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Crypto

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ok well in that case i disagree with both yours and cryptos and others interpretation I find them flawed.
Show us how they are flawed?
 

Crypto

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Because of extenuating circumstances my best friend dated her now husband for five years. During that time they never even hugged or held hands let alone kiss. At their wedding when the pastor said, "You may kiss the bride", he kissed her then held her in a long tender embrace. It was one of the sweetest things I've ever seen. I could tell you many such stories though none quite so sweet.

Such girls do exist. However they generally have higher standards in other areas as well. (I don't mean that as self-righteous as it sounds.) I don't go deep sea fishing in Colorado and I don't fish for trout in Florida. If you want such a girl, you must go to where she is.

Excellent testimony. :)
 
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Because I dont think its wrong? Ive kissed a number of girls when i was dating them and never got that whole feeling of conviction that i had screwed u that i sometimes get on other things that aren't actually mentioned. Also I have a pretty good handle on myself and have never had a problem controlling myself. A kiss is just a kiss. Its not a gateway to fornication and premarital sex unless you are weak enough to give into the temptation.
 

Crypto

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Because I dont think its wrong? Ive kissed a number of girls when i was dating them and never got that whole feeling of conviction that i had screwed u that i sometimes get on other things that aren't actually mentioned. Also I have a pretty good handle on myself and have never had a problem controlling myself. A kiss is just a kiss. Its not a gateway to fornication and premarital sex unless you are weak enough to give into the temptation.
So you are going by feeling? Great way to be led astray.

9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? Jer 17:8-9 (KJV)


12 Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.
1 Cor 10:12 (KJV)


I am sure David thought he had a good handle on himself as well.
 
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you dp whatever it is you think is right. Ill do what i think is right. Its not clearly stated so neither of us can be sure.
 
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We can become legalistic with anything. I haven't kissed anyone on the mouth since 1996, so I guess that makes me more "pure" than most of you! :rolleyes: Some Christians believe it's a sin to be fat because one of the so-called seven deadly sins is "Sloth". I mean, you guys are bragging to the world how pure you are! Who cares? What do you want, a plaque? A medal? You want we should erect a shrine in your name so everyone can strive to be more like you? Can Man impress God? At what point does grace come into this discussion? Did Jesus come for the healthy or the sick?
 
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Crypto,

I don't care if you are in the ministry. You're not exemplifying holiness; you're exemplifying legalism.

And I don't think your avatar is cute or funny.
 
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12 Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.
1 Cor 10:12 (KJV)
Man, this is 2010, not 1611! "Wherefore I shall use the thee's and thou's of yesteryear..."
 
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Schwager

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Gluttony is a sin and people live off a bowl of rice every other day and some water... Once you can live by those standards as well I think the scriputre gives some leadway... I am saving myself for marriage which is just and right but! Im not saving my lips for marriage... Why? Because I have never once felt guilty, I have never been taught its a sin, and throughout my whole life of reading the bible God has NEVER laid on my heart that its a sin! I think this convo should just be dropped you know why? Cause im sure your gonna have a rebutal and its not gonna change mine and Shards mind haha I dont view it as a sin plain and simple.
 

Crypto

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Crypto,

I don't care if you are in the ministry. You're not exemplifying holiness; you're exemplifying legalism.

And I don't think your avatar is cute or funny.
Legalism isn't just making man standards law. It is also lowering God's standards to reach mans so it works both ways. I see this as the second, not the first. And I like my avatar. :)
 
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Gluttony is a sin and people live off a bowl of rice every other day and some water... Once you can live by those standards as well I think the scriputre gives some leadway... I am saving myself for marriage which is just and right but! Im not saving my lips for marriage... Why? Because I have never once felt guilty, I have never been taught its a sin, and throughout my whole life of reading the bible God has NEVER laid on my heart that its a sin! I think this convo should just be dropped you know why? Cause im sure your gonna have a rebutal and its not gonna change mine and Shards mind haha I dont view it as a sin plain and simple.
Matthew 26:11; The poor you will always have with you, but you will not always have me.

Why should we force ourselves to suffer because of all the starving people in the world? If you are one of the few people in the world lucky enough to get your hands on a T-bone steak, bite the stuffings out of it!

I don't think kissing is a sin, either, so I don't see what the fuss is all about. If you both agree to kiss and nothing more, then go for it!
 

Crypto

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Man, this is 2010, not 1611! "Wherefore I shall use the thee's and thou's of yesteryear..."
I use the KJV for quoting usually because it carries more authority and the program I use works faster lol
 

Crypto

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Gluttony is a sin and people live off a bowl of rice every other day and some water... Once you can live by those standards as well I think the scriputre gives some leadway... I am saving myself for marriage which is just and right but! Im not saving my lips for marriage... Why? Because I have never once felt guilty, I have never been taught its a sin, and throughout my whole life of reading the bible God has NEVER laid on my heart that its a sin! I think this convo should just be dropped you know why? Cause im sure your gonna have a rebutal and its not gonna change mine and Shards mind haha I dont view it as a sin plain and simple.
I have yet to see anyone in favor of kissing show any sort of Scriptural evidence to why they believe it. Until I see it, I consider this argument null and void. We've produced several Scriptures to back up our standard, but nothing from the other side.
 

Crypto

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And I don't think your avatar is cute or funny.

And I wonder if you realize your avatar is from an incredibly profane and blasphemous television show?

See Psalm 101:3.
 
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And I wonder if you realize your avatar is from an incredibly profane and blasphemous television show?

See Psalm 101:3.
Now how would you know unless you've seen the show?
 
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lil-rush

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We can become legalistic with anything. I haven't kissed anyone on the mouth since 1996, so I guess that makes me more "pure" than most of you! :rolleyes: Some Christians believe it's a sin to be fat because one of the so-called seven deadly sins is "Sloth". I mean, you guys are bragging to the world how pure you are! Who cares? What do you want, a plaque? A medal? You want we should erect a shrine in your name so everyone can strive to be more like you? Can Man impress God? At what point does grace come into this discussion? Did Jesus come for the healthy or the sick?
As far as I can see, no one who has said kissing before marriage is wrong has held a holier-than-thou attitude about it. We are not standing on some pedestal saying, "Look at all those sinful people, kissing every Tom, Dick, and Harry they come in contact with. What a bunch of heathens that deserve to burn in hell! I am so much better than them!"

We are saying "Based on what God has revealed to me, through His word, I believe kissing before marriage is wrong."

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The legalism argument is really old and way over-used. Just like feminists use the word "misogynist" to describe any man that contradicts their view point, Christians use the word "legalistic" to describe any person that displays a higher moral standard than them. Yes, there are times when Christians go to far in their attempt to be holy, but that does not mean every person who has an opposing view to your own is legalistic.

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What does grace have to do with deciding whether something is permissible among Christians or not? Grace is a gift, not a requirement. God does give grace to us when He sees fit, but that does not give us the right to sin. So if you want to bring up grace, perhaps you should point out that there is no guarantee that grace will be given to any of us. Since there is no guarantee, we should strive to be holy.

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What on earth does Jesus coming for the sick have to do with anything? We're talking about kissing, not about winning souls for Jesus.
 
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As far as I can see, no one who has said kissing before marriage is wrong has held a holier-than-thou attitude about it. We are not standing on some pedestal saying, "Look at all those sinful people, kissing every Tom, Dick, and Harry they come in contact with. What a bunch of heathens that deserve to burn in hell! I am so much better than them!"
Yes, you are.

We are saying "Based on what God has revealed to me, through His word, I believe kissing before marriage is wrong."
And what has God revealed to you regarding kissing?

The legalism argument is really old and way over-used. Just like feminists use the word "misogynist" to describe any man that contradicts their view point, Christians use the word "legalistic" to describe any person that displays a higher moral standard than them. Yes, there are times when Christians go to far in their attempt to be holy, but that does not mean every person who has an opposing view to your own is legalistic.
It may be old and overused, but if you don't like it, then it's probably because deep down you know it to be true.

What does grace have to do with deciding whether something is permissible among Christians or not? Grace is a gift, not a requirement. God does give grace to us when He sees fit, but that does not give us the right to sin. So if you want to bring up grace, perhaps you should point out that there is no guarantee that grace will be given to any of us. Since there is no guarantee, we should strive to be holy.
My point is that God always forgives. Always. If you don't think so, then you're following some other "gospel". For the people who actually have sinned, there is forgiveness, if they ask for it.

I do not see anything wrong with a man and a woman shoving their tongues down each other's throats if they are boyfriend and girlfriend. No one will change my mind on that.
 
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lil-rush

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And what has God revealed to you regarding kissing?
read the thread.

It may be old and overused, but if you don't like it, then it's probably because deep down you know it to be true.
I dislike it because it is a weak argument that does not disprove anyone's point. It's pretty much akin to name-calling to me.

My point is that God always forgives. Always. If you don't think so, then you're following some other "gospel". For the people who actually have sinned, there is forgiveness, if they ask for it.
No one was saying there isn't forgiveness for those who sin.

I do not see anything wrong with a man and a woman shoving their tongues down each other's throats if they are boyfriend and girlfriend.
Lol, because "shoving their tongues down each other's throats" is the best way to make your argument that kissing outside of marriage isn't bad sound credible. Why not just say "I see nothing wrong with a couple swapping spit with each other while shoving their tongues down each other's throats, and thrashing around in the back seat of the car like fish out of water, gasping for air, digging into each other's hair like a nurse looking for lice. That's totally Godly and awesome!"?

No one will change my mind on that.
I won't try to make you see otherwise, then.
 
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i give up. If you all want to live in your little bubble where kissing is wrong go for it. Meanwhile Im going to go find me a girlfriend then we are going to kiss. Repeatedly. the end.