I will never be in a relationship and it makes me sad

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Lynx

Lynx

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Then keep talking to people until you find the right one.

"My secret to success is I jumped at every opportunity that came up."
"But how did you know when an opportunity was coming?"
"I didn't. I just kept jumping. When an opportunity came up, I was jumping before it arrived because I was always jumping."
 
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jovanovic

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Tinkerbell725 said:
After saying all those negative things about yourself, try saying SO WHAT? It might give you confidence. Sometimes a little confidence is all you need.
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why would anyone look past all those flaws? i know many people who are better than me and still no woman wants them either just because they have too many flaws themself.

women do not only want confidence, they also want the guy to have decent looks, lots of money, great job, many friends, perfect social skills, great body, a car etc, its way to much for me to live up too.
 
Tommy379

Tommy379

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jovanovic said:
why would anyone look past all those flaws? i know many people who are better than me and still no woman wants them either just because they have too many flaws themself.

women do not only want confidence, they also want the guy to have decent looks, lots of money, great job, many friends, perfect social skills, great body, a car etc, its way to much for me to live up too.
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Ok, be all alone then.
 
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jovanovic

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Deade said:
Well jovanovic, if you ask around you will probably find most people have an abased self image. Most people have issues with how they look. God gave me a modern proverb that goes like this: "The perception most have of their attractiveness is distorted; try to make yourself presentable then think no more about it.". Quit dwelling on you looks and build your character. That is what will draw someone to you, when God is ready. You are very young, and you have a lot of time. :cool:
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for sure, but how many people see themself as one of the most non-attractive persons on earth + no social skills? and that they have no chance to make themself better? thats how bad it is for me. i am at the bottom of the lake. and its all true, its nothing something in my head, i am really this bad.
 
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jovanovic

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zeroturbulence said:
Let me tell you a little secret....

It doesn't matter what you look like...

All you need is CONFIDENCE..

If you simply make yourself appear confident (even if you don't really feel it), women will find you attractive no matter who you are or what you look like.

What's the secret to looking confident??

SMILE! :D

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maybe not for an average person or maybe someone who is just ugly. but if you look like me nothing can help. i am too ugly. you would laugh if you saw me.
 
Tommy379

Tommy379

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jovanovic said:
maybe not for an average person or maybe someone who is just ugly. but if you look like me nothing can help. i am too ugly. you would laugh if you saw me.
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Lets see a pic of your ugly mug.
 
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jovanovic

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mar09 said:
Hi jovanovic,

Welcome, and i know u can have friends here if u be one too! Many come looking for friendship, and do find when they ask, seek, and knock. See, the others here have been very encouraging, and it is not our physical appearance that really matters to the Lord, but our hearts. In ur list, may i just say some things we have no control of and cannot change, but others are affected by our lifestyles, diets, our faith! Acne and dandruff, for example, are worsened by lack of sleep, anxiety, and the foods you consume, even water consumption. I dont know what u have there, but once a doctor said tar shampoo should be good for dandruff, and these are not very hard to find? I sure hope u find time to come back, and find ur friends waiting here. Do not dwell on the 'negatives' u see in urself. We here do not see u as u see urself, if u havent told us those. We all came at some time in our life... whether to give or take some, to share what God has blessed us with, to ask questions or for help when we needed some, to pray, or to encourage or help others when we are able... Many people said Hans Christian Andersen was ugly, but he did make many others, and children too-- happy.

I really hope u come back to share life, and what God has done for u. Surely u can find things the Lord has let u experience, to taste and see that He Is Truly Good!
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i do not doubt the lords love for me, and i know in heaven looks do not matter, but this is not the topic, this is about i will never be in relationship and get friends, its how other people view me.

yes i know what to do about acne, dandruff etc, but its not working on me. i got bad genes.
 
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jovanovic

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Demi777 said:
Hey if my brother has a girlfriend over 8 years, u can get one too. True love makes blind. Ur safe. You are young dont worry
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i dont think for a second that your brother has 100+ flaws like me. so can not really compare him to me.

true love? where in the bible does it say that all people will get a wife/husband? its nowhere in the bible.
 
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jovanovic

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Lynx said:
jovanovic you can't build anything until you stop tearing stuff down. God gave you a body and a mind. If you think this and that are wrong, you are the created, disapproving of what the Creator made. You are tearing down the temple God gave you.

First, stop looking for faults. If there is something you can change, like your job or your teeth, get it changed if it means that much to you. If there is something you can't change, ignore it.

You can build your own heaven or your own hell here on earth. Your hell won't be nearly as bad as the real hell, nor will your heaven be as good as the real heaven, but your life can be great or terrible depending on what you build. But you can't start building anything until you stop tearing God's work down.

Or... you could just keep having a pity party and let your whole life slide right by. It's up to you.
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god gave me a body and mind which in todays society is not good enough. i do not have a problem with myself, its others who do not accept me. i would not even care about my flaws if someone accepeted me for who i am. god loves me, why can not humans love me too?

how can i get a good job when i am dumb? yes teeth can be fixed but its expansive.

impossible not to have a pity party when i am this bad and hopeless. you want me to think that i am brad pitt? it changes nothing, people would still think that i am a loser with no value.
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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Everyone has flaws. Everyone has things they don't like about their appearance. If you'd change your attitude, you might get more positive results. :)
 
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jovanovic

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blue_ladybug said:
Everyone has flaws. Everyone has things they don't like about their appearance. If you'd change your attitude, you might get more positive results. :)
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i got 100+ flaws, few people have that many flaws.

nah already tried that
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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Your attitude sucks. Why do you care what society thinks about you? It's only GOD'S opinion that should matter to you.


jovanovic said:
god gave me a body and mind which in todays society is not good enough. i do not have a problem with myself, its others who do not accept me. i would not even care about my flaws if someone accepeted me for who i am. god loves me, why can not humans love me too?

how can i get a good job when i am dumb? yes teeth can be fixed but its expansive.

impossible not to have a pity party when i am this bad and hopeless. you want me to think that i am brad pitt? it changes nothing, people would still think that i am a loser with no value.
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blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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Again, your attitude sucks. No one wants a guy with a bad attitude. Regardless of how many flaws you have, no one wants a bad attitude to go along with it... You won't get any sympathy from me. I don't deal with people who choose to wallow in their misery, rather than do something to change it...
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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And being in a relationship is NOT all it's cracked up to be. I'm much happier being single. :)
 
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joefizz

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Tommy379 said:
I'm just trying to turn CC into a dating site.
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Yeah no kidding I came to Christian Chat for "prospecting" to see if decent women Christians existed not really in hopes of dating anyone necessarily but well you know how it goes you say "I'm just looking" then wham lol.
 
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