Is it okay to serve alcohol at your wedding?

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Is it okay to serve alcohol at a wedding?

  • Yes. It’s a personal choice.

    Votes: 7 70.0%

  • No. It shouldn’t be allowed.

    Votes: 2 20.0%

  • I don’t know.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Other, please comment.

    Votes: 1 10.0%
  • Total voters
    10
Mel85

Mel85

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Over my lifetime of attending different types of weddings, I’ve been to a mixture of alcoholic and non-alcoholic served weddings.

The weddings that did not have alcohol were more family orientated but the people who drank (lets say on a reg basis) attended and I could tell that they wanted to drink.

The weddings that did serve alcohol were mainly for adults and things did get rowdy, especially at the after partys, but everyone seemed to have fun.

Now, I don’t have a problem with people drinking, (I don’t drink at all), but I wanted to know your thoughts, have you had the same experiences as I or have you had a different experience? I haven’t had a drink for many years now (personal choice) and the time that I ever did, was when I was part of a bridal party and it wasn’t bad of a experience, in fact, it was a joyful vibe but the day after wasn’t so great 😫😂

Does it even matter if alcohol was served at a wedding?

Does it come down to personal consumption and control?

Does alcohol have an effect on how the atmosphere of the wedding turns out?

Married friends are welcome to comment as well.
 
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Lillywolf

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Yes, it is OK to serve alcohol at your wedding. Jesus changed casks of water into wine in Canan. John 2.
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It was tradition to serve wine at Jewish weddings. Not doing so would have been very unusual to say the least. The scriptures teach against drunkenness. Not imbibing in moderation. And because there wasn't always fresh water in the early centuries in ancient Palestine and elsewhere. What would people drink were it not for wines?
 
melita916

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We didn’t have alcohol at our wedding. The venue would have costs more if alcohol was served, and we were very careful with our budget. Most people who attended didn’t drink anyway lol. Those who drink alcohol didn’t seem to mind the lack of. If they did mind, I was never told.
 
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Lillywolf

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melita916 said:
We didn’t have alcohol at our wedding. The venue would have costs more if alcohol was served, and we were very careful with our budget. Most people who attended didn’t drink anyway lol. Those who drink alcohol didn’t seem to mind the lack of. If they did mind, I was never told.
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True. The cost of adding alcohol to a venue rental can be ridiculous. My cousin rented a hall from his best friend who was in charge of such things. Then on the invitations to the reception, because the wedding invites were restricted to family and dear friends, which was for hundreds of more people, cousin and his soon-to-be-wife had this lovely art work on the inside invitation cover. Grapes, flute glasses, a wine cask. So as to inform invitees the occasion was BYOB.
People showed up with their bottle of choice. Uber service was on standby to preclude any possibility of drunk driving as people were asked to leave their keys with the coat check. If they were later seen to be too drunk to drive, Uber to the rescue.
On the back of the invitation was the address to the house of the brother of the groom so people could pick up their keys next day. Keeping it legal, safe and, knowing my cousin no surprise, cheap frugal.
 
Quantrill

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Mel85 said:
Over my lifetime of attending different types of weddings, I’ve been to a mixture of alcoholic and non-alcoholic served weddings.

The weddings that did not have alcohol were more family orientated but the people who drank (lets say on a reg basis) attended and I could tell that they wanted to drink.

The weddings that did serve alcohol were mainly for adults and things did get rowdy, especially at the after partys, but everyone seemed to have fun.

Now, I don’t have a problem with people drinking, (I don’t drink at all), but I wanted to know your thoughts, have you had the same experiences as I or have you had a different experience? I haven’t had a drink for many years now (personal choice) and the time that I ever did, was when I was part of a bridal party and it wasn’t bad of a experience, in fact, it was a joyful vibe but the day after wasn’t so great 😫😂

Does it even matter if alcohol was served at a wedding?

Does it come down to personal consumption and control?

Does alcohol have an effect on how the atmosphere of the wedding turns out?

Married friends are welcome to comment as well.
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I leave the decision to the Bride and Groom. They give out the invitations. They know their crowd.

Quantrill
 
Mel85

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Lillywolf said:
Yes, it is OK to serve alcohol at your wedding. Jesus changed casks of water into wine in Canan. John 2.
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It was tradition to serve wine at Jewish weddings. Not doing so would have been very unusual to say the least. The scriptures teach against drunkenness. Not imbibing in moderation. And because there wasn't always fresh water in the early centuries in ancient Palestine and elsewhere. What would people drink were it not for wines?
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Agree re drunkenness, there was a wedding I attended where people got so wasted, there were dramas that escalated - it was a hot ugly mess.
 
Mel85

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melita916 said:
We didn’t have alcohol at our wedding. The venue would have costs more if alcohol was served, and we were very careful with our budget. Most people who attended didn’t drink anyway lol. Those who drink alcohol didn’t seem to mind the lack of. If they did mind, I was never told.
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Yes, it costs more, which some people are willing to splash out on lol.

Weddings in general are expensive, especially if you know alot of people.
 
Mel85

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Quantrill said:
I leave the decision to the Bride and Groom. They give out the invitations. They know their crowd.

Quantrill
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Well, would you allow alcohol to be served at your wedding? Or if you’re married already, did you allow it?
 
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Lillywolf

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Mel85 said:
Agree re drunkenness, there was a wedding I attended where people got so wasted, there were dramas that escalated - it was a hot ugly mess.
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That's a true shame. Because inebriated minds in a state of high anger don't realize this is a one time event for the couple. And that hot mess is one of the memories they'll carry with them .
Worse if the family employed a videographer to commemorate the event so they can show it to their kids in the future.
Yikes.
 
Quantrill

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Mel85 said:
Well, would you allow alcohol to be served at your wedding? Or if you’re married already, did you allow it?
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I would have no problem with it one way or the other. It would depend on the bride and groom.

Quantrill
 
Lynx

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The correct answer to this question depends a LOT on the region, and will be different in different places. It is advisable to check with the pastor or somebody local who knows the region well.

As has been mentioned already, it also depends a lot on the crowd you expect.
 
melita916

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i went to a wedding last week, and there was a bar. as far as i know, no craziness happened lol.
 
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toinena

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I have never been to a wedding where there haven't been served alcohol. But this time we are not going to serve alcohol. We are having it on a place where alcohol would cause a problem as well. Out of concern of children and people with a problem with alcohol, I think it is better to avoid it. Of course there can be argued Biblically for both sides. I leave that to the BDF.
 
p_rehbein

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Is it ok to serve alcohol at a wedding?

So many jokes.........so inappropriate.........sigh
 
melita916

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if i remember correctly, if we served alcohol at our wedding venue, the venue would then need to have security guards.

no, thanks. lol
 
Mel85

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toinena said:
I have never been to a wedding where there haven't been served alcohol. But this time we are not going to serve alcohol. We are having it on a place where alcohol would cause a problem as well. Out of concern of children and people with a problem with alcohol, I think it is better to avoid it. Of course there can be argued Biblically for both sides. I leave that to the BDF.
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There’s quite a difference between serving and not serving alcohol at a wedding.

The wedding I went to that did not have alcohol was super family orientated.
 
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toinena

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Mel85 said:
There’s quite a difference between serving and not serving alcohol at a wedding.

The wedding I went to that did not have alcohol was super family orientated.
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I love that. It is awful for a child to see it's parents intoxicated
 
zeroturbulence

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It depends. There are some families who know that alcohol would be a baaaaaaaaaaad idea. In that case no, it would not be ok to serve it.

But I think most families don't have to worry about that sort of thing. Jesus didn't. He even made more wine when they ran out!
 
LightBright

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I know drinking is fine but getting drunk is sin right? So unless you have a specific person or crowd that has a problem with getting drunk it should be fine right? If i were to get married, assuming it was in the area, i would be sinning cuz my step dad and a few of my sisters could stumble from serving it at the wedding sooooo yeaaa that's my answer it depends lol.
 
Mel85

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toinena said:
I love that. It is awful for a child to see it's parents intoxicated
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I agree. Unfortunately in today’s society, especially in low income level or decile families or areas, parents drinking alcohol in front of their children is the norms. Its part of their lifestyle. Some are trapped in it because they don’t know any other way.
 
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