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Hand_Of_God said:
This isn't creepy btw.
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No, it is not creepy. Women in their twenties are grown women, they are not minors. In your op, you said you have a problem dating women who have had multiple sexual partners. You also expressed doubt that women of a certain age are virgins. They exist, but you seem to doubt this. Therefore, I suggested you date young women. I don't know why this is an objectionable idea to you. It would seem to solve your problem brilliantly.
 
My experience the older the guy is the more "dad" like he is rather than a partner..
Galatea said:
No, it is not creepy. Women in their twenties are grown women, they are not minors. In your op, you said you have a problem dating women who have had multiple sexual partners. You also expressed doubt that women of a certain age are virgins. They exist, but you seem to doubt this. Therefore, I suggested you date young women. I don't know why this is an objectionable idea to you. It would seem to solve your problem brilliantly.
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Zi said:
My experience the older the guy is the more "dad" like he is rather than a partner..
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It works for many, though. My sister was 19 and her husband 33 when they started dating. They've been married over 11 years now with four children, and both seem happy.

In the not too distant past, men regularly married women significantly younger than themselves. Celine Dion's late husband was much older than herself, and in a recent interview, she said she would never remarry because he was her soul mate. It is not outside the realms of reality for May to December relationships to work.

I tend to be a problem solver. When I read about a problem, I want to offer solutions. This seemed like a solution to his problem.
 
I used to believe that I was going to wait to be married before I gave myself to a guy. I would also get offended every time someone told me I wouldn't know what I wanted until I actually had sex. Well, in the heat of the moment, I gave my virginity to my current boyfriend and afterwards we made the decision not to do it again until we get married because no matter how much we are attracted to each other or how wonderful it was...we want the love and commitment that marriage can provide. Now, if something were to ever happen between us I wouldn't want any admirer of mine to choose not to continue to want a relationship because I chose to give myself to another man and it wouldn't make me love him any less. The point I am making is just because she was with other men does not mean she wouldn't be a good, faithful, and devoted wife to you and to give them a chance because God forgives people that repent of their sins so we should accept those sinners and love them like Christ does....you may surprise yourself :)
 
it's not that simple for some.. its a whole new ballgame when youve actually had experience like im talking experience.. nothing wrong with wanting someone more pure.. i dont see why people try to get folks to lift standards.. all the baggage and soul ties and memories that add to knowledge and preference.. some want a clean slate or a knowing that who they have is theirs and it means something.. I understand redeemed but that really should be left to God leading that way and not just advice for everyone..
 
I wasn't saying it as if you were wrong. I just said for me they have been too dad like
Galatea said:
It works for many, though. My sister was 19 and her husband 33 when they started dating. They've been married over 11 years now with four children, and both seem happy.

In the not too distant past, men regularly married women significantly younger than themselves. Celine Dion's late husband was much older than herself, and in a recent interview, she said she would never remarry because he was her soul mate. It is not outside the realms of reality for May to December relationships to work.

I tend to be a problem solver. When I read about a problem, I want to offer solutions. This seemed like a solution to his problem.
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Zi said:
I wasn't saying it as if you were wrong. I just said for me they have been too dad like
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I guess it depends on whether or not you could relate to an older man on his level, like if you recognize his references. If you can, then you would be more like peers.
 
let me be more clear as my point has been totally lost.. They have been more of a dad type because they treated me as a child of theirs. I couldn't tell if I didnt know better that I wasn't one
Galatea said:
I guess it depends on whether or not you could relate to an older man on his level, like if you recognize his references. If you can, then you would be more like peers.
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I tend to stay stuck in text mode. get to the point in a punch line to make the character criteria
 
renewed_hope said:
Hey! Are you saying because I have thick, blonde hair I don't have a perfect head :mad: :p
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Look, you can take it to mean anything you want it too. What ever makes you happy. I'm just happy that young women might like older men.
 
Zi said:
let me be more clear as my point has been totally lost.. They have been more of a dad type because they treated me as a child of theirs. I couldn't tell if I didnt know better that I wasn't one
I tend to stay stuck in text mode. get to the point in a punch line to make the character criteria
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Oh, well, since it was a negative experience for you, I suppose it would be better for you to date men your own age or thereabouts.
 
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Galatea said:
I guess it depends on whether or not you could relate to an older man on his level, like if you recognize his references. If you can, then you would be more like peers.
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I agree. After a couple dates, my guy asked me how old I was and I told him....he was stunned because according to him I was mature and had the elegance of a woman in her thirties and thats when he told me his age and honestly it hasn't changed one thing. If anything it brought us closer and when we have one of our date nights, he always tells me that he likes the fact I make him feel young :)
 
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