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advise

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Please continue to pray for this baby. My husband and I are fasting and praying this week. My son too is praying but I believe he has resolved himself that she is going to have an abortion. The girls mom also told her father and according to what the girlfriend told my son, they all feel it is best if she has an abortion. I do not agree and all I can do is pray for her and the baby. Thank goodness we have a gracious and forgiving God. However, I have to say it is very difficult for me to smile when she walks in the room. I know she is only 16 and trying to deny what she is going on in her body and what she is about to do but when she comes into the room all bubbly like nothing is happening it really eats away at me. I am really trying my best not to let it show but it is difficult. She just came from a baby shower of all things with no sense of remorse or sadness. The idea that she does not seemed upset by all this upsets me. Please pray for me also as I want to show the love our almighty God toward this girl but I also don't want to blow it off like it is nothing. I pray for God to help me to use the right words when speaking with my son and her. I know that God can change anything he really wants changed or wants to happen and all I can really do now is pray.
 
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Jullianna

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I will continue to pray for your family and this young girl and her family.

All things work together for good to those who are in Christ Jesus. We have to hold on to that.
 
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bonnie2

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advise said:
Please continue to pray for this baby. My husband and I are fasting and praying this week. My son too is praying but I believe he has resolved himself that she is going to have an abortion. The girls mom also told her father and according to what the girlfriend told my son, they all feel it is best if she has an abortion. I do not agree and all I can do is pray for her and the baby. Thank goodness we have a gracious and forgiving God. However, I have to say it is very difficult for me to smile when she walks in the room. I know she is only 16 and trying to deny what she is going on in her body and what she is about to do but when she comes into the room all bubbly like nothing is happening it really eats away at me. I am really trying my best not to let it show but it is difficult. She just came from a baby shower of all things with no sense of remorse or sadness. The idea that she does not seemed upset by all this upsets me. Please pray for me also as I want to show the love our almighty God toward this girl but I also don't want to blow it off like it is nothing. I pray for God to help me to use the right words when speaking with my son and her. I know that God can change anything he really wants changed or wants to happen and all I can really do now is pray.
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Advise, I'm sorry for what you are going through. I will pray for all of you.
 
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advise

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It is my business when my son is the father and he does not want her to have an abortion. It is definately my place and his.
 
AliceOfLegend

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Sorry if I offended you. That was not my intention.


I am praying for everyone involved in this situation
 
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advise

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not offended, thanks for apologizing. All advise was heavily weighed. Now it is in Gods hands. Your prayers are appreciated.
 
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Matthew

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AliceOfLegend said:
I had a talk with my father (who is a Christian) about this topic the other day

and I asked him what he thought about the girl's boyfriend's mother telling the girls mother for her without her consent.

He said

"its not there place"

And I agree fully,

He did say, that he hoped if I or my sister ever got pregnant that we would tell him and mom, but that it wasn't any one other than our place to tell them.

but he said when it comes down to it all "people need to mind their P's and Q's"
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In the situation of pregnancy you are right it is no-one's place but the girl and boy in question to tell their parents and others should not do so for them.....however that simply isn't applicable to this situation.

In a case where a 16 year old girl has committed to an aborion her parents need to know and there are many reasons why, the obvious being the baby is going to die.

Other reasons are the girl should be councilled by her parents before taking a potentially life altering decision the magnitude of which she cannot yet appreciate, also she is undergoing a medical procedure which can have serious complications and at 16 years old her parents must know that is happening to her.
There are many others....I agree it's no-ones place it is the girls place and the boys place....it's the parents place....but if the parents won't take responsibility then someone has too.....if that means their rights get pushed aside then so be it......someone has to speak for the child that cannot speak.

But these are the kind of problems that come up when two 16 year old children find themselves expecting a child....it's all wrong.
 
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Lifelike

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Jesus reigns :)
 
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sandstorm7

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Advise, I am so incredibly sorry to hear about the situation you are all finding yourselves in. You did the right thing by telling the girl's mother. I will pray for all of you, including that unborn child.
 
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tryingtobecalm

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Everyone is probably going to hate me for this... But here it goes...

I don't know what happened as it is now after the date. If she did have the abortion... Here is what you need to know.

It was not an easy decision. It probably tore her up inside. I have had two of them in my lifetime. Neither of them was an easy decision. I agonized I cried, I felt backed into a corner. I didn't know what else to do. I was scared. I was shaking in the waiting room. I waited for a miracle, all the while knowing God gave me free will, and I would not be stopped. Did not stop me from praying something would happen. Like someone would call me on my cell phone, like the doctor would call out sick and I would have to reschedule, like the guy would suddenly beg me not to go through with it... Of course it did not happen.

I am still sorry but at the time I was so scared and irrational I honestly believe if someone had stopped me I may have been scared enough to kill myself rather than go through with the pregnancy and what my parents would do to me, etc. I was scared and felt trapped. This girl needs love and understanding and kindness. She needs love and forgiveness. I am sorry this happened. I hope she and your son will be okay in time.
 
AliceOfLegend

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tryingtobecalm said:
Everyone is probably going to hate me for this... But here it goes...

I don't know what happened as it is now after the date. If she did have the abortion... Here is what you need to know.

It was not an easy decision. It probably tore her up inside. I have had two of them in my lifetime. Neither of them was an easy decision. I agonized I cried, I felt backed into a corner. I didn't know what else to do. I was scared. I was shaking in the waiting room. I waited for a miracle, all the while knowing God gave me free will, and I would not be stopped. Did not stop me from praying something would happen. Like someone would call me on my cell phone, like the doctor would call out sick and I would have to reschedule, like the guy would suddenly beg me not to go through with it... Of course it did not happen.

I am still sorry but at the time I was so scared and irrational I honestly believe if someone had stopped me I may have been scared enough to kill myself rather than go through with the pregnancy and what my parents would do to me, etc. I was scared and felt trapped. This girl needs love and understanding and kindness. She needs love and forgiveness. I am sorry this happened. I hope she and your son will be okay in time.
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I am so sorry, I really wish I could hug you, seriously =/

I do agree with you about it not being an easy decision (though, I have not experienced it first hand, I have witnessed it second hand) and how she needs love at a time like this.
 
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tryingtofindhim

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tryingtobecalm said:
Everyone is probably going to hate me for this... But here it goes...

I don't know what happened as it is now after the date. If she did have the abortion... Here is what you need to know.

It was not an easy decision. It probably tore her up inside. I have had two of them in my lifetime. Neither of them was an easy decision. I agonized I cried, I felt backed into a corner. I didn't know what else to do. I was scared. I was shaking in the waiting room. I waited for a miracle, all the while knowing God gave me free will, and I would not be stopped. Did not stop me from praying something would happen. Like someone would call me on my cell phone, like the doctor would call out sick and I would have to reschedule, like the guy would suddenly beg me not to go through with it... Of course it did not happen.

I am still sorry but at the time I was so scared and irrational I honestly believe if someone had stopped me I may have been scared enough to kill myself rather than go through with the pregnancy and what my parents would do to me, etc. I was scared and felt trapped. This girl needs love and understanding and kindness. She needs love and forgiveness. I am sorry this happened. I hope she and your son will be okay in time.
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I'm sorry for what you were put through. You are right she does need love and forgiveness and I hope people treat you the same. :) God bless you!
 
pickles

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I will keep praying for all in this.
May the power and love of Jesus pour out on all in this.
In Jesus, God bless.
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Know that many are praying. Your speaking much truth into your sons life right now about responsbibilty and the love of Christ despite that he was involved in a sexual relationship outside of marriage. He will never forget how you have stuck by him in all this.
 
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Jullianna

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tryingtobecalm said:
Everyone is probably going to hate me for this... But here it goes...

I don't know what happened as it is now after the date. If she did have the abortion... Here is what you need to know.

It was not an easy decision. It probably tore her up inside. I have had two of them in my lifetime. Neither of them was an easy decision. I agonized I cried, I felt backed into a corner. I didn't know what else to do. I was scared. I was shaking in the waiting room. I waited for a miracle, all the while knowing God gave me free will, and I would not be stopped. Did not stop me from praying something would happen. Like someone would call me on my cell phone, like the doctor would call out sick and I would have to reschedule, like the guy would suddenly beg me not to go through with it... Of course it did not happen.

I am still sorry but at the time I was so scared and irrational I honestly believe if someone had stopped me I may have been scared enough to kill myself rather than go through with the pregnancy and what my parents would do to me, etc. I was scared and felt trapped. This girl needs love and understanding and kindness. She needs love and forgiveness. I am sorry this happened. I hope she and your son will be okay in time.
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We are not called to hate, but to love as Jesus loves. The pain of your ordeal is evident and I pray that God has comforted you and will continue to do so. Either way situations like this go, they are difficult for the mother of the child, as well as their families. But God cares..and we care. God bless you, sister
 
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Thanks for all the prayers. PLEASE continue to pray because she has postponed it again. I can't help but feel there may be hope for this baby. She is a very nice young girl that is unfortunately experiencing the consequences of sex outside of marriage. I know her pain must be great, as is my sons. He really wants her to have the baby. He is willing to step up and take full responsibility. Every where I go I see babies and can't help but picture this beautiful one she is carrying. Each day she postpones it is being weaved by God. We are seeing the Power of Prayer. Please keep praying.
 
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bonnie2

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advise said:
Thanks for all the prayers. PLEASE continue to pray because she has postponed it again. I can't help but feel there may be hope for this baby. She is a very nice young girl that is unfortunately experiencing the consequences of sex outside of marriage. I know her pain must be great, as is my sons. He really wants her to have the baby. He is willing to step up and take full responsibility. Every where I go I see babies and can't help but picture this beautiful one she is carrying. Each day she postpones it is being weaved by God. We are seeing the Power of Prayer. Please keep praying.
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Yay! Thank you for the update advise. I really have been praying about this.
 
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sandstorm7

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advise said:
Thanks for all the prayers. PLEASE continue to pray because she has postponed it again. I can't help but feel there may be hope for this baby. She is a very nice young girl that is unfortunately experiencing the consequences of sex outside of marriage. I know her pain must be great, as is my sons. He really wants her to have the baby. He is willing to step up and take full responsibility. Every where I go I see babies and can't help but picture this beautiful one she is carrying. Each day she postpones it is being weaved by God. We are seeing the Power of Prayer. Please keep praying.
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I'm so happy to hear that she hasn't yet gone through with this... it shows that she is really thinking about this and I can't help but feel hopeful! I will continue to pray hard about this!
 
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Jullianna

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advise said:
Thanks for all the prayers. PLEASE continue to pray because she has postponed it again. I can't help but feel there may be hope for this baby. She is a very nice young girl that is unfortunately experiencing the consequences of sex outside of marriage. I know her pain must be great, as is my sons. He really wants her to have the baby. He is willing to step up and take full responsibility. Every where I go I see babies and can't help but picture this beautiful one she is carrying. Each day she postpones it is being weaved by God. We are seeing the Power of Prayer. Please keep praying.
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You are on my heart and in my prayers daily. I have shared your story with my pastor and womens ministries. So many prayers are going up for your family and this precious little one.
 
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tryingtofindhim

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why can't she just put the baby up for adoption? It's not like she has to stop her life; there are plenty people who would love a baby.
 
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