Kinda new here…need some advice

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Demi777

Demi777

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you keep choosing to get offended. i wouldnt blame you for sayin stuff like that bout americans if u had made experienes like that with americans throughout your life.
and yes if i could and if the language wouldnt be so hard, I would take a trip to Itali and visit some friends in Asti and so

FranC said:
You're not a red flag to me.
I'm not Catholic, although I do defend that Church because I know its doctrines and many don't.

You ARE still insulting Italians !!

What if I said to you:

"Most American men act nice and then after they get married they become abusive."
"I know many American men that are abusive."

How would that sound to you?
Not so nice, right?

I have an idea.
Take a trip to Italy !!

P.S.

All the women around here are Italian. (go figure)
I don't know a one that throws Forks and plates or anything else.
Italian couples tend to respect each other and like to have a pleasant life.
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FranC

FranC

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Tinuviel said:
Yeah, I don't know that you can make those generalizations. Abusiveness is an outgrowth of sin, and sin is universal. I happen to know that Demi did not mean it as a personal affront :)
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I didn't take it as a personal affront.
I know she wasn't saying that neither I nor my husband are abusive or throw dishes at each other.

General statements like that cannot be made.
Each person is different.
Each couple is different.

If I know two Americans that steal, that doesn't mean MOST or MANY Americans steal.
See?

There are 60 million persons living here.
Most means that over 30 million are abusive.
A statement like that is NEVER to be made.

If she had made a statement like that about a black person, we'd be jumping down her throat,
and you know I'm right.

NO GENERAL STATEMENTS ABOUT ANY RACE OF PEOPLE.
 
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Tinuviel

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FranC said:
I didn't take it as a personal affront.
I know she wasn't saying that neither I nor my husband are abusive or throw dishes at each other.

General statements like that cannot be made.
Each person is different.
Each couple is different.

If I know two Americans that steal, that doesn't mean MOST or MANY Americans steal.
See?

There are 60 million persons living here.
Most means that over 30 million are abusive.
A statement like that is NEVER to be made.

If she had made a statement like that about a black person, we'd be jumping down her throat,
and you know I'm right.

NO GENERAL STATEMENTS ABOUT ANY RACE OF PEOPLE.
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Yes, exactly what I said :). I'm happy you agree with me.
 
Demi777

Demi777

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Hey now Ive been together with a back man and most of my friends are refugees from Somalia,Iran and Syria. Dont you dare try to make me look like a racist

FranC said:
I didn't take it as a personal affront.
I know she wasn't saying that neither I nor my husband are abusive or throw dishes at each other.

General statements like that cannot be made.
Each person is different.
Each couple is different.

If I know two Americans that steal, that doesn't mean MOST or MANY Americans steal.
See?

There are 60 million persons living here.
Most means that over 30 million are abusive.
A statement like that is NEVER to be made.

If she had made a statement like that about a black person, we'd be jumping down her throat,
and you know I'm right.

NO GENERAL STATEMENTS ABOUT ANY RACE OF PEOPLE.
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Gracie_14

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i think i have two users on CC. has anyone heard of Gracie_1.? if you have…thats me. i forgot all about it so i created a new account. :$
so just to let you all know
 
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Tinuviel

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Gracie_14 said:
i think i have two users on CC. has anyone heard of Gracie_1.? if you have…thats me. i forgot all about it so i created a new account. :$
so just to let you all know
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Ok :). I was actually wondering about that...You seemed about the right age and all.
 
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missy2014

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zeroturbulence said:
Have you skyped with him? Videochat live with him. Then you'll know if he's really 19, and if he gives you excuses why he can't skype, then have him come into the chatrooms here and get on cam. If he still says he can't.... there's a good chance he's not who he says he is.
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yeh I learnt that the hard way a unregistered user turned out to be a mussi not a Christian says on his facebook nothing about being in the uSa and every time i asked his life in Usa he avoided the question and on facebook its says hes from oman and had this thing about do jews follow Jesus .
 
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Gracie_14

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missy2014 said:
yeh I learnt that the hard way a unregistered user turned out to be a mussi not a Christian says on his facebook nothing about being in the uSa and every time i asked his life in Usa he avoided the question and on facebook its says hes from oman and had this thing about do jews follow Jesus .
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hi missy,
im wondering…whats a mussi?
 
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missy2014

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all gud lol a muslim
 
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heartofdavid

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FranC said:
I just checked your profile page to make sure you're a guy.

Oh my. You mean MEN know about the mom thing too??

Are there no secrets left between men and women?
Must you guys know EVERYTHING??

;)
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Well,to be truthful,a woman told me that,but I have heard it from preachers also.

YWAM mission training tells students they can not be trained if they have resentments against parents.

So important to have parental respect.
 
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heartofdavid

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Gracie_14 said:
Thank you FranC... im glad someone here understand my hesitation. im just trying to do the right thing. i know i have to tell my parents but im trying to figure out a way how.
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What you do is,you tell them you need to talk.

They won't let on,but they will automatically assume something really,really bad.

So you sit with them and play out the drama. Just sit with head lowered and they will say "what is it,what is wrong?"

Only answer " it is kinda bad"...."are you guys in a good mood"

Let them suffer a little them blurt it out " I've been talking to a guy online for several months"

They will say " oh,thank God,we thought you were pregnant"

LOL
 
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Tinuviel

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heartofdavid said:
What you do is,you tell them you need to talk.

They won't let on,but they will automatically assume something really,really bad.

So you sit with them and play out the drama. Just sit with head lowered and they will say "what is it,what is wrong?"

Only answer " it is kinda bad"...."are you guys in a good mood"

Let them suffer a little them blurt it out " I've been talking to a guy online for several months"

They will say " oh,thank God,we thought you were pregnant"

LOL
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I'm really not sure this is all that's helpful. It feels like you're laughing at the OP.
 
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Gracie_14

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heartofdavid said:
What you do is,you tell them you need to talk.

They won't let on,but they will automatically assume something really,really bad.

So you sit with them and play out the drama. Just sit with head lowered and they will say "what is it,what is wrong?"

Only answer " it is kinda bad"...."are you guys in a good mood"

Let them suffer a little them blurt it out " I've been talking to a guy online for several months"

They will say " oh,thank God,we thought you were pregnant"

LOL
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haha, that's kinda funny! I think I should do that....but you do realize that might not be their response. I feel like I should wait for a yeaer or two then I’ll tell them. Right now, I have a feeling they’ll freak out because of my age.

btw, i forgot how to post a thread...how do you do it again?
 
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Tinuviel

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Gracie_14 said:
haha, that's kinda funny! I think I should do that....but you do realize that might not be their response. I feel like I should wait for a yeaer or two then I’ll tell them. Right now, I have a feeling they’ll freak out because of my age.

btw, i forgot how to post a thread...how do you do it again?
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Go to whatever forum you want to post it in; there is a blue "Post new thread" button on the left. Click that and that will bring up your new thread to be titled and typed in :)
 
FranC

FranC

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heartofdavid said:
What you do is,you tell them you need to talk.

They won't let on,but they will automatically assume something really,really bad.

So you sit with them and play out the drama. Just sit with head lowered and they will say "what is it,what is wrong?"

Only answer " it is kinda bad"...."are you guys in a good mood"

Let them suffer a little them blurt it out " I've been talking to a guy online for several months"

They will say " oh,thank God,we thought you were pregnant"

LOL
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LOL

Do you know the one about the mink coat?

Wife:. Oh darling, I was shopping today and saw the most beautiful mink coat!

Husband: it's out of the question!

Wife: But it was really nice and it only cost 4,000$.

Husband:. If you bought it you'll have to take it back..

Wife:. I know. We can't afford it right now...so I got this evening dress instead...and it only cost 1,000$!
 
FranC

FranC

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Tinuviel said:
I'm really not sure this is all that's helpful. It feels like you're laughing at the OP.
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He's not laughing at the o.p.

It'll work.

All of us here who are parents just know that this will work!
 
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heartofdavid

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FranC said:
He's not laughing at the o.p.

It'll work.

All of us here who are parents just know that this will work!
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In the end,it gets the light shining on the relationship. The relationship needs to be revealed to the parents.
 
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