Sorry deer92. You basically asked "How does a Christian go out and find a date these days" and we basically said "the best thing to do is not find a date..." which is honestly the best advice I can think of, but it can be disheartening to hear. :-/
If you are terribly lonely and feel you absolutely have to find a date, try to put yourself out in society. Instead of just getting through the work day, try striking up conversations with people at work... or at the store, or at church, or wherever you go. Don't limit yourself to talking to guys, strike up conversations with girls too - you never know if they have a brother you might meet. Trolling (fishing trolling, not internet trolling) is a good way to catch fish because you are parading the bait in front of a lot of fish over a large area instead of just letting the bait sit in one spot and waiting for a fish. Try getting yourself out there in society by just making an effort to talk to the people who are already around you, and see what friendships develop.
And no matter how awkward you feel trying to strike up a conversation, remember there are always people more inept than you think you are...
"No wait! Come back! I want to be friends at you!"
(By the way, humor is usually a great ice-breaker. I just gave you some examples.)
very poweful...i realy need to hear that..sometimes the pressure is immense to get married and have kids..especially thekids part...and i mean even from family members and relatives who are christians..they put those expectations ..i have made up my mind to let Gods will be done.
Yeah, that's basically the size of it. The general consensus seems to be "If you want to have a successful life you should get a college education, get a career, get married, have children and keep your life going like that until you get old and die."
1. Who defined that as a success, and why?
2. If I don't check off all the things on that list, is my life a failure?
3. Why would I care if society in general thinks my life is a failure? I have a rather low opinion of a lot of things society in general cares about.
"But don't you want to get married?"
No. Getting married is not something to check off my list of "goals for my life." Now if I find a nice lady, we hit it off well and start dating, then yes, I will probably want to at some point get married. But right now I don't have a REASON to want to get married, so no I do not want to get married.
"But you'll grow old and die alone! Don't you get lonely?"
No. I have a good life. It's a simple life, and kind of quiet, but that's how I like it. Who are they to tell me my life is lacking something if I'm happy with it?
The first thing to decide is IF you want to find a date. If you do, try to figure out WHY you want to find a date. If it is because people expect you to find one, find a better reason before you try to find a date. In the meantime, tell the people who expect you to find a date that they can go suck on a lemon.