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avery3667

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my step dad is in Delaware right now, and my mom is taking it really hard. Whenever i go onto the computer, the history shows that she's been watching porn. is this OK?? and i also know that she sends him dirty pictures of herself. I'm in serious turmoil right now. please help me. she doesn't know that i know this, and I'm too afraid to talk to her.
 
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TracyBurge

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No its not ok at all. does your mother profess to be a christian? if she does then u have every right to talk to her about it. i would be scared to but it needs to be discussed. pray about it that God would give you the right words to say
 
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seaco711

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the porn is bad - the dirty pictures.... i don't know. i would say that's fine... right?
 
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mit

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Communication is important in every family and what has to be said should/must be said. Your mom should know that you know there are some or many ways of doing it like simply leaving the computer on the history page, telling an aunt, uncle or close relative/friend who may make it seem they discovered it themselves unless they may not be able to access the computer. Again you are just 14, I would like to think you also need help you must have at least peeped to see what she was so interested in, if you didn't you still need help to stay pure.

Basically, the bible teaches and encourages us to be pure and undefiled. We must hate what God hates and God hates evil. Therefore, being in the situation you are in, it is quite easy to get caught up in porn and to find justification in the fact that your mom also watches it. So watch out, contact your pastor or sunday school teacher and stay safe on the narrow path.
 
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sarah219

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i dont see anything wrong with the dirty pics but the porn isnt good we are all sinners thats why we need God pray and ask him to help
 
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FrankensteinGirls

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I really think that's your moms business not yours. And definitely not appropriate to tell an aunt or uncle.
Just my opinion.
 
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lightbliss

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As far as porn is concerned, I think it's wrong.

As for the pictures, as long as it's between only your folks (i.e., no other people see it, it doesn't contain someone other than your mom/dad, etc), then it's okay.
 
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sensitive

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Just pray for her in secret, just between you and
God only. You already know in your heart the porn is wrong. As for the pictures for your StepDad, they are married right? So as long as they are married and it is for his eyes only that is between the two of them. But yes the porn is wrong but I would pray about that in secret. God is the one that changes people, not us anyway.
 
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dmdave17

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sensitive said:
Just pray for her in secret, just between you and
God only. You already know in your heart the porn is wrong. As for the pictures for your StepDad, they are married right? So as long as they are married and it is for his eyes only that is between the two of them. But yes the porn is wrong but I would pray about that in secret. God is the one that changes people, not us anyway.
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Amen, Sensitive!
Very good advice.
 
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mit

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Not that I think my idea is the best neither do I want to offend anyone but "....know in your heart...","...in secret...", "...none of your business..." all seem like trying to evade the problem instead of dealing with it squarely.

You need to uproot the evil instead of pruning or doing some slashing.
 
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Seriously_Cool_Wife

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As a mother....

If I did fall into sin like that, I would be mortified if my kids found it... but I'd be horrified even more if they didn't tell me and continued to watch me fall further into that sinful lifestyle.

I'm not saying she's in a place to really recieve instruction from you, but maybe a quiet word that you've found it is enough needed to let God's conviction work on her heart. Pray and forgive her, and try to turn your eyes AWAY from your mother's and step father's sins. We have enough sin to combat in our own lives not to fall and trip over some one elses.

Pray that God will guard your heart, mind, vision, and innocence in all of this. Innocence is a good thing... we cannot UNSEE stuff... pray for your protection.
 
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Slepsog4

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the term porn is directly from the Greek term for fornication or prostitution. Lust is a sin. Sending pictures to one's own spouse may not be the smartest thing to do, but it is a private matter between married folk.
 
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Sweetheart1987

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wow...all the ''as far as the pictures are concerned it's okay''...that's just...I'm sorry I disagree. Yes they may be married,but you don't know where those pics could end up...a glitch in the system,the husband could send them to anyone,she might send them to others who knows. Not saying either of them would,and that's just a general statement as well. I don't believe it's okay to send naked pics of oneself to the spouse,boyfriend,girlfriend,whatever the case may be. God gave us one another to be together in person,not photos,etc. in a provocative manner. The pics of oneself even if it's to the one you're married to,is just wrong. That's porn in itself. Even if two people are married,no matter how ''private'' it may be or they THINK it may be. I know most will disagree,and that's okay I respect your right to your own opinion. However this is mine and I stand firmly upon it. God bless each of you.
 
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vagabond

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Can't really say which one is right or wrong, porn or dirty pictures? Isn't that the same?

Anyway... I believe it is none of your business but I can understand you worrying about it. So if it really bothers you do something about it.

Now I don't know how good your mother can handle straight conversation but I believe any parent would feel great shame if the child found out about an act like that. So maybe you should talk to her indirect. For example bring the porn/dirty picture matter up as an issue that troubles you as you are in the age of 14 and ask her about what she things about it. If got two cousins at your age and I know how easy porn gets into teens life nowadays. Try to built up a healthy ground for a conversation. Ask questions about "you" according to the respond you get that might point things out she is doing without her understanding that you know. I'm sure if she is an honest person to herself she will think at the same time about what she is doing. She might even feel the guilt and the need to repent before you even say anything ;) Try to be a bit of a moderator as well, in the conversation.

The best way to get to people and show their weakness is to make that weakness part of our self so they would feel comfortable talking about it ;) (if that makes any sense)
 
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Happy2bme

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I agree w/"sweeetheart"... I don't have my bible here with me but wasn't it Lot's children (or maybe not) who saw his nakedness when he was drunk & were punished for it... had she never taken the pics then u, her child would never have happened upon her nakedness on the pc (however it may have happened)... so already it's not a good thing.
 
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DanuckInUSA

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Honor your mother and father. You are not theirs to teach but vice versa. It is good that you know it is wrong, pray for them. You show no honor by sharing this with an uncle or aunt.
 
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Free2LoveJesus

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I'm a realist and this is a post by a 14 year old kid and their only post on CC?? I think you guys just got Trolled.

Could the story be true? Yes
Likely? No

Would be nice if the original poster engaged in more specific open dialogue with the CC community so we could get to know her and see if she's sincere in wanting our help.
 
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DanuckInUSA

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trolled or not it is important to answer the question if not for the OP for everyone else who makes their way to the thread.
 
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Free2LoveJesus

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DanuckInUSA said:
trolled or not it is important to answer the question if not for the OP for everyone else who makes their way to the thread.
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Really? LOL that made me laugh I have to admit when I think of important what comes to mind is food, shelter, basic survival skills not this topic but whatever LOL
 
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DanuckInUSA

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To show biblical truth to any situation is to persevere in the face of a trial. This produces steadfastness in the word James 1.
 
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