age difference?

[Crypto]

Ok so I'm gonna ask this... I've been thinking about it for awhile but want some thoughts from you guys... Not sure if someone has asked this before but.........

Guys: would you date an older woman?

Girls: would you date a younger guy?

And do you think it's weird if the man is younger than the woman in the relationship? Why or why not?

 

[jangel]

Personally, I go for the older guy. It depends with the level of maturity , some older guys think younger on their age so they want a girl younger to them, the one who thinks older than their age wants older partners and since women mature faster than men so we usually see a girl marrying an older guy. But as they say when you are inlove... age doesn't matter.

 

[seoulsearch]

Hey Crypto,

Great topic. For myself, and everyone in the poor singles forum gets to hear about it, guys my dad's and grandpa's age are the ones who always try to talk to me, so personally, I would find dating a younger guy rather appealing.

One thing I've found though is that older guys tend to "talk down to me" because they feel they've experienced more in life and I guess, see ms as some sort of student who will supposedly benefit from all their wisdom (especially in spiritual matters), while younger guys are in a stage of not being so sure about who they are and where they're at in life, which is completely understandable, but it can be tough when you're at an age where you're starting to get established in life and the other person is just setting out on the journey. I wish I could find someone with a good balance of both side but I'm still looking.

I also have younger brothers, so this is probably another reason why I personally find it easier to talk to guys a little younger than myself at times... but it really depends. As far as how much younger... I'd say 5-8 years, although it would really depend on the person. I have a brother who was extremely responsible, cultured, and further ahead of the game than most guys twice his age so if I ever found someone like that, you can bet I'd at least keep an open mind.

However, the one thing that would concern me is that when I got a little older... he would change his mind choose to be with someone closer to his own age, or younger.

I am also personally at an age where I have to face the fact that God might not have it in His heart for me to have kids, and I would not want to rob someone of that dream if that's what he had in his heart. I've found that I make a much better support person anyway (I've been told I'm a very cool aunt )--I think I'd be stressed out over my head as a full-time mom, so my personal dream is transforming into finding a guy I can travel the world with and have as many adventures as possible, including possibly working in orphanages, since I'm adopted and this is something dear to my heart.

Great thread!

 

[zeroturbulence]

Hey Crypto,

Great topic. For myself, and everyone in the poor singles forum gets to hear about it, guys my dad's and grandpa's age are the ones who always try to talk to me, so personally, I would find dating a younger guy rather appealing.

Now that is no way to talk about your dad and grandpa!!

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Ok so I'm gonna ask this... I've been thinking about it for awhile but want some thoughts from you guys... Not sure if someone has asked this before but.........

Guys: would you date an older woman?

Girls: would you date a younger guy?

And do you think it's weird if the man is younger than the woman in the relationship? Why or why not?

Crypto, great post!

I would date a guy no younger than 26. Men are immature, and i find the younger they are the more they lie. I'm 27 so yeah i would only go one year younger.

I dont think its weird if the guy is younger in the relationship, however i do think its asking for trouble.

 

[Jennifleur]

I would personally rather date someone my age or older, simply because in most cases, the older you are, the more maturity you have (not true in all cases, though). However, if a guy younger than me had a level of maturity that I felt was at least similar to mine, and a deep love for Christ, I would consider dating him. Age isn't a deal-breaker for me. Besides, I know three couples who are madly in love and have the best marriages I've seen. One, the wife is 36 and her husband 32 (and they met when he was 20 and she was 24), another couple, the wife is 27 and her husband is 25, and the last couple the wife will be 31 in October and her husband just turned 29. So, I've seen many instances of where it has worked out quite well.

Regardless of which direction, it would be strange for me to date someone with a significant age difference (6+ years), because then it becomes less likely that you'll have a lot in common, or that you'll be in the same stage of life (if that makes sense). But, again, not in itself a deal-breaker. I think it depends more on the person rather than the age. I've met 26 year olds who are very mature, and others who remind me of the middle school boys in my youth group at church.

 

[sportygirl]

I dont know I've debated this in my head. At the age I am right now younger guys just seem so YOUNG...thers a kid thats two years younger and just graduated from high school that i think likes m e but I still see him as a little kid. A year younger I could probably handle if it was someone I truely cared for, but I guess I prefer older guys and the age limit on that for m eis like 7 or 8 years older tops. I do know my ex is dating a 24 year old girl while he is still 20...so people do do it, that situation I dont agree with though.

 

[Christianrkchk89]

I personally wouldn't date someone younger than me, unless it's a few days. Maybe down the road if I haven't found someone by then it'd be okay.. but seeing as how I'm 20.. a lot of the people younger than me are just graduating high school and moving onto college.. and those guys are in my opinion still working on maturing in many ways. ..anyway so as of now I'd prefer someone older.

 

[Christianrkchk89]

wow i didnt read all the replies haha and i said a lot of what sporty said.. haha

 

[penguingal]

I don't mind either, but as long as the gap is not too big. But it all goes down to the individual.

 

[ChristopherMichael]

In Math/geek circles, the rule is that the youngest person a man can date (without it being creepy) is equal to his age divided by two plus seven. You can discard the remainder, probably. That yields the following values.

18 - can date a 16 year old
24 - can date a 19 year old
32 - can date a 23 year old
36 - can date a 25 year old

The rule probably applies to females as well, but I haven't really ever seen it used that way. It's not based on any government laws or census statistics or anything, it just seems to work out pretty well.

 

[netinter]

hi everybody,
may i respond as a mother of a daughter 24 wants to date a boy just 20 years old this month.
i think its terrible. my daughter is an insecure girl, and last year a boy broke up with her.
this boy makes her feel very secure,but thats i think because she is much more mature then he is.

i hate it if this relationship continues.

 

[Crypto]

In Math/geek circles, the rule is that the youngest person a man can date (without it being creepy) is equal to his age divided by two plus seven. You can discard the remainder, probably. That yields the following values.

18 - can date a 16 year old
24 - can date a 19 year old
32 - can date a 23 year old
36 - can date a 25 year old

The rule probably applies to females as well, but I haven't really ever seen it used that way. It's not based on any government laws or census statistics or anything, it just seems to work out pretty well.

That's great!! And it really works out well I think.. lol

 

[Dread_Zeppelin]

I would never date a man younger than me unless it's a very special circumstance. Immaturity is such a turn off I can't stand it.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I would never date a man younger than me unless it's a very special circumstance. Immaturity is such a turn off I can't stand it.

I want to give a two thumbs up to this statement

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

p.s. Dread your picture is to cute!

 

[Matthew]

I would never date a man younger than me unless it's a very special circumstance. Immaturity is such a turn off I can't stand it.

What would be a special circumstance?

Just curious.

 

[ChristopherMichael]

... But, again, not in itself a deal-breaker. I think it depends more on the person rather than the age. I've met 26 year olds who are very mature, and others who remind me of the middle school boys in my youth group at church.

And how!

- Topher

 

[Dread_Zeppelin]

p.s. Dread your picture is to cute!

Why thank you! I only let my left side be photographed and always on a wednesday. I also spray down my face with pure mineral water to get rid of any toxins that could show up on the camera.

To answer the question of what a special circumstance would be it would mean the boy would have to be very mature for his age. That's pretty much it. I've been through too much in my life...if the only life experience that boy had was grades in school and peer pressure they're definately not going to relate to me on any level.

 

[Sharp]

I would never date a man younger than me unless it's a very special circumstance. Immaturity is such a turn off I can't stand it.

I'm sure I've seen you post somewhere that you would date a guy any age, and Nod, I'm sure I've seen you post somewhere that you think younger guys have it together more. Have you both changed your mind? Young guys are out of flavour all of a sudden...