Hi everyone! Thank you all for your advice, your prayers, and encouragement. Just an update: I did end it with him. I still am a little bummed about it. I didn't realize how strong of an emotional attachment I had with him. Mind you I have NOT even met him yet. We've just been talking by phone, FaceTime or text. We were supposed to meet up for New year's. I'm in an emotional stronghold right now. I know its my fault for putting my emotions and my heart into it so easily...so early. I'm not looking for criticism right now. I just ask that if you are a true Believer in Jesus Christ, if you know how I'm feeling right now...especially if you are a fellow woman...please help me pray. Thanks and God bless
I'll be very honest and blunt with you. You don't need prayer, except maybe to have the strength to die to yourself and let this obviously sinful man go altogether. God makes it very clear from the Bible how to know who is a true Christian, one who truly has a heart for Him. This man bears bad, rotten fruit. You are choosing to hold on due to your flesh.
If you wait on God's perfect timing, Jesus can give you a man who bears good fruit and it will be CLEAR that he is a good man with good fruit, and he will have a true love of God. The devil will throw men your way, don't fall for those traps, and that is exactly what they are. You need to be spiritually strong and know exactly what you need where you will not settle for rotten fruit. If someone held out a nice sweet apple in one hand and a stinking rotten one in the other, which one should you take?
I am not telling you this just from my own reading of scripture, but I have personal experience. I fell for a man very similar to what you are describing yours to be. I got emotionally attached and ended up in a terrible marriage from hell to a heathen man. I saw all the red flags, ones similar to yours, and I chose to ignore what I knew from the Word of God and I followed my own evil heart and flesh. You don't want this burden on your life, that man will ruin you emotionally and corrupt your walk with God.
Don't expect him to change or one day see your good Christian walk and have a miraculous change of heart. This is extremely unlikely! God says light should not to be yoked with darkness. If you break His rules right out, how can you expect him to bless you for that and change that man's heart? It doesn't work like that.
Like others have said, run. And run without looking back. This is like Lot and his wife fleeing from Sodom, don't look back with remorse for what you're leaving behind. I can look back on my life and see how God was repeatedly trying to warn me, letting me see the darkness and evil of my husband before I married him. But, I chose to be disobedient and reaped absolute misery.
I urge you to look up Derek Prince on YouTube for his videos on God being a matchmaker. God brought Eve to Adam, the perfect helpmate. That divine occurrence hasn't changed. If you have a heart truly and fully for God, and you wait on Him and His timing, praying for only His will to be done, He will give you the right mate.
That is the problem with you, same as me 5 years ago, you are seeking for your own will to be done here. God says let HIS will be done.
God says the heart is wickedly deceitful, so don't fall for yours! Put on the mind of Christ, and it all becomes clear. Seek a man who matches your light, don't grasp for darkness.
like you said, only God can change him, but also know that this guy could not be the one for you as well. 
