Kids still at home help
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Tell her that if she had been more careful during sex, then she wouldn't be pregnant now and relying on you to help her out. As far as how to raise her siblings, tell her YOU'RE the mom, and that she needs to learn how to be a mother to her own baby...
so ask yourself are you upset because someone is trying to tell you what to do or is she just plain wrong? in what way is she trying to correct you? just because you're the MOM as some people like to say it doesn't make you right and just because she wasn't careful during sex...whate
I wish we would all say oh he's our FATHER so let's listen to God, but I guess it only works with I'm the MOM so listen to me right?
Tell her when she can provide for herself and for her baby without your help then maybe you'll think about listening to her and if she doesn't like the way things are in your house, then let that be her Incentive to move out but until then be happy she has a roof over her head
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kaylagrl
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She's 19,she's an adult and can do as she likes. Why is she still living at home? Where is her father? And where is the guy who got her pregnant? Is he taking any responsibility?! All valid questions.
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kaylagrl
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No good to shut the barn door once the horse is out. The question is where do they go from here?
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Mom solved that problem easily. I clearly understood if I got pregnant that's my problem. She would help me move my furniture out to my own place. She would still be Mom. And she would enjoy being grandmom too. But me? I got myself into this, so up to me to deal with it -- get my own place, job, take care of the baby, the whole 10 yards.
It worked.
You're daughter is 19. This isn't your problem. It's hers. Time for both of you to grow up. A baby is coming.
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Really? You think the parents are responsible for birth control? Nope. Parents are responsible for teaching the kids the responsibilities for their actions. If you want birth control, buy it yourself. If you're old enough for sex, you're old enough to pay for it yourself.
All the way too, considering birth control isn't flawless.
Where they should have been in the first place...they need to go to God.
Looking more and more like a troll thread. One post and done.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
Hi P38,
I am thinking if i was your child's mom... Some parents can seem too harsh, others can be too accommodating, but there are many cultural differences here, you see. Here single children are still most welcome in their parents' home, unless they choose to live separately, or have reason to be turned away from the home.
Ive heard others say the grown up child has no place in your home... at the same time some teens (she is still a teen, right), are not as matured as others are, and if left to herself or cope without significant others' guidance, may turn to the wrong people and get worse advise or 'help.' Whether you allow her to stay with you for a time or let her find her place, i think she should understand that you are in fact doing her service by accepting her while she is waiting for her delivery, and whether she is married or not (you didnt say), ask abt her/their plans and go from there. She should understand, of course, that raising her sibs is not her priority now, unless she just wants to share some of her thoughts and feelings abt how she sees your situation was/is with her.
God bless you as you find ways to talk and find the best answers for this.
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kaylagrl
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excuse me she was living on her own at the time how is it my fault I can't make her decisions for her she is legally of age to make her own and this was never about her being pregnant it was about her trying to tell me how to raise her siblings also you call yourself a believer yet you want to interfere with Gods will betaking hormones the baby is not a mistake he is Gods will for her life shame on you
There is a lot more information needed to adequately help in my opinion.
What are her criticisms of you parenting your other children?
We can start with that question for now and continue as we go along.
