Christ speaking to me through the Holy Spirit??

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Me - I am a Christian although I have committed many sins from Christ just being a Sunday Christ to relationship sins and I confess and repent of them greatly. I got with my partner in March 2017, it has been a whirlwind relationship as he asked me to marry him in the first weekend we met. I have Aspergers Syndrome which means I struggle to process things said and done in the moment, I processed this after the comic con we went to and I was lonely and wanted to make a go of it and we'd been happy until I started going back to Church regularly as of the last sunday in May.

My partner was a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and he wanted us to be members together there but I do not agree with quite a few things with in the Church. He now believes that there is a God, but hates him. He deems God to be hypocritical for the actions that have happened within the Bible (I'll go through that when I have the content.)

In those two Sundays, I have been touched and challenged by the sermons and this Sunday gone, I had a REALLY heavy heart, I came home and explained this to my partner and he immediately refutes what I say to being Aspie and wanting to fit in somewhere but that comes with lots of Anxiety and that shows through muscle aches in my back and/or head feels like it's going to explode, and he goes on and talks about various parts of the Bible where it is hypocritical to him, (to be honest I see the same hypocrisies but that's another post), but this REALLY heavy heart was not something I had felt before and I am still in a quandre about it because I love him to bits but if he will not respect my views, then I don't see how it can work out. PLEASE DON'T TELL ME TO "DUMP HIM OR THE PASSAGE ABOUT BEING UNEQUALLY YOKED because my response is HOW DO WE SHOW CHRIST'S LOVE TO PEOPLE IF WE DO NOT START WITH THOSE WE LOVE?

So since I told him I was going to live for Christ, properly. He has been over his beliefs several times, and making me very conflicted, feeling forced to believe what he does about God, and by going over it several times, being disrespected.

Please pray for this situation. I am very much struggling.
 
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The thing with the REALLY heavy heart, I believe is Christ speaking to me....Challenging me. So when telling my partner this he refuted it and this morning I said to him "You haven't had an experience like this, so how can you know?" He has had an experience like it and he did something about it, but it feels he is denying me the same.
 
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Ariel82

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Will keep you in prayer.

Sometimes we have to respectfully agree to disagree and pray that God touches the hearts of those we love.

Praying you make some good Christian friends and get grounded in the Bible. It will be a battle since you have decided to stay with him, but with love,prayer and the firm understanding of the Bible...it's amazing to see how God can work.

God bless and keep you.
 
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You ask what to do, then immediately tell people not to give you the most obvious answer.
Staying in a relationship where someone is anti-God and actively chips away at your faith is NOT showing the love of God.
There are only two real options, stay with him and see what happens and who gives in first, his faith restored, or yours taken away, or leave him.

How far are you willing to take a relationship with someone constantly speaking against God? Marriage? Would you want to raise kids with a man that talks that way about God?

Sounds like you'e hoping for some magic answer that allows you to stay in a romantic relationship with a man that hates God. Even to the point of ignoring the bible and then calling that "showing God's love". And you don't even see the contradiction in that.
 
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Lord we pray for faithful_learner. Let her know what is good and right. What your will is. Open your word to both her and her partner. Let what is best be shown in their life. In the precious name of our good Lord Jesus Christ.Amen.
 

Magenta

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The thing with the REALLY heavy heart, I believe is Christ speaking to me....Challenging me. So when telling my partner this he refuted it and this morning I said to him "You haven't had an experience like this, so how can you know?" He has had an experience like it and he did something about it, but it feels he is denying me the same.
Cristina, you partner cannot refute what you say unless he proves you wrong. So far, he is only disputing what you say. I am sorry, but it is not clear to me whether you have married this man yet. If you have not, I would hope you have the strength/fortitude to take a step back from this relationship, which I realize may not be easy for you to do. Taking a step back would give you time to assess the situation while not being in the middle of it, and having him there constantly telling you how wrong you are. That right there, his lack of respect for your process/spiritual journey, is not a good sign. In fact, you already know, it is a very bad sign of harder times to come. Taking a step back also signals to him that you are not going to tolerate his attempts to control you, which amounts to abuse. I understand that you feel you love him, and desire to continue to love him, but you do not want to be in a non-reciprocal relationship. You want to be with someone who you can grow with, and work together with, someone who desires to support you as much as you desire to support him, as you live out your lives together in a God-honoring manner. I pray for your heart. I pray you find freedom enough in Christ that you do not need a shadow of love to act as a substitute for the real thing. Love to you, Cristina.

 

Mel85

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Hello sister. Prayer is what is needed here. Why? Because only the Holy Spirit of God can soften your partners heart and mind.

Will be praying for you as well.

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You ask what to do, then immediately tell people not to give you the most obvious answer.
Staying in a relationship where someone is anti-God and actively chips away at your faith is NOT showing the love of God.
There are only two real options, stay with him and see what happens and who gives in first, his faith restored, or yours taken away, or leave him.

How far are you willing to take a relationship with someone constantly speaking against God? Marriage? Would you want to raise kids with a man that talks that way about God?

Sounds like you'e hoping for some magic answer that allows you to stay in a romantic relationship with a man that hates God. Even to the point of ignoring the bible and then calling that "showing God's love". And you don't even see the contradiction in that.
The one thing I learnt to do when living with my parents was to not talk about faith with those who won't listen and make more problems. I'd speak to my dad and stepmum about it. Stepmum I could have a decent conversation with, my dad, I couldn't have a faith conversation so didn't try.
 
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Cristina, you partner cannot refute what you say unless he proves you wrong. So far, he is only disputing what you say. I am sorry, but it is not clear to me whether you have married this man yet. If you have not, I would hope you have the strength/fortitude to take a step back from this relationship, which I realize may not be easy for you to do. Taking a step back would give you time to assess the situation while not being in the middle of it, and having him there constantly telling you how wrong you are. That right there, his lack of respect for your process/spiritual journey, is not a good sign. In fact, you already know, it is a very bad sign of harder times to come. Taking a step back also signals to him that you are not going to tolerate his attempts to control you, which amounts to abuse. I understand that you feel you love him, and desire to continue to love him, but you do not want to be in a non-reciprocal relationship. You want to be with someone who you can grow with, and work together with, someone who desires to support you as much as you desire to support him, as you live out your lives together in a God-honoring manner. I pray for your heart. I pray you find freedom enough in Christ that you do not need a shadow of love to act as a substitute for the real thing. Love to you, Cristina.

No, not married. Engaged
 
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Hello sister. Prayer is what is needed here. Why? Because only the Holy Spirit of God can soften your partners heart and mind.

Will be praying for you as well.

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That's what I am praying for. what is doubly annoying is my church has not uploaded the sermon from sunday.
 

RickyZ

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Then I will listen. I am still unsure about whether it was the Holy Spirit. I keep praying though.
God says He will establish His word to us by 2 or 3 witnesses. If you believe it was the Holy Spirit, there will be a confirmation.
 

levi85

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Lord bless Faithful_Learner and this prayer. In Jesus name, Amen!
 

KBond

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I am praying for you to know what to do in this romantic situation, but I do not think that is the big issue here. As someone who cares about your heart and faith, I am concerned that you think the Bible is hypocritical so I am also praying that you would see the Bible as true. It might be helpful for you to do a google search of "Bible contradictions explained" or "Bible discrepancies explained." There are some great explanations out there that might make you see the things you think are hypocritical from a different perspective. The Bible is true and God's Word. We only need to trust Him. Blessings to you, faithful_learner.