17 with 11month old brother

[Kelseybear]

Before I start love my baby brother "Mouse" with all my heart!

The other night we all when out to eat.My mom and dad where both still eating so
I told them I would clean him up for them (something I would do at home.)So I took him in the bathroom and started cleaning him up.when an elderly woman walked in and started saying I was to young for a kid and asked if I was married. She didn't even stop for an answer!She kept going saying stuff about God and how I need to repent from my sins.I just kept on dressing Mouse.I just grabbed his bag and him and walked out.I knew if I would have said anything it would not have been nice or even something God would have liked to hear come out of my mouth.

That was not the 1st time someone has said something but that was just to much.I would love to hear what you all have to say!May your walk with God be sweet.

 

[nanabean]

Hi Kelseybear......I am so sorry this happened to you. I find this to be rude behavior. All I can think is just forgive her her ignorance. Maybe in some way she thought she might be doing you some good?? I don't know...but my best advice would be to let go of it, because to let it upset you does no good. The problem is hers, not yours, and unfortunatly the real problem is her lack of compassion for someone who she thinks is a very young mother. As it stands I am glad "Mouse" has a loving sister and your parents have a helpful daugther!!

 

[Rissa77]

My friend Gaby had this problem until she got married and had her own kid.
She was 18 and her mom had a brand new baby.
She was 19 and her mom had another brand new baby.
She is 20 and now has her own baby.
But babysitting was awkward in public before the marriage.

So she carried herself in confidence and was a great big sister, and when people made comments, she would smile and tell them the truth. She didn't worry about what others thought.

I have a 2 yr old niece and within the group of me, her, my sister (her mother) and grandma, guess who looks like the mommy? ME. And I look even younger than you. I get told all the time I look 14 or 15.
I sense the awkwardness coming. You probably sensed it right before the woman opened her mouth. And I found a little, easy trick to divert the attention. I talk to my niece with comments like, "Let's go find mommy!" or "Go show mommy your new ___" or "OH! Mommy will be so proud!"
Or when I get comments like "Oh she's so cute!" I talk about her mom or show her mom to them. "She gets her great looks from her mommy over there!"

You could also say "My brother and I look alike, don't we?" when they make the cute comments.

I hope this helps. God bless!

 

[quidni]

I sense the awkwardness coming. You probably sensed it right before the woman opened her mouth. And I found a little, easy trick to divert the attention. I talk to my niece with comments like, "Let's go find mommy!" or "Go show mommy your new ___" or "OH! Mommy will be so proud!"
Or when I get comments like "Oh she's so cute!" I talk about her mom or show her mom to them. "She gets her great looks from her mommy over there!"

You could also say "My brother and I look alike, don't we?" when they make the cute comments.

I hope this helps. God bless!

Great deflection!

 

[Crypto]

A few years ago my best friend was dating a girl with some young kids, and she worked alot, so I would help him watch the kids, and one day he and I went to the mall with the kids, and we went into JC Penney.. and we got a ton of weird looks looking at clothes and other household items.. I think they thought we were gay lovers or something... not sure. Kinda funny to look back at now.

 

[lightbliss]

Hi, I have an 11 month old brother as well and I'm his "official" babysitter (albeit my sister, 16, will soon be "taking over").

Most if the time we're at home but whenever we do venture elsewhere, I don't get strange or disapproving looks (mostly because in my area, having a baby at 12-17 is "average" so it's expected and not a surprise).

But no one has ever come up to me and basically cursed me to Hell for "having" a baby.

If they do come up, it's to ask about him "He's so cute. How old is he? Is he your baby?" To which I reply, "Oh he's my brother." Then they say, "I see it."

I guess some people can also tell that I'm not his mom because of my aura, IDK.

Just take it as this: you're such a good sister, that people can't distinguish you from being his "mom."

God Bless

 

[Kelseybear]

Thank you all so much!!Around were I live people know Mouse.But
when we go shopping or to places out of Harrah or Choctaw.People are
quick to think and don't ask questions.
May your walks with God be blessed

 

[Kat50LovesJesus]

Hi Kelseybear,
I'm not making light but rather praying for that woman-Can't see much Love there (The same thing I saw in the chat room the other day-Someone saying can't have A God of Love only-without Judgement (Wrath). Just seems it's hard to have both but I'll tell you something I've learned-Love trumps everytime...everytime...and possibly she didn't have a good experience...so we pray for her. And I'm trying to learn how to write without so many ( ...) I just love them (...) Hahaha

I saw your post and just couldn't help myself...I haven't written the testimony yet about it all but........Hahaha.........try being on the other end of the age scale....WAY OVER...on the other end....and what people say to me!!!

Having had my one and only child...and yes I really did have her at 44 years of age. And yes again...I have also asked God many questions...Hahaha...and now that I'm really getting older...oh dear...Oh, believe me it has taken practice-you should have seen me the first time it happened...

"Oh I just bet Grandma has the best time!!!"

"Oh Grandma this and Grandma that..."I haven't dyed my hair in a long time and it is a beautful silver grey so I can understand someone thinking that I am her Grandma...and lately have gained up some weight too...anyway...I have started answering the question before it is even asked...and then go into Abraham and Sarah...and God...They don't have a chance anymore...Done with Love of course...and The Word just slips in there ya know...Oh I forgot this part...She is less than a month from turning 7 and knows more Bible Verses than I do...We Christian Homeschool...Uhhh...seems like God has a plan for her life!!! Because she is getting covered from head to toe...(God did a number on me when I finally cried out for Him to save me...not raised Christian at all-so I now know the importance of it all...

 

[Kelseybear]

Thank you for the help Kat,
This was the 1st post I have got to read that has brong me to tears ( not jokeing) lol.Your daughter is very lucky to have a mother like you.My dad is 53 and some people give him a hard time. Mouse has blessed my family in so many ways the biggest being my dad stopped smoking (Yay!!).I love spending time with him and it's great practice.
My friends say it's great birth control (most of my friends are 18-45) I agree.If more teen girls look after a little one like I do I think there would be a lot less teen moms (it hard work)
Your right this (....) are funn lol
Well thank you again Kat.

Oh they were good tears
When your daughter is saying her verses look at her face and her eyes I help at Chuch in her age group and I
swear there faces light up

 

[Kat50LovesJesus]

Whew...Kelsey...O girl...I bet you are the best big sister Mouse could ever hope for. And your parents are blessed to have you as their daughter. Sounds to me like God knew exactly what He was doing. Like your dad, my husband and I both stopped smoking which is just such a good thing to do I found out...Hahaha...I know exactly what you mean about IF young girls knew the truth about raising a child...and exactly what it takes...there wouldn't be near as many unplanned pregnancies...I've done just about everything the wrong way. It's just not worth it-doing things out of order-My life was a mess-God wants to bless things-I found out though I couldn't do it how I wanted to...it had to be done in the right order. God's turned everything around now. It's so worth it to have HIM first in our lives. Oh and you are so right!!! Look at our own eyes after we think about God and His Goodness or read His Word...I have just looked at Nikki's eyes...We read our (we are reading the Whole Bible in a year, Hahaha, going to try and get through it sooner though) Bible this morning, then she just wants to act up-aggravate me to no end-then I had her read something that she has memorized before-part of Psalm 34-so her eyes when she started were kinda dull. Then when she had finshed reading all of Psalm 34...her eyes were bright and ALIVE!!! I see it...God's Word is life to us...It does change us from the inside out!!! What a testimony, Kelseybear...little children...the window to their soul brightens when they see, say or are around God!!! Oh dear me...I love Our Lord...The Name Above All Names...Jesus

 

[asamanthinketh]

Well it doesnt' sound like you were hurt, bothered by this elderly woman.

Maybe she is just frustrated with life after so many years.

Did you feel convicted to change something about yourself, and she doesn't really know you.

Trust your parents, and how can you be such a badie if you are taking care of a baby.

 

[tryingtofindhim]

Wow that is quite rude. I don't know how you feel at all, but I will say this just forgive and move on. Sometimes its good just to shoot up a silent prayer for them cause we never know what someones going through.