tried was a spray to control frizz and it just made her hair look dirty and greasy.
I wonder if rag tie curling would do a similar job as sponge curlers. :confused:
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I've done a lot of experimenting with rag curling, and you can do most anything with it. You can make thicker rags and wrap more hair around each to give more the impression of a sponge curl.

If the hair is actually damaged, avoid hairspray! That is huge for me.
 
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You could use a silk bonnet ( if you braid or use curlers) and or pillow case. Allows for more movement.
 
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I don't think you should chop her hair off. One of my daughters had really tangling hair when she was a kid. Her bother brought detangling spray. I figured out that conditioner and water, combing the hair out when it's wet, works better. If the problem is tangling, try conditioner. For frizzing, how would she look with partial dreadlocks in the back. :) There are detangling brushes now. Maybe you could order one online.

If you are concerned she won't like short hair, the frizzy part should grow out if you take care of the hair near the roots, right?
 
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shrimp said:
So, I need some advice on my younest daughter's hair.
her hair is fine with plenty of volume, blonde, and curly (pretty curls and waves, I would cry if I had to cut it short).
BUT on the back of her head, her hair frizzed, kinked, gets matted, and looks damaged.
I've tried oils and that is about it. I'm afraid I don't know much about treating damaged hair. I am considering giving her a bobbed haircut, which would break my heart a little because the rest of her hair is beautiful.
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I use on myself and my kid's a shampoo and conditioner called Fairytales Detangaling and their spray. It's the best stuff I've found. You can find it on line on their web page fairytales.com or Amazon. I also buy it at Wegmans and Ulta Beauty. It costs about 10 bucks a bottle but it's well worth it. Also sulfate free shampoo is good for curly hair.
 
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Fenner said:
I use on myself and my kid's a shampoo and conditioner called Fairytales Detangaling and their spray. It's the best stuff I've found. You can find it on line on their web page fairytales.com or Amazon. I also buy it at Wegmans and Ulta Beauty. It costs about 10 bucks a bottle but it's well worth it. Also sulfate free shampoo is good for curly hair.
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you're a genius! :)

there's this product called Wen. it's sulfate free, very good for damaged hair, and r-e-a-l-l-y conditioning, but not in a greasy way.

good call, Jen!
 
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notmyown said:
you're a genius! :)

there's this product called Wen. it's sulfate free, very good for damaged hair, and r-e-a-l-l-y conditioning, but not in a greasy way.

good call, Jen!
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Ase thanks, I'm not a genius, my hairdresser told me to avoid sulfate because it's not so great for curly hair. Fairytales I found when I was googling about bad tangles, tried it and it's amazing. They also make a formula for chlorine damage and to repel life. Their products are great.
 
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Repel Lice not life.
 
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Cut it
Keep cutting it (just a tad at the time) regularly

PS: Hair is dead. Why would oils help?
 
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Use a separate shampoo and conditioner, rather than a 2-in-1.

After applying the conditioner, comb through while the hair is still wet. This is the trick to getting rid of tangles... always when hair is still wet.

I would recommend using olive oil as a hair treatment, every two weeks. This should really help.

I have long wavy/curly hair and use various products, but probably not recommended for children really. I often use Moroccanoil Treatment, which smells Heavenly, but probably best you stick with olive oil. Apply it and leave it on for about 30 mins and then shampoo. Some recommend warming the oil slightly as they say it's more effective when warm.

Does she sleep with her hair loose? I wonder if you should look at loosely tying it back somehow. The way she sleeps on it is probably creating a lot of tangles too. Careful with hair wraps, incase it comes loose and she chokes on it as she sleeps.

Hope this helps!
 
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