Hello everyone,
I'm a man. Lately I have been trying to have worship with my family, but it seems futile. Every time I try and have worship, something happens. To give a little background, my wife and I have 4 children. So when we are sitting down the evening to have worship, and I say it's time for prayer, I look and notice that no one is paying attention and that everyone is doing there own things. I try to gently call things to order, and no one listens. They just keep doing whatever they have been doing. When I go to enforce things by discipline, my wife does not do anything, but rather supports the children in their disrespect.
This was something that I dealt with a lot when I was younger. I would try and share my faith with my friends, and they would make fun of me. I remember being called "preacher boy" at camp meeting, for trying to share some things about the Bible. What cuts the deepest is the fact that it is my wife now who is treating what I do when it comes to worship with contempt.
In fact, while I am trying to read to the children, a lot of times, she is on her phone and not paying attention to what I am saying. The children watch her and then follow suit.
As a result of this I find myself isolated, and feeling like what I say or do does not matter. I also feel emasculated and like less of a man. I know that an elder must have his children in subjection under him with all gravity, and I don't feel like they are. My brother is constantly telling me I need to "be the man, and take off the dress" and "wear the pants in the relationship." I feel pressure from almost every angle when it comes to this. I don't know if any other men can relate on this area, but it hurts, and it hurts deeply. I don't know why this is such a huge wound, but it is. I still remember my grandpa calling me a "mammas boy" at a very young age and it cutting to the heart. Feeling worthless and disrespected is a huge wound. I'm not sure how I'm going to get over it, but I know one thing for sure: God IS going to give me the victory! He would not have brought me to this Jordan, if He did not have a plan.
So on that note, I guess the question is: What should I do in this situation? My wife is a believer, but she is not supportive of me and who I am and what I stand for and that just hurts. I plan, by God's grace to be married to this woman for the rest of my life, and so I am just looking for solutions to the problem.
God calls me to be the spiritual leader in my home and I can't be that because I'm constantly being undermined by my wife. There has to be solutions.
If they do not pay attention to what you say about worship, or the Bible, it is obvious that they do not care that much concerning God, and the Bible.
And the thing is America gave liberty to females, and children, unlike the past, or any other nation, and when a person has liberty they will exercise it, and exalt themselves, for that is the way of the flesh whether, man, woman, or child.
Not to dog out women, and I am not in to controlling people, but America gave liberty to women unlike any time in the past, and unlike any nation, where they can have positions of authority in all phases of society, and job positions.
And because of that what do we find, but the women act like the men because of the liberty that they have in America, so they will exercise that liberty in the family.
That is why it is hard to find June Cleaver, and that pleasant attitude that she had on that television program, and woman do not act like they did in the 1950's and before that time, for it is a different ballgame now, and they are in to controlling now according to the liberty they have in America.
For a movement as bold as feminism, testifies that they have liberty, and a lot of it.
Concerning children they also have liberty unlike any other time, so they will exercise it, and that is why they are so outspoken as if they have some say so in the family trying to trump the parents.
For the truth is children will only act according to how the parents, and government allow them to act, so if they are unruly then guess whose fault it is.
And children will be influenced by other children, and the majority of them live in households where they parents are relaxed in morals.
The counterculture movement opened a can of whoop butt in America, for now there is parents not as moral as they once used to be, so the children are not being taught strict morals, and the parents with their immorality cause the children to say that their parents do not do what is right, and they are trying to tell us to behave, which they are drunkards, druggies, stealers, breaking the law, cursing out the neighbors, and the such.
Which that is not the case with all parents, but children are still influenced for they know that is what goes on in America, and want to have liberty too, and a lot of children do not look to the father as the main authority, but the women as equal as the father, for she will act according to the liberty America gave her, so they will side with the authority of the mom like they would the dad, which ever way they want to go.
So it is standard procedure now their conduct, for people will basically act the same in society with a few exceptions which is those that are led of the Spirit, for they will escape it.
So women will exalt themselves, and children will exalt themselves, according to the liberty that America has given them, so the father is not listened to as he once was years ago.
A lot of relationships in America it is the woman that does the most controlling, for they like it according to the flesh of the liberty that America gave her.
So women will act like the men with that liberty, and the children will act like the parents with that liberty, and act as if they are the ones that can make decisions in the family.
Which a person could say but they flat out do not care, and the father is ignored, but why is that, it is because of the liberty that America gave them, so they will exercise it, for it is now standard procedure, and behavior in America.
1950's and before the standard procedure, and behavior was different, but when the 1960's came around the standard procedure, and behavior changed, and became worse where you can have trouble with a 5 year old rebelling, and swearing like a sailor.
Pro 30:11 There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother.
Pro 30:12 There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.
Pro 30:13 There is a generation, O how lofty are their eyes! and their eyelids are lifted up.
Pro 30:14 There is a generation, whose teeth are as swords, and their jaw teeth as knives, to devour the poor from off the earth, and the needy from among men.
The last generation before Jesus comes back, standard procedure, and behavior, where the children will not obey the parents, and highly selfish, highly arrogant, aggressive towards each other, not washed from the filthiness although they think they are alright, and will devour the poor from off the earth, and the needy from among men, which we see they are doing a good job at that as millions, and billions of dollars is not enough for them.
It's a whole new ballgame today, and the Leave it to Beaver days are gone, and anything prior to it, for we are at the last generation.
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