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Locoponydirtman

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If you want a great wife, find a devout Christian lady, who likes to cook, keeps her environment clean, and can silly laugh out loud even at herself.
One time a long time ago my wife was bringing my friend and I a glass of tea out in the front yard. She tripped and fell down the porch stairs. I had no idea what had happened all I saw was my wife laying on the ground with two glasses of tea in her hands unspilled, laughing like a little kid.
You find that girl marry her right then.
 
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kaylagrl

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If you want a great wife, find a devout Christian lady, who likes to cook, keeps her environment clean, and can silly laugh out loud even at herself.
One time a long time ago my wife was bringing my friend and I a glass of tea out in the front yard. She tripped and fell down the porch stairs. I had no idea what had happened all I saw was my wife laying on the ground with two glasses of tea in her hands unspilled, laughing like a little kid.
You find that girl marry her right then.

Actually when my husband met me I had never cooked a meal. I traveled in ministry and was never at home. I always had meals made for me. When we began dating I was honest about this. When we began to get more serious I was worried about marriage and house keeping/cooking. I brought this up one day and hubby said "I'm not marrying you because I need a maid,I'm not helpless." Well he took a risk that paid off. I actually have a talent for cooking and baking. Hubby gained so much weight the first year of marriage the doc told him he needed to cut back. Funny thing is he had more faith in me than I did in myself. He said he had fully expected to eat burned meals that first year. rofl Sometimes a risk pays off. ;)
 
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LadyInWaiting

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How do you PM? I am not hitting on you it is just I like talking to like minded people?
I prefer not to PM with people I don't know yet...especially of the opposite gender. I'm sure you can find some brothers on here to talk to. :)
 
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Locoponydirtman

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Actually when my husband met me I had never cooked a meal. I traveled in ministry and was never at home. I always had meals made for me. When we began dating I was honest about this. When we began to get more serious I was worried about marriage and house keeping/cooking. I brought this up one day and hubby said "I'm not marrying you because I need a maid,I'm not helpless." Well he took a risk that paid off. I actually have a talent for cooking and baking. Hubby gained so much weight the first year of marriage the doc told him he needed to cut back. Funny thing is he had more faith in me than I did in myself. He said he had fully expected to eat burned meals that first year. rofl Sometimes a risk pays off. ;)
Sweet
 

melita916

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i agree with those that have mentioned about the movies. movies make things look "perfect," but the truth is marriage is work. it's making choices that glorify the Lord. it's about admitting when you're wrong and apologizing. it's about forgiving your spouse when he/she hurts you (i'm not referring to emotional/physical/verbal abuse. if someone is in this kind of relationship, other actions are needed). yes, my friends. there will be times when you'll be hurt by your spouse due to misunderstandings/disagreements. oh! and because neither sex is a mind reader lol. communication is necessary!

when i was younger, i had my "list" of what i wanted in a man. as i grew older, the list got shorter, not because i was "settling," but because i realized some things on the list were just not necessary.

my husband compliments me, but he does NOT complete me. only Jesus can complete me.
 

Subhumanoidal

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How do you interpret Genesis then?

There are many clues saying that there is someone for everyone

Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.

find implies you need to search.

Also,
1 Corinthians 7:2
But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.


I believe that there is someone out there who you would do anything for and NEVER hurt.
Neither of those scriptures even suggest at the concept of a soul mate. The very concept of a soul mate negates the need to look because you should be drawn together naturally. So that scripture actually opposes soul mates.
Also if they are God ordained soul mates then that suggests Gods timing is wrong if people are finding them late.
The idea of people being made for each other first came out of pagan mythology, not the church. The bible teaches people are made for God, not other people.
If soul mates were a biblical notion then why does Paul discourage marriage and suggest it as a deterrence to serving God fully?
So the idea is God creates two people for each other, which limits their ability to serve Him, and then can't deliver them on time?
Sounds like biblical contradiction and the implication God is screwing it up as well.
 
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I think the love of our lives should be Jesus Christ.
It is imperative that Jesus be the "love of our lives". He is the One Who stands with us through thick and thin.


Then find a man / woman who loves the Lord Jesus Christ and build a relationship with him / her. The husband / wife relationship grows strong and flourishes over many years and not all the time spent together is a bed of roses.

And those things that you think are so cute in the other person may end up irritating you once the infatuation stage of the relationship wears off.

Also, as life goes on and you build your relationship with your spouse, there are times when life is smooth sailing and times of stormy seas. Patches of bright sunshine and gloomy days.

Interestingly enough, the times the relationship grows stronger and tighter are those times when things are a little rough and you have to rely on each other to get through difficult times. When things are rough, you want someone beside you who you can rely on and trust in, someone who is not going to falter and leave you to stand on your own. And as you both stand together, each of you looking to the Lord, you face the obstacles of this life and remain steadfast in faith.

Love the Lord first and foremost, study God's Word together, pray together, help your spouse be a strong believer in the Lord.


Song of Solomon 8:7 (NLT) Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.



 
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It is imperative that Jesus be the "love of our lives". He is the One Who stands with us through thick and thin.

Then find a man / woman who loves the Lord Jesus Christ and build a relationship with him / her. The husband / wife relationship grows strong and flourishes over many years and not all the time spent together is a bed of roses.

And those things that you think are so cute in the other person may end up irritating you once the infatuation stage of the relationship wears off.

Also, as life goes on and you build your relationship with your spouse, there are times when life is smooth sailing and times of stormy seas. Patches of bright sunshine and gloomy days.

Interestingly enough, the times the relationship grows stronger and tighter are those times when things are a little rough and you have to rely on each other to get through difficult times. When things are rough, you want someone beside you who you can rely on and trust in, someone who is not going to falter and leave you to stand on your own. And as you both stand together, each of you looking to the Lord, you face the obstacles of this life and remain steadfast in faith.

Love the Lord first and foremost, study God's Word together, pray together, help your spouse be a strong believer in the Lord.


Song of Solomon 8:7 (NLT) Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.


AMEN
 

GardenofWeeden

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I believe love is a choice, not some feeling. Knowing this, there is no "one perfect person" for anyone. We choose to love each other, not in spite of, but because those parts that infuriate us about each other are what makes us who we are. It's worked for us for over 27 years so far. My husband didn't understand this, and kept telling me I was wrong for believing this way, saying I could simply change my mind one day, which is true, but he could wake up and his feelings changed too, so it is always a risk regardless what you believe love is. When we went through a seriously rough patch he saw what I meant about love being choice. Even in anger, frustration and disappointment I tended to his needs caringly, and I made sure he had what he wanted. I showed him that I chose to Love in spite of him trying his hardest to make me not love him (no abuse or anything stupid like that), and he saw that. God works in odd ways often.
 

Homewardbound

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I've been married 23 years, and I would not trade a day of it for anything.
is my wife perfect. No! Am I perfect? No way! But we both love the Lord immensely and find ways to work things out.
We didn't get married too early in our relationship. I dated her for 6 months before proposing, and then married 1 year later
after a lot of "getting to know you" discussions...it pays to take your time.
 
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jbrooks5912

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I know so many people who make the claim in the present time but, as years pass on, they either where mistaken by their choice, seduced by external beauty or just weren't willing to wait for the right one.

I am interested in hearing from people who have gone the distance. Stood the test of time and can offer some guidance of how they got there?

I read a statistic the other day that said:

17% said they met their soul mates too late.
73 percent of people surveyed say they are “making do” in their relationship because their true love got away.
And 46 percent say they’d leave their spouse or partner to be with their true love.

THIS is scary is it not?

Any thoughts?
Lol no kidding, i rather wait becayse when someone shows interest in me and i show in return then i always get crushed its a mever ending thing for real. But you know, guys like me and women who admire true love are a dying breed because of how their heaeta get torn apart by who they rhought liked them but in the end never liked rhem in the first place.
 

Demi777

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Love of my life....hmmm i think so. Lots of differences but the love of my life he may be