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Yes it does still happen in some remote parts of our universe!!!! Saw a documentary only a few months back where a particular culture still practices exchange of daughter for cattle ........it was this guy who already had 3 wives.....and the 4th had no idea what had dad had 'sold' her into.....poor girl was devastated...and the other wives had her for breakfast...they were soooo mean!!!
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And Proverbs 18:22 says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." When I was in university my roommate told me she was a Christian but she had a boyfriend. Since I had just freshly read I Kissed Dating Goodbye and ditched my boyfriend partly because I thought that's what God wanted me to do because of what I read, I immidiately questioned her wisdom for having a boyfriend. Well, turns out I was wrong to jump to conclusions just because I'd read the book that ignited the dating debate. Her boyfriend was one of the most passionate Christians I'd ever met. He wore a leather jacket that said "Real men love Jesus." In January he e-mailed me and asked me and my other roommates if I'd help him plan her surprise proposal. When he showed up he was wearing a shirt that said "Shannon will you marry me?" and on the back it had Proverbs 18:22. He said that another translation (NLT) used the word "treasure." He's now a pastor and just before Shannon's last year of university they got married and now have two little girls. Cool, hey?
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I think it's pretty easy to hear one person's interpretation of the Bible and think that's what the Bible is actually saying, especially when that interpretation lines up with the rest of scripture. There's one interpretation of the Bible that I totally used to take for granted as truth. I have it hear in front of me in a Joshua Harris book. But on Friday I was listening to a podcast and heard a very different interpretation of that same passage, one with a much stronger scriptural arguement. I mean it doesn't really matter in that whichever is the author (of that book of the Bible) actually meant to say since it doesn't really have a different implication on our lives. I'll put that on a Bible disccusion thread sometime. But it's kind of like in I Kissed Dating Goodbye. When I first read that when I was 17 or 18, the scriptural arguements were so strong I took for granted that everything he said was right. While I wouldn't say that he said anything incorrect (in fact the wisdom that coming out of a then 21 year old is nothing short of amazing) that doesn't mean that there aren't other Biblically sound points of view to consider. I've never read God is Your Matchmaker cover to cover, but I can't say for sure that I've never had my hands on it. I've read at least 7 books for Christian singles, cover to cover, then I've skimmed over at least another 5 and then when I'm in Christian bookstores I always look at the tables of contents of any books for singles or about dating or finding "the one," in order to get a general sense of where they're coming from.
So what I'm saying is this:
1.It's good that you're reading a book, but it's also important to make the distinction between a good interpretation of the Bible and the Bible itself. If God is Your Matchmaker is not advocating a modern marriage as opposed to an Old Testament arranged marriage (as I assume it is, since nobody advocates the latter) then you can safely say it's an interpretation.
2. It's important to seek out other scripturally based arguements on this subject. As you can imagine there are some titles I can recommend.
3. You should take the author's personal and professional experience into account as well as their education on the Bible and on relationships or whatever, as well as who reviewed the book before publishing. The worst book I read on this subject was by someone with no experience and her misinterpretations were very, very basic. She also didn't credit anyone for reviewing her manuscript.
4. It's VERY important not to defend an interpreation as if it were the Bible itself (although when we hear a good interpretation it can be hard to tell the difference. I think we all have that problem.)
So what I'm saying is this:
1.It's good that you're reading a book, but it's also important to make the distinction between a good interpretation of the Bible and the Bible itself. If God is Your Matchmaker is not advocating a modern marriage as opposed to an Old Testament arranged marriage (as I assume it is, since nobody advocates the latter) then you can safely say it's an interpretation.
2. It's important to seek out other scripturally based arguements on this subject. As you can imagine there are some titles I can recommend.
3. You should take the author's personal and professional experience into account as well as their education on the Bible and on relationships or whatever, as well as who reviewed the book before publishing. The worst book I read on this subject was by someone with no experience and her misinterpretations were very, very basic. She also didn't credit anyone for reviewing her manuscript.
4. It's VERY important not to defend an interpreation as if it were the Bible itself (although when we hear a good interpretation it can be hard to tell the difference. I think we all have that problem.)
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I'd say pray for God's will for you, you're still young and um, like the Bible says in Matthew 6:33 " Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you ( including a beautiful, God-fearing wife 
)" Don't think about it too much. She'll come when you least expect it. Wait on God. Afterall, God rewards to those who wait.
)" Don't think about it too much. She'll come when you least expect it. Wait on God. Afterall, God rewards to those who wait.
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1. Take your time ... your still young !!
2. If someone is out there the Lord will guide you to her !!
3. There is always someone out there for someone ...
4. Pray about it ...
5. I too will be praying for you that you can find someone ...
6. Earn some money & get a good head start before jumping right into marriage. As it's a big step & responsiblity too.
But one important note is that ... This is not a dating site & it's a good Christian Site. But, there are plenty of good online Christian Dating Sites so try looking some up ... Good luck in your search !!
