Let God do the Searching...

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ceszy_gal

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Successful, God-centered marriage is a dream of every Christian single. But in order to do that, we must learn and apply the word SURRENDER (to the Lord). Yes, it's an unpopular disgusting word in the world associated with the cowards. But it is one important action that we do to see God's hand move.

As a woman who is Christian since 5, with no boyfriend since birth, I was labeled different and peculiar. People try to ask me why and try to make me feel left out. Some of my friends would try to set me up for a date but i always turn it down. Yes they find me a weirdo with such high standards( though i'm really not). People are so curious about me and constantly ask me. And i always give them one-word-answer.... and it's called faith!

We know that we should have a God-fearing Christian partner. Many of us, when feeling left out, try to ask God and figure out who that special someone could be. We try to look for possibe partner in the church, (or worse in the outside world) and we if don't see someone as a "potential", we ask God skeptical questions.. On the other hand, if we find someone as a "potential" we quickly jump to it, without thinking, praying and seeking God's will fearing that God may disapprove it.

I believe that many of us are in constant search. But let me remind you that we should surrender in faith to our Brilliant Father! Seek the Lord rather than seeking for a possible partner. God has a plan and a time for everything. Don't waste your time searching that could end up in disaster. Let God do it, because when you let God, you make the wisest choice.If He thinks you're ready enough, He'll give the right one. Don't be in so much hurry like you're running out of possible partner.. just pray it to the Lord and believe He has the right one for you. Stop the stressful search, focus on God and you'll find peace within. Learn to trust God.. "for those who hope in the Lord will not be disappointed". In the perect time we're gonna have this promise fulfilled in our lives... if we take that step of FAITH! GOD BLESS!
 
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lordsservant121

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Very well said, cesy_gal. I said something similar in another thread but not quit so eloquently. Faith is the answer to almost every urge we have. And the reason we make mistakes is lack of faith. GOD bless.
 
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MsPhilippines

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Thanks for sharing this cesy_gal...you helped me..take care :)
 
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MsPhilippines

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Thanks for sharing this cesy_gal. you helped me. Take care :)
 
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ceszy_gal

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lordsservant121 said:
Very well said, cesy_gal. I said something similar in another thread but not quit so eloquently. Faith is the answer to almost every urge we have. And the reason we make mistakes is lack of faith. GOD bless.
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Glory to God. Thanks to god for the compliment.
 
Liamson

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God didn't give Noah an Ark. God merely gave Noah the Animals to fill it. Noah still had to spend years building it.

If you know the Parable of the ten virgins, it was the ones who were prepared, that received the Bridegroom.

I don't think waiting alone is enough to be ready. God might just answer your prayer, leaving you only to find yourself before your potential mate weighed measured and found wanting.
 
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xEyesOnFirex

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Liamson said:
God didn't give Noah an Ark. God merely gave Noah the Animals to fill it. Noah still had to spend years building it.

If you know the Parable of the ten virgins, it was the ones who were prepared, that received the Bridegroom.

I don't think waiting alone is enough to be ready. God might just answer your prayer, leaving you only to find yourself before your potential mate weighed measured and found wanting.
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Well said.
 
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ceszy_gal

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Well i'm not saying you've got to do nothing. Like when God tells you that your LOVE is now here,i'm not saying you just gotta sit back and do nothing. What i'm trying to say is stop making yourself weary doing that time-wasting search. Set your heart on God totally and when you do, you can set your heart on that special person.. The Bible tells us to Seek Him and His kingdom and He'll add all things to you. Many times, we should "Wait patiently". So that we'll not jump into disastrous relationship.. I know a bass player and a song leader in a church who married.. only to end up in divorce after 2 years leaving their child miserable because of their endless family fights. They were both leaders in the church who decidd to marry just because they thought they were for each other just because they were Christians and were both inclined to serving the Lord through music.. and the guy told me.. that such was a terrible mistake.. i could name a lot of examples.. relationships that ended bad because they can't wait. The bottomline of what i'm saying is God's will is perfect.. We don't have to manufacture it.. It's well-planned.. You need to do something and that is to obey the Lord and cease spotting every member of the opposite sex as possible soulmate or whatever. After all that's tiresome.
 
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ceszy_gal

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And hey... how about this... Did Adam search the whole earth for a partner.. ? of course not. God just gave Eve.
 
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ugh.... LOL

Thats such a cop out.
 
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ceszy_gal

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well it's not...
 
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So I'm going to sit around and eat fudge and marshmellows cause God is going to steal a rib in my sleep and make me a wife.
 
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ceszy_gal

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well it's not
 
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ceszy_gal

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haha... of course not... haven't i told you? i did not say you have to sit back... you have to do something... first is to seek God's will then obey! if God tells you to court that girl then go. But if he tells you she's not there yet, then stop searching and wait.
 
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ceszy_gal

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don't take it so literally.. it's such a nice time talking to you liamson...
 
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ceszy_gal

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so i bet your not eating fudge or marshmallows and let God steal a rib to make you a wife.... hhahahaha
 
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mac6375

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Might I remind everyone that God also says faith without works is dead! How can you potentially find the right one, if you never risk the wrong one? The problem with so many is that they assume God will just lead them to someone, but that's not enough. You still have to do the searching, give the time and interest. If you just go about being single, and refusing to take a chance once in a while, don't expect God to let you know that anyone is the right one for you.
 
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ceszy_gal

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Faith works through obedience.. i guess some people doesn't really get what i'm trying to say about the word "waiting".. Waiting in the Bible doesn't literally mean doing nothing.. It is doing the thing that God wants you to do with the right attitude of the heart, and not trying to push hard personal will. There are so many things that we might need to do now before entering courtship.. Maybe establishing a deeper relationship with Him, developing career and maybe a lot of character molding.., etc.

what i'm trying to say is let us not weary ourselves in searching for that one while losing the focus on God. Risking is okay if it's what God says.. diving into relationships that is not the will of God can be dangerous and regret-prone. Many are not willing to wait because waiting is such a hard thing to do.. but after all it's worth it.. He is not a killjoy God. He will exceed your expectations if you only trust Him to do the right thing.
 
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