Purity Poll

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Which is most important to you?

  • Remaining a Virgin forever...

    Votes: 2 7.4%

  • Remaining a Virgin untill married to a virgin...

    Votes: 7 25.9%

  • Remaining a Virgin untill marriage...

    Votes: 17 63.0%

  • Marriage/Sex is OK as long as you love each other...

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Marriage/Sex is OK as long as you are both repentant...

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Marriage/Sex is OK no matter what...

    Votes: 1 3.7%
  • Total voters
    27
  • Poll closed .
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ioogy

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Alrighty ladies and gentlemen... let noone be ashamed.

We've all made bad choices, so share some tips for those who might not have...
 
Not sure the poll makes sense. Are you meaning sex inside of marriage when you type marriage/sex OR do you mean sex outside of marriage?
 
Okay well this is never easy for me but yeah I'll be the 1st to
say, that purity isn't just virginity.it's in your heart,mind and soul.
When you have sex it is not just of the body it's all your heart,mind and most of all
your soul.there is nothing more painful than the feeling of going against God's wishes.

Sister I would love to know why you started this poll. You can message me or answer it on here.
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I only have a problem with the last three choices... I think you would've gotten your point across better if you just left the marriage bit out of those ones...

sorry to criticize...
 
panda_girl said:
I only have a problem with the last three choices... I think you would've gotten your point across better if you just left the marriage bit out of those ones...

sorry to criticize...
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hehe, when we have to apologize for criticism, it loses its purpose, which is to be useful.

Yea i coulduve said just sex or just marriage, and yea it would have made a point more clearly, but i wanted to show how so many today dont connect to the two, and truly, does not the Bible speak of sex being the joining of two people into one? and is marriage not simply the social recognition of that act? indeed, i think people have sex and marry for the same reasons, and the choices signify that.
 
For me, purity is important, and it is something my mother talked to me about early on. That being said, there is a lot of pressure to do things today that we know we shouldn't, and many teens fall into this trap. We all do things when we're younger that we regret, but that we cannot take back. Thankfully, God forgives and provides us a measure of mercy and grace that we do not deserve. And, I understand that it's possible and even likely that when I do find someone who asks me to marry him, that he will not be a virgin. But, the question I will have for him will be, why is he not a virgin? If it's because he made a mistake and fell into temptation, or because he was not a believer at the time he had sex, then I can be understanding about that. But, if it's because he doesn't feel it's important to wait, that shows a fundamental difference in the values that we hold, and I don't think I could look past that. It would lead me to a whole host of other questions about where he stands on certain issues, and I'm not sure I'd like the answers he would give.

Each situation is truly different. But it is important for me to wait until I am married. I've known people who haven't, and they deeply regret it. I don't want to have that regret.
 
I know you're spose to save yourself 'til marriage, but my own feelings on the subject is as long as both people are truly in love with each other, and're so much in love that they choose to get married in the future, then it's okay. THAT'S MY OWN RULE, I know you're supposed to wait 'til marriage though.
 
bobbyroylee said:
I know you're spose to save yourself 'til marriage, but my own feelings on the subject is as long as both people are truly in love with each other, and're so much in love that they choose to get married in the future, then it's okay. THAT'S MY OWN RULE, I know you're supposed to wait 'til marriage though.
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define "love."

If you know someone is supposed to wait until marriage, why would you create a rule contrary to this known fact? That would be like me saying "I know murder is illegal, but my rule is that if I really dislike the person I can kill the person." It may be my personal "rule," but it doesn't negate the fact that murder is still illegal, and that what I am doing is illegal and wrong and morally reprehensible.
 
lil-rush said:
define "love."

If you know someone is supposed to wait until marriage, why would you create a rule contrary to this known fact? That would be like me saying "I know murder is illegal, but my rule is that if I really dislike the person I can kill the person." It may be my personal "rule," but it doesn't negate the fact that murder is still illegal, and that what I am doing is illegal and wrong and morally reprehensible.
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I didn't ask for your comment. Nor do I care for your negativity.
 
bobbyroylee said:
I didn't ask for your comment. Nor do I care for your negativity.
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On another note. I voted, that I am a virgin, and would like to marry one, however, I am not completely inconsiderate, I understand that people make mistakes. I would really like to marry a virgin though, or atleast a girl who can still count the number she's been with.

I don't want to be compared to the other guys. Among other reasons.
 
bobbyroylee said:
I didn't ask for your comment. Nor do I care for your negativity.
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It's a public forum where people respond to other people's opinions all the time, whether asked or not. I am not going to ask each individual poster if I am allowed to respond to their post before I post something.

I am a little confused, though. You posted a view contrary to the popular view held by Christians about sex (saying it is okay to fornicate is a view contrary to the popular view held by Christians). Did you honestly expect no one to question your reasoning behind such a view? Did you really and truly think no one was going to call you out on that?
 
None of us like to be called out on the fact when we fall short, but it is our responsibility to correct and rebuke our brothers and sisters who stray and who fall short. Scripture is clear on that. Major sins start with small compromises. I could say that while I think robbing a bank is wrong, I don't see a problem with taking money from the register at work, especially if I'm going to use it to buy professional clothing to wear to work. That doesn't make it any less wrong, and I would hope that my brothers and sisters would correct me on it. I can say that I think the sky is orange, but it doesn't change the fact that it's not orange. I can say that I don't think there's any problem with going out in the sun without sunscreen, but that doesn't change the fact that the danger of getting skin cancer still exists.

We can't pick and choose which parts of God's word we like and want to follow, and which we'd rather just ignore. His law exists for a purpose, and you might decide personally that you're not going to hold yourself accountable to following that one. That's fine, but it doesn't change the fact that God will still hold you accountable for your actions. You may not go to Hell because you choose to have sex outside of marriage, but there are still consequences, besides STDs and pregnancy, any sin also separates you from God and ruins your fellowship with Him.

And, you shouldn't view it as an attack, because I doubt anyone meant it that way. We're expressing our points of view, like you expressed yours. As Lil-rush said, that is the purpose of a forum. That's why it's called a "forum". A forum is a medium for the exchange of ideas. If you don't want someone to share an opinion that's different from your own, then don't share yours in the first place. It's hardly fair to say that you alone are allowed to state what you think, and no one else can disagree with you. I'm sorry you took this the wrong way, and I wish you well. :)

I, too, will bow out of this thread, as I don't see where adding any more of my comments will be fruitful or beneficial.
 
ioogy said:
... does not the Bible speak of sex being the joining of two people into one? and is marriage not simply the social recognition of that act? ...
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No, there is a great difference between sex and marriage. Marriage is so much more than sex, and is not just the social recognition of the act, it is about life long commitment and devotion.
 
GOD_IS_LOVE said:
No, there is a great difference between sex and marriage. Marriage is so much more than sex, and is not just the social recognition of the act, it is about life long commitment and devotion.
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i was speaking from a Biblical sense... As has been shown to much affect in the modern world, marriage is a worldly institution, subject to the whims of the persons involved to divorce or sleep around just because they are too immature and selfish to work out their differences like adults.

The joining of a man and woman by coitus has been the recognized method of contract from ancient times. "What God has joined, let no man put asunder". So when you have sex with someone, you are entering that life-long commitment of devotion... the act of social marriage was originally intended to declare to the world that this man and woman were now having sex and joined forever.
 
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