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roxxyroller said:
First my daddy died last year, 2 days after his 87th Birthday. I am the youngest of 6, so I was daddy's girl. Well, I am mommy's girl too lol .. she is 83 and the most amazing mom in the world ... love her so much.
So my dads death ripped me apart. 3 and a half months later I left my ex husband.

In the process of divorce right now, and boy is that stressful!! I have been dating a lot, but to no guy who is Christian.
Help!!!!!! lol
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Sounds to me like you are in a path of rebellion and self destruction.
You're still married, technically, yet already dating. Non-Christian men at that. Which, what purpose could that serve you? Divorce requires healing. Even if the divorce is for your benefit it still requires healing. And healing doesn't happen before the divorce is finalized. It can take a few years.
If I had to Guess I'd say you're angry, possibly resentful towards God, and engaging in behavior to piss Him off. At the same time keeping so busy you don't have time to sit down and deal with things, but hide from them.
Your life, by the choices you're making, strikes me as a chaotic whirlwind that you keep going.
Advice? Stop running. Stop rebelling. Stop the chaos. Settle down, focus, deal, confront and that will bring healing and peace and resolve the resentment.
 
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Ugly said:
Sounds to me like you are in a path of rebellion and self destruction.
You're still married, technically, yet already dating. Non-Christian men at that. Which, what purpose could that serve you? Divorce requires healing. Even if the divorce is for your benefit it still requires healing. And healing doesn't happen before the divorce is finalized. It can take a few years.
If I had to Guess I'd say you're angry, possibly resentful towards God, and engaging in behavior to piss Him off. At the same time keeping so busy you don't have time to sit down and deal with things, but hide from them.
Your life, by the choices you're making, strikes me as a chaotic whirlwind that you keep going.
Advice? Stop running. Stop rebelling. Stop the chaos. Settle down, focus, deal, confront and that will bring healing and peace and resolve the resentment.
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Wow! I didn't know that there was a marriage counsellor here. You do not know me even an oz, so I don't need your advice. But thanks for trying.

Matthew 7:1-6New International Version (NIV)Judging Others

*“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3*“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?*4*How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?*5*You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

6*“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
 
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Ugly states: "Divorce requires healing. Even if the divorce is for your benefit it still requires healing. And healing doesn't happen before the divorce is finalized. It can take a few years."

And how do u know how long it takes? Again, instead of giving me your opinions or advice, why don't you feel free to meddle in someone elses life? You are not holier than thou, Sir Ugly.
 
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I’m in agreement to an extent with Ugly although I perhaps would have worded it differently. I’m going through a nightmare year having separated from my wife and have come to realise after months of chaos that I simply need to stop running, stop rebelling, settle down, focus, confront and most of all, be obedient. It’s very hard but leads to a new walk with God, Ive simply surrendered my all to him and it’s given me peace. I pray the same for you Roxxy. I’m 48 with 3 young kids and being apart from them and my wife is horrible but I have to believe a God has a plan, He does for you too but I doubt that it involves a non-Christian man.
 
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Instead of making me look and feel like a heel .. you can pray for me instead. I am far from perfect .. and I never pretend to be.
 
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Righto, that’s me off this site. I thought I’d signed up to a supportive Christian fellowship. I’ll pray for you though, willingly, you can be sure of that.
 
Lynx

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First: roxyroller, please be welcome to the christianchat.com forum. There are some good people left on this forum, I swear there are. For the others, well there's this Ignore button. When you learn which people to ignore, life gets a lot better.

Second: THIS is why some of the best people who used to hang out here stopped coming around. (Not ALL of them - some of them had real life things that cropped up, despite my repeated warnings that getting a life would interfere with important stuff like christianchat...) Some very good people no longer come here because this christian bullying is what they can expect these days.

Thanks a lot preacher4truth. Way to drive people away. That's sure going to be effective. :mad: In the meantime you and your ilk have chased off most of the people who once made this forum a great place to be, just because they didn't want to be berated any more. And some others are thinking of leaving for the same reason.
 
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Thanks a lot preacher4truth.
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You're quite welcome!

Way to drive people away. That's sure going to be effective. In the meantime you and your ilk have chased off most of the people who once made this forum a great place to be, just because they didn't want to be berated any more. And some others are thinking of leaving for the same reason.
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Hey, I just wanted you to be aware, that yes, I do see your posts wherein you dog my steps from thread to thread to make your little callow remarks. People like you chase others away from forums by your behavior - me? For the most part I just simply ignore your callow behavior and compromising of biblical truth for the sake of popularity. Or something. :D

Dating others while being married? That would be called sin, and I'd say the same to any person in church as well, claiming to name the name of Christ, note 2 Timothy 2:19.

Don't like my biblical stance? Feel free to put me on ignore.

And for the record, no one has left this site due to me, that's simply untrue. Also, Ugly nailed it with his response. Did you take note? It was wonderfully direct!

Thank God for those who stand on truth. :)
 
Lynx

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preacher4truth: Who's dogging your steps? This is the first time I've said anything to you in multiple months!

In the meantime, please stop chasing people away before they even have a chance to find out there are actually friendly people here.
 
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roxxyroller said:
Instead of making me look and feel like a heel .. you can pray for me instead. I am far from perfect .. and I never pretend to be.
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No one is trying to make you feel like a heel, and by your initial post you haven't exactly helped your cause to defend yourself from scrutiny.

This is a Christian site, which means some of us have a Biblical stance, some of us walk with God, some of us believe in Scripture and its stance and expectations that those who are saved are sanctified, Hebrews 12:14 which without this it would mean the person has a false profession. Some of us then react biblically to your situation.

You should have expected a biblical response on a biblical forum. This type of response is not judging, as you have misused Matthew 7 as a cloak for your behavior, as if no one can say anything about it, or "they're judging!!" That is not the point of the text and doesn't fit into the balance of Scripture on this issue, 2 Timothy 2:15.

My prayer is you get your walk right with God. What you're doing is not virtuous and isn't representing Christ at all. Your need is Him above all else. You've come to the right place if you'd have ears to hear. Or, you can seek to have your ears scratched.
 
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preacher4truth: Who's dogging your steps? This is the first time I've said anything to you in multiple months!
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Actually what you've just said is untrue. You've done the same thing recently in another thread. But at least now you make it known this behavior of yours has gone on for months. Thank you for your admittance to this at least.

Feel free to put me on ignore while I maintain a Biblical stance that you cannot handle.
 
Lynx

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And yet another thread is ruined. This guy never quits until he has the last word.

Sorry roxy, your thread has been preempted by preacher4truth so he can yell at people. Please feel free to join us in one of the other threads, already in progress.

In the meantime we must abandon this thread so preacher4truth can get in the last word and feel all righteous and vindicated and stuff.
 
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roxxyroller said:
First my daddy died last year, 2 days after his 87th Birthday. I am the youngest of 6, so I was daddy's girl. Well, I am mommy's girl too lol .. she is 83 and the most amazing mom in the world ... love her so much.
So my dads death ripped me apart. 3 and a half months later I left my ex husband.

In the process of divorce right now, and boy is that stressful!! I have been dating a lot, but to no guy who is Christian.
Help!!!!!! lol
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We'll keep you in prayer. Tough seasons sometimes.
 
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Hey roxxyroller,
I hope you don't mind me adding to the convo:

From experience I know you may be feeling lonely or enjoying the attention your getting from men, but I hope you can hold of on dating until your divorce is final. Spend time in the word and in prayer.

May God bless you and surround you in his love, peace and joy!
 
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Lynx said:
First: roxyroller, please be welcome to the christianchat.com forum. There are some good people left on this forum, I swear there are. For the others, well there's this Ignore button. When you learn which people to ignore, life gets a lot better.

Second: THIS is why some of the best people who used to hang out here stopped coming around. (Not ALL of them - some of them had real life things that cropped up, despite my repeated warnings that getting a life would interfere with important stuff like christianchat...) Some very good people no longer come here because this christian bullying is what they can expect these days.

Thanks a lot preacher4truth. Way to drive people away. That's sure going to be effective. :mad: In the meantime you and your ilk have chased off most of the people who once made this forum a great place to be, just because they didn't want to be berated any more. And some others are thinking of leaving for the same reason.
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Yes, Lynx! I surely do remember when all of that went on and why so many took off from here. Since a lot of them took off .. I managed to stay away too. So many love to stir the pot.
I pay to be on this site. Can the crap disturbers say the same?
 
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Who else here donates to ChristianChat to keep this place up and running? I paid for a years membership. Anyone else??
 
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Ugly

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roxxyroller said:
Wow! I didn't know that there was a marriage counsellor here. You do not know me even an oz, so I don't need your advice. But thanks for trying.

Matthew 7:1-6New International Version (NIV)Judging Others

*“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3*“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?*4*How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?*5*You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

6*“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
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I guess when you said "help!!!!" after explaining everything I thought you meant it. I guess not. But responding so poorly to someone with an attempt to help, rather than talking silly, idle crap like everyone else only serves to reinforce my thoughts. But you are welcome to be defensive rather than appreciative. I'll carry on the same. You're the one affected by your actions, not me. But I will keep in mind that you prefer to wallow in bad choices and reject sincere attempts to help. For the future.

Also I never offered marriage counseling. So not sure where that came from. Carry on with the great choices you're making. My only request is don't ask for help if you're going to attack those that try to help. Or maybe that's part of those great decisions you're making.
Take care. (=
 
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roxxyroller said:
Yes, Lynx! I surely do remember when all of that went on and why so many took off from here. Since a lot of them took off .. I managed to stay away too. So many love to stir the pot.
I pay to be on this site. Can the crap disturbers say the same?
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Wow.......those who stand for biblical standards = crap disturbers.

Not unbelievable. :(
 
roxxyroller

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I guess when you said "help!!!!" after explaining everything I thought you meant it. I guess not. But responding so poorly to someone with an attempt to help, rather than talking silly, idle crap like everyone else only serves to reinforce my thoughts. But you are welcome to be defensive rather than appreciative. I'll carry on the same. You're the one affected by your actions, not me. But I will keep in mind that you prefer to wallow in bad choices and reject sincere attempts to help. For the future.

Also I never offered marriage counseling. So not sure where that came from. Carry on with the great choices you're making. My only request is don't ask for help if you're going to attack those that try to help. Or maybe that's part of those great decisions you're making.
Take care. (=
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It mostly was in regards to "help! I'm an idiot" .. but as usual .. ppl choose to make u look like a complete ass to try and play themselves as being perfect.
Ya know what? The past few months I have cried endlessly .. and talked myself out of my many suicidal thoughts. The best place I should be I thought, was here on CC. Wow was I stupid for even thinking such a thing! If I had known that by coming back here I would be put down by so many other "so called Christians" .. this is the last place I would have came. But why not? I was just abused by my husband for the last 11 years .. so whats are few more by you perfect men?
 
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