Would you or do you share bank accounts with your spouse?
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There are two obvious reasons.
A) You have been married 3 times. I'll give anyone a mulligan on the first, possibly the second time, that it was the others fault. But lightning doesn't strike that many times in the same spot, so when you're pointing fingers, 3 more are pointing back. So I'd say it likely has something to do with you. Therefore marriage is probably not for you.
B) You make terrible decisions in choosing a spouse, so in that case, marriage is probably not for you.
A) You have been married 3 times. I'll give anyone a mulligan on the first, possibly the second time, that it was the others fault. But lightning doesn't strike that many times in the same spot, so when you're pointing fingers, 3 more are pointing back. So I'd say it likely has something to do with you. Therefore marriage is probably not for you.
B) You make terrible decisions in choosing a spouse, so in that case, marriage is probably not for you.
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I don't think there is any reason to have separate bank accounts when you are married. If you don't trust the person you are going to marry, you shouldn't be marrying them.
I know there are times when spouses have completely changed, which is scary, but I think in the situation, you'd just have to trust the Lord that things would work out.
I know there are times when spouses have completely changed, which is scary, but I think in the situation, you'd just have to trust the Lord that things would work out.
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Scenario: I sit my drivers licence for the first time. I studied but I failed.
I sit my drivers licence the second time. I still failed.
I sit it again for the third time. I still studied but I still failed.
Does this mean that driving is not for me? No. I know people who’ve been in that drivers licence scenario before and for one of them, it took him 4 attempts to sit his drivers licence before “he got it”.
I sit my drivers licence the second time. I still failed.
I sit it again for the third time. I still studied but I still failed.
Does this mean that driving is not for me? No. I know people who’ve been in that drivers licence scenario before and for one of them, it took him 4 attempts to sit his drivers licence before “he got it”.
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I think I got the allegory. It goes for both driving and marriage. If you haven't got the first or second right and still fail at your fourth, then how could you think you should pull through the fifth time. Universities have a 3 times rule. When you have flunked a subject three times you are out. It should be the same in marriage.
That said. The driver or the divorced may have had a divine encounter and a miraculous change of heart and character. I have yet to see that.
That said. The driver or the divorced may have had a divine encounter and a miraculous change of heart and character. I have yet to see that.
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I know exactly what you meant, but the analogy you used was not fitting for the point you were trying to make.
1. Driving is somewhat essential. I have to be able to drive to work. I don't have to be married. I've been single for a long time and I'm getting by just fine.
2. Driving is a test of motor skills, perception and reflexes. Marriage is a test of very different things (although reflexes can be tested in marriage too, if the couple argues by throwing things at each other...)
3. When you fail a driving test, you are not allowed to drive on public roads. When you fail a marriage, there are a lot worse things than not being married anymore. Failing a marriage is more like wrecking a car than failing a driver's license test.
That last one, number 3, that is the most important. When you fail a driver's license test you fail. Oh well, pay a couple bucks and try again. When you fail a marriage there's a lot of damage done. The more marriages you try, the more damage you pile up.
1. Driving is somewhat essential. I have to be able to drive to work. I don't have to be married. I've been single for a long time and I'm getting by just fine.
2. Driving is a test of motor skills, perception and reflexes. Marriage is a test of very different things (although reflexes can be tested in marriage too, if the couple argues by throwing things at each other...)
3. When you fail a driving test, you are not allowed to drive on public roads. When you fail a marriage, there are a lot worse things than not being married anymore. Failing a marriage is more like wrecking a car than failing a driver's license test.
That last one, number 3, that is the most important. When you fail a driver's license test you fail. Oh well, pay a couple bucks and try again. When you fail a marriage there's a lot of damage done. The more marriages you try, the more damage you pile up.
And THAT, ladies and gentlemen, is probably the best advice you will find on this whole thread. Never marry a nerd. Nerds will always spot logic inconsistencies and they WILL mention them. Marrying a nerd is the quickest way to get an ulcer.
And that is probably why I'm still happily single. Being a nerd is a great life, and very peaceful.
And that is probably why I'm still happily single. Being a nerd is a great life, and very peaceful.
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I like to look at statistics. And statistically speaking, a fourth marriage would be a disaster.
I agree with both of ya'll though. If the person wants to try a fourth time...go for it. But tread carefully because the odds are stacked up against you. I think if a man or woman had three marriages without God and on the fourth time they found God...it could be different and beautiful.
I was raised by a single mom...I love to look at all the statistics that I was not a part of.
I agree with both of ya'll though. If the person wants to try a fourth time...go for it. But tread carefully because the odds are stacked up against you. I think if a man or woman had three marriages without God and on the fourth time they found God...it could be different and beautiful.
I was raised by a single mom...I love to look at all the statistics that I was not a part of.
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