How should you act with/around gay people?

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Tootles_1

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After reading all the responses I agree w/ most of what was said. Homosexuals are PEOPLE just like you and I. And we should love them. But even more than that we need to be so in tune w/ God that people - everyone whether gay, straight, or otherwise - SEE God's love. I read a book once that described it as putting on the love of God like you do your clothing. That's a great illustration but I like to take it one further. If you only put on the love of God then it can become superficial and people will see right thru. But if the love of God dwells in you it's like your skin glows because you're healthy. And no one can question who you belong to - your eternal Father!

As to how to act around anyone who is homosexual, a homosexual is the same as a liar, thief, drama queen, jock, alcoholic, etc. You need to be sensitive to them so that you don't put yourself in a compromising position, but just act NORMAL. I knew a girl back in high school who was gay. She was intelligent, funny, and a great conversationalist. I loved talking to her and joking around the same as my other friends. I never got on my soapbox and preached to her but she knew exactly where I stood on the issue of her lifestyle. And it never bothered us. And it never bothered me to be in close proximity or to even touch her - she never once hit on me. As to your situation where the girl grabbed your hand - I think she was looking for attention. What would you have done if it were a guy? Pulled your hand away? Ask him to please stop? Tell him you were uncomfortable w/ his actions? I think if anyone does anything to you that makes you uneasy you should be firm - without being mean spirited - and tell them exactly how it makes you feel.
 
Christianrkchk89

Christianrkchk89

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Thank you!!! I agree agree agree!


Tootles_1 said:
After reading all the responses I agree w/ most of what was said. Homosexuals are PEOPLE just like you and I. And we should love them. But even more than that we need to be so in tune w/ God that people - everyone whether gay, straight, or otherwise - SEE God's love. I read a book once that described it as putting on the love of God like you do your clothing. That's a great illustration but I like to take it one further. If you only put on the love of God then it can become superficial and people will see right thru. But if the love of God dwells in you it's like your skin glows because you're healthy. And no one can question who you belong to - your eternal Father!

As to how to act around anyone who is homosexual, a homosexual is the same as a liar, thief, drama queen, jock, alcoholic, etc. You need to be sensitive to them so that you don't put yourself in a compromising position, but just act NORMAL. I knew a girl back in high school who was gay. She was intelligent, funny, and a great conversationalist. I loved talking to her and joking around the same as my other friends. I never got on my soapbox and preached to her but she knew exactly where I stood on the issue of her lifestyle. And it never bothered us. And it never bothered me to be in close proximity or to even touch her - she never once hit on me. As to your situation where the girl grabbed your hand - I think she was looking for attention. What would you have done if it were a guy? Pulled your hand away? Ask him to please stop? Tell him you were uncomfortable w/ his actions? I think if anyone does anything to you that makes you uneasy you should be firm - without being mean spirited - and tell them exactly how it makes you feel.
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suaso

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Well, almost all of my friends in high school were either homosexual or bisexual. At the time I wasn't into church much, so I didn't care anyways, but now I am older and a little wiser, and I know that homosexual activities are sinful. At the same time, I also realize that I too am a sinner, and I do not have to treat other sinners like me differently because their sins are different than mine. God loves the sinner, not their sins, so who am I to hate the sinner? I do not approve of homosexual activities, condone them, or support them in any way, but homosexual men and women are still my brothers in sisters and I will treat them with the dignity that each person deserves as children of God just as I do in my interactions with anyone else I meet, striving always to be the best example of Christ that I can possibly be for them.
 
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John 13:34-35 "A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another."
 
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Raeshelle

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WOW I can not believe some of the questions that people ask in here.. 1. Yes being gay is wrong and afainst the teaching in God's word. 2> we are to treat them like we would anyone else.. 3. How else will they find their way to GOd if we can't be real christians and show them the love of God. 4> I have a sister who lives this lifestyle. Yes she knows I believe it is wrong. But she also knows that I love her with all my heart and would do anything for her.. If you can't show them love you can't win them to God..
 
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Raeshelle said:
WOW I can not believe some of the questions that people ask in here.. 1. Yes being gay is wrong and afainst the teaching in God's word. 2> we are to treat them like we would anyone else.. 3. How else will they find their way to GOd if we can't be real christians and show them the love of God. 4> I have a sister who lives this lifestyle. Yes she knows I believe it is wrong. But she also knows that I love her with all my heart and would do anything for her.. If you can't show them love you can't win them to God..
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Amen Rae! Hate the sin, but love the sinner, is what we are instructed to do.
 
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Rae you have just said it best. As you can see I myself have quoted from the bible on this on how we should behave around them. Well said Rae.
 
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Raeshelle

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TY .. I just get a little upset with people and how they react to people.. Sin is sin in God's eyes. No big sin or little sin.. It is all just sin.
 
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swc

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hi ok so im new here i have lived the lesbian lifestyle in the past and am now being delivered and renewed daily by the blood and word of God i dont think the best thing would be to treat gays differently seeing as they look for reasons to justify their lifestlye and not be involved in christianity and christians so being rude or slighting them will only add to the prob what helped me is knowing i was loved regardless

peace much love from someone who knows
 
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Ashkuhn

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"Do not judge, and you will not be judged" Luke 6:32

Love and accept them just like our good Lord loved and accepted us! You don't have to support what someone is doing to love them.
 
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nanabean

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Raeshelle said:
WOW I can not believe some of the questions that people ask in here.. 1. Yes being gay is wrong and afainst the teaching in God's word. 2> we are to treat them like we would anyone else.. 3. How else will they find their way to GOd if we can't be real christians and show them the love of God. 4> I have a sister who lives this lifestyle. Yes she knows I believe it is wrong. But she also knows that I love her with all my heart and would do anything for her.. If you can't show them love you can't win them to God..
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AMEN!!!! I sooooo agree!!!! I've thought the same thing many times in many different forums, but this one and the one about "how do I tell a 'gay' person I'm straight and not interested??" (Can't remember the way it was worded, but you get the idea!) really made me say "WOW" too!!! I don't see it confusing at all as to how to "treat" others who still need guidance in thier lives...III still need guidance in MY life too!!! We ALL do!!! And maybe this will put me out on a limb here.....but I don't see where a "gay" person should automatically be looked at as a non beleiver.......or non-christian.......maybe they beleive, but are still struggling on thier path. And I feel this way about alot of people who are doing things that are "against the Lord".....they probably don't mean to BE against the Lord...they are just .......struggling..or maybe still learning?? I don't know if I am putting all this right or not, but I say.....just be yourself, sure let it be known that your a christian!! but also, no need to preach either.....just let others know your "approachable" and maybe that will help them more than you know!!!

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swc

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i have read all responses and i am very thankful to God for people who understand that no one who lives that lifestyle especialy those who have had an experience with God enjoys it fully i have lived in a situation of being in a relationship with some one and feeling soo dead inside because i wanted God but could not muster the strength to leave it i had one friend from church that stayed with me throug it all her love and care her reaction to me was never to set me aside life bad fruit but to love me regardless i think that approach is the best one and the most godly one
 
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christiancollegegirl

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Pepole are people, doesn't matter what their orientation is. I treat people the same wether they're gay or not. Like I said, my female best friend is Bi, but I love her anyway
 
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ChristisLord

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There isn't anything wrong with being gay. Scientists are finding out more and more about how it is actually genetic and not so much a choice. Think about it. Do you remember when you "chose" to like the opposite sex, or did it just happen without your control? Plus, homosexual behavior is exhibited all throughout nature. Bees, sheep, and dolphins are some common examples. To get some more info about this, national geographic has made an article on this very topic. It can be found here:
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html
 
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So because scientists said so that makes being gay alright?

& I'm really curious where you picked up your beliefs 'cause apparently being gay is alright and premarital sex is okay too...


ChristisLord said:
There isn't anything wrong with being gay. Scientists are finding out more and more about how it is actually genetic and not so much a choice. Think about it. Do you remember when you "chose" to like the opposite sex, or did it just happen without your control? Plus, homosexual behavior is exhibited all throughout nature. Bees, sheep, and dolphins are some common examples. To get some more info about this, national geographic has made an article on this very topic. It can be found here:
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html
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You use the word "natural" a bit too much. Do you know of anywhere in the Bible where it talks about how being homosexual is an okay thing?
 
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ChristisLord

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Christianrkchk89 said:
You use the word "natural" a bit too much. Do you know of anywhere in the Bible where it talks about how being homosexual is an okay thing?
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I've used the word "natural" once if you don't include this time. I don't understand your question. Do you know of anywhere in the bible where it talks about how being straight is an okay thing? Also, Jesus said nothing about homosexuality. As I mentioned before, homosexual behavior occurs outside of our species so to say that it's wrong in some way doesn't make any sense. Are you going to accuse the sheep of being wrong because they are engaging in that sort of activity? It is just a preference. You can't choose or be persuaded to like brussel sprouts. You either do or you don't. You aren't right or wrong if you don't like them.
 
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Baptistrw

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ChristisLord said:
There isn't anything wrong with being gay. Scientists are finding out more and more about how it is actually genetic and not so much a choice. Think about it. Do you remember when you "chose" to like the opposite sex, or did it just happen without your control? Plus, homosexual behavior is exhibited all throughout nature. Bees, sheep, and dolphins are some common examples. To get some more info about this, national geographic has made an article on this very topic. It can be found here:
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html
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Homosexuality is morally wrong because the Bible says so, socially wrong because if everyone adapted that lifestyle the human race would cease and it increases chance of diseases. It's funny how your name is ChristisLord but your post is far from that.
 
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ChristisLord

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Baptistrw said:
Homosexuality is morally wrong because the Bible says so
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The bible also says you should kill homosexuals. Do you do this? If not, then how can you consider yourself moral since it clearly says to do this in the bible?

Baptistrw said:
, socially wrong because if everyone adapted that lifestyle the human race would cease and it increases chance of diseases.
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To say it's socially wrong implies that it's a choice which is the opposite point that I'm trying to make.


Baptistrw said:
It's funny how your name is ChristisLord but your post is far from that.
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I'm glad I can amuse you.
 
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