The problem with society nowadays is that almost 90% of all divorces happen because of the wife's choosing. There can be any number of reasons WHY, but the wife is almost ALWAYS the one who wants to break off the marriage. The husband could have cheated, or beaten her, or any number of things that would justify it, but that is just a small point. There are quite a few times that the wife just gets bored and sees other men, and she wants her cake and eat it too. People nowadays just do not respect the act of marriage as a covenant for life. Wives are usually the ones that cheat nowadays anyway. There are quite a bit of cases that the wife finds herself a new lover and divorces her old husband, in which case the husband also loses half of all he owns. Women who do that are frankly quite evil with all the power they are given in today's society to get away with things like this. You don't see the husband getting cheated on and him getting half of everything SHE owns. You see the opposite mostly. This is why I just cannot respect women who divorce their husbands, despite the reasoning. Unless he severely beats you and/or cheats and he only started doing far AFTER you married him, you should never divorce your husband. It is wrong and I hope God punishes you to the fullest extent of His wrath. The real reasoning I say this is because almost everyone truly knows how a person is going to be BEFORE you marry them. If you live with a person just for a couple months, you will know exactly who they will be in the future. If he beat you before you got married, you never should have agreed to marry him afterword. To marry him and then cite abuse as a reasoning if there was prior abuse is strictly your own fault, and I believe you are in the wrong for ever joining into that marriage. You should stay with him and try your best to get him to stop through whatever means you have, and divorce should be the very very very last option. Cheating is obviously a reason to divorce someone, but if they did it before you married, I think the same things apply. If the person did it before you marry, then you already knew better once you agreed to marry them. Promises are never kept by humans when they did things in the past. Once a cheater always a cheater. Once an abuser, always an abuser. My thought is, divorce should always be a last option, ESPECIALLY if the person you marry did it prior to your marriage. You should always know the person you are marrying far before you marry them. This is why I cannot understand why people have shotgun weddings after meeting someone after only 3 months. That is a divorce waiting to happen.
This is just my opinion, but abuse and/or cheating is the only reason I could ever see divorce as a viable option, and only after every other option has been exhausted. Falling out of love is NOT a legitimate excuse to divorce your husband/wife. You chose to marry that person for better or for worse, sickness and health. This means you should stay with that person EVEN if you fall out of love with them for whatever reason if it wasn't because of cheating/physical abuse. Emotional abuse is also not even close to the same thing. Counseling is there for a reason, and if you cannot communicate properly with your spouse, there was a problem far before you got married. You made the choice to be with someone for the rest of your life, so you should own up to it.
So once again, WOMEN I am talking mainly to you, but men also. I just know statistics on this issue is mainly that WOMEN initiate 90% of divorces. You all know you have the power to take everything a man has and to ruin his life, and so you should use that power with great care. Emotional abuse is not abuse enough to divorce. You should communicate and fix that. Physical abuse is completely different and acceptable to end things, but even then you should do your best to alleviate that type of behavior before you choose divorce. Cheating is the one thing I will say could be an immediate cause for divorce, and that is only because the Bible says it is so. The bible doesn't mention abuse as a rightful reason to break off a marriage, and so you should never have chosen to marry someone who would hit you in the first place. All that being said, once again... if that person had prior behavior... you have no one to blame but yourself for choosing to marry them. I will not feel bad for you at that point, because you chose an abusive partner who you knew would continue deep down, and you could have chosen plenty of other men in the world. Perhaps they weren't as rich, good looking, or the "alpha" male you were once looking for, but they would've been better for you in the long run. You choose your life and your fate with a "yes" when your spouse asks you to marry them. Own up to it and grow up is my thought.
If this pisses you off... well go ahead and be mad. If your spouse never cheated or physically abused you and you divorce, I sincerely hope you stay single for the rest of your life. You probably ruined your husband's life by choosing to divorce him when he gave everything he had (even if he didn't have much) to you, and so you do not deserve to remarry. You should have stuck with your life changing decision in the first place, and you should definitely not be taking half of all he has in the process. It is wrong and I sincerely HATE divorce. I do not like when people marry too soon or too young, because those are the type of people that don't take marriage seriously for what it really is.
I'm sorry if this is abrasive, but the divorce rate at this time period is at an all time high in the history of the world. Honestly, ever since the women's sexual revolution and feminism took charge to the point where women believe they are "better" than men now (I don't mean their right to vote or get jobs, but their idea that men are all pigs and women are the Queens of the world type feminism), the world has been riddled with divorce. It ruins spouse's, your children's, and your family's lives. It is probably the most selfish thing on earth to divorce someone simply because you do not love them anymore. Once you make a choice to marry, you should do all that is in your power as a human and as a christian to keep that marriage going with God as the head of it. Aside from actual cheating/physical abuse, I really don't see any reason to ever divorce.