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determinedBeing7631

determinedBeing7631

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I'm married and my husband works away from home weeks at a time. So lately I have been watching porn to satisfy my sexual desires. I know that it's wrong but it's so hard to give up.I feel at times that it's better to watch porn that physically cheat on him with someone else. I'm so ashamed to talk to anyone else about it. Has anyone else had a problem with watching porn?
 
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whatev

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You already know this answer. Repent, and seek the Lord.
 
Dan_473

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determinedBeing7631 said:
I'm married and my husband works away from home weeks at a time. So lately I have been watching porn to satisfy my sexual desires. I know that it's wrong but it's so hard to give up.I feel at times that it's better to watch porn that physically cheat on him with someone else. I'm so ashamed to talk to anyone else about it. Has anyone else had a problem with watching porn?
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that's a tough situation.

I know the standard conservative answer would be Well just don't do it.

the thing is that the Bible talks about sexual immorality but doesn't ever really Define it.

if you have feelings of guilt the question would be are those feelings coming from internalised voices, like from your mother when you were growing up, saying that it's wrong?

in the end, the most important thing is to Be fully convinced in your own mind.
 
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if one is watching such filth, then they are already being un-faithful,
not only to their mates, but most importantly, to their Holy Saviour -
just knowing this should give anyone who claims The Blood of Christ
pause...
 
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Try picking up and reading your Bible every time you think you need to watch.

When I was a young believer, I read Rom 12:1-2 (Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will).

Every time I had thoughts that I knew were contrary to God's Word, I would read Scripture.

I learned Scripture and God helped me through those times of trial.
 
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7seasrekeyed

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Dan_473 said:
that's a tough situation.

I know the standard conservative answer would be Well just don't do it.

the thing is that the Bible talks about sexual immorality but doesn't ever really Define it.

if you have feelings of guilt the question would be are those feelings coming from internalised voices, like from your mother when you were growing up, saying that it's wrong?

in the end, the most important thing is to Be fully convinced in your own mind.
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well that's not true
 
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no I haven't ever had a problem with porn

however, I have been tempted in various ways just like all human beings are

God delivers those out of temptation who are sincere in their desire to be free of it

I think you know what to do

are you here wondering if perhaps it is ok to do what you are doing?

come on. we all know it isn't
 
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Never had a desire and neither has my wife.
What I do not understand is why a person will choose a job or career that keeps them away from home weeks or even days at a time. The only exception would be the military.
Don't tell me it is necessary, because I will never believe it. It is a choice, and a bad choice.
Any man that can leave his family for weeks at a time (except for the military) is a poor excuse of a man in my opinion.
 
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determinedBeing7631 said:
I'm married and my husband works away from home weeks at a time. So lately I have been watching porn to satisfy my sexual desires. I know that it's wrong but it's so hard to give up.I feel at times that it's better to watch porn that physically cheat on him with someone else. I'm so ashamed to talk to anyone else about it. Has anyone else had a problem with watching porn?
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NO. If you are really serious about Jesus. You will get scared and fear God. Because if you died today, you would go to hell. You tied Gods hands. There would be nothing he could do for you.
 
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pjharrison said:
NO. If you are really serious about Jesus. You will get scared and fear God. Because if you died today, you would go to hell. You tied Gods hands. There would be nothing he could do for you.
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No one will go to hell because they watch porn. Only unbelievers go to Hell.
It is not for you to judge if she is lost or saved. Only she and God know.
 
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SpoonJuly said:
No one will go to hell because they watch porn. Only unbelievers go to Hell.
It is not for you to judge if she is lost or saved. Only she and God know.
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Porn is a tool of the devil. He is trying to deceive as many as he can because his time is short. He uses anything he can to keep you away from God. Any sexual devices: he uses. That is one of his easiest snares.
 
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pjharrison said:
Porn is a tool of the devil. He is trying to deceive as many as he can because his time is short. He uses anything he can to keep you away from God. Any sexual devices: he uses. That is one of his easiest snares.
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You are correct, but sin is sin is sin.
You stated that a person will go to Hell for watching porn, and that is not true.
A person go to Hell for unbelief.
 
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pjharrison

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SpoonJuly said:
You are correct, but sin is sin is sin.
You stated that a person will go to Hell for watching porn, and that is not true.
A person go to Hell for unbelief.
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Yes they can. The eyes are the windows to the soul. What you are feeling when watching it. It's not good. Sorry but it is true. You can't just do what ever your want to, and think your going to heaven.
 
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determinedBeing7631 said:
I'm married and my husband works away from home weeks at a time. So lately I have been watching porn to satisfy my sexual desires. I know that it's wrong but it's so hard to give up.I feel at times that it's better to watch porn that physically cheat on him with someone else. I'm so ashamed to talk to anyone else about it. Has anyone else had a problem with watching porn?
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If you are not simply trolling, then give up your porn and sit down with your husband and talk to him about being away from home "weeks at a time".

That's his own choice, but you have allowed him to make this choice without discussing the ramifications. So it's time to make some major changes in both of your lives, beginning with repentance toward God and faith toward our Lord Jesus Christ, followed by a change of employers, jobs, careers, or whatever it takes.
 
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pjharrison said:
NO. If you are really serious about Jesus. You will get scared and fear God. Because if you died today, you would go to hell. You tied Gods hands. There would be nothing he could do for you.
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no they will not go to hell

Christians can be oppressed or caught up in sin but that does not send them to hell

good for you if you have never had a struggle wherein you had to beg God to deliver you from it

we are carried away by our own lusts, God does not tempt us nor does He send us to hell even though we struggle
 
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7seasrekeyed

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pjharrison said:
Yes they can. The eyes are the windows to the soul. What you are feeling when watching it. It's not good. Sorry but it is true. You can't just do what ever your want to, and think your going to heaven.
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here is a post from you pjh from another thread:

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I don't want to upset anyone, I just like to talk about Jesus, and I never see anyone who like to do the same. I am a believer in Jesus , but I do not attend Church, because I believe that it is designed to keep you in infancy. So I wanted to talk with other believers. So I apologize if I have upset anyone.
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I hardly think you are in a place to judge the op is going to hell

church is designed to keep you in infancy? that's a lie of the devil right there if you want to discuss the inroads he has made into YOUR life :rolleyes:
 
determinedBeing7631

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pjharrison said:
Yes they can. The eyes are the windows to the soul. What you are feeling when watching it. It's not good. Sorry but it is true. You can't just do what ever your want to, and think your going to heaven.
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So yot
pjharrison said:
NO. If you are really serious about Jesus. You will get scared and fear God. Because if you died today, you would go to hell. You tied Gods hands. There would be nothing he could do for you.
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I guess a lot of people are going to hell.
 
determinedBeing7631

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SpoonJuly said:
Never had a desire and neither has my wife.
What I do not understand is why a person will choose a job or career that keeps them away from home weeks or even days at a time. The only exception would be the military.
Don't tell me it is necessary, because I will never believe it. It is a choice, and a bad choice.
Any man that can leave his family for weeks at a time (except for the military) is a poor excuse of a man in my opinion.
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No one is forced to be in the military these days.
 
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determinedBeing7631 said:
So yot


I guess a lot of people are going to hell.
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Right. Watching porm opens a doorway for the demonic. They will come in and use your eyes to watch porn. they how people get addictions. The bible says narrow is the way and few find it.
 
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