Interesting discussion going on here - I see Margo74 as someone honestly and openly endeavoring to serve the Lord, admitting sin and failure and struggle, but growing in grace and love.
To say that "we are saved by grace because we cannot obey"? Really, where does the Bible say this? The command to obey is repeated and given throughout the New Testament. Never that I know does the Word say we cannot obey. Surely the Word admits our humanness and our inability to follow God perfectly and completely, but this is quite different from saying we "are saved by grace because we cannot obey. "
If you say something like this I would agree: We are saved by grace and not by works. We have all sinned and were it not for the grace of God none of us would be saved.
To accuse someone of peddling a "works doctrine" and "robbing Jesus of His glory" and "calling Him a failure in His ability to keep a person saved" are quite severe charges! Now perhaps Margo74 has actually said these things? Or, is she being interpreted this way because she does not believe in OSAS?
Margo, do you believe in a works doctrine? do you believe you help Jesus keep yourself saved? do you believe that Jesus is a failure because He is not able to keep you saved? (Do you believe these or have you said these things?)
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO to all those questions. I do not believe in OSAS as many do. I truly believe there is more to it than just believing. Believing that Jesus Christ is the ONE and ONLY Way to Heaven is a MUST but only a first step. IF we believe, we must ENDURE believing no matter what. Once one loses belief and does not find it again, one loses all. IF we believe, we must love Christ. IF we love Christ, we must do what He Himself said: "IF you love ME, [THEN] keep my commandments" (the two great commandments which cover all things). Of course, we may strive to obey but we fail to do so from time to time and when we do, we have two choices: repent and be forgiven, our sins forgotten, and no punishment suffered OR don't repent and keep on sinning. If we repent genuinely and God knows if we do or not as He alone can read our hearts, we shall have eternal life. If we sin and refuse to repent, we shall have the lake of fire. Again, as I have repeated over and over, God wants none to perish but many will because they will put their will ahead of God's. God will force no one to come to Him or stay with Him. That has to be our choice. Salvation is a gift to ALL from God. As with all gifts, it can be accepted or rejected. If accepted, it can be kept forever or it can be lost by sinning and going one's own wrongful way as did the prodigal son and then as did the prodigal son, one can repent aka turn back to God aka change back to doing God's Will. If accepted and then lost by sinning, one may refuse to repent and just do his/her own will and abandon God and His Will and if one does so and never repents, one is choosing by his/her own free will to be condemned to the lake of fire for eternity. The latter would not be God's wish or God's doing but God ALLOWS us to make our own free will choices and to take the good or bad consequences of such. IF anyone ends up in the lake of fire for eternity, it will be because he/she remained an unbeliever or he/she believed but disobeyed and refused to repent. God will be like the prodigal son's father who loved his son but let him go his way and kept on loving him, missing him, wanting him back, but never forcing him to return. His son repented and returned to his father who welcomed him with open loving arms and celebrated his return as does Christ over finding one lost sheep and the prodigal son's father explained all this celebration as being because his son had been lost but now was found and had been dead but was now alive. This is the exact parallel to how God treats His prodigal children. Like the prodigal son, some of us prodigal children repent and return to God, our Heavenly Father, but some do not repent and do not return. ALL were offered the gift of Salvation and ALL could have it and keep it but EACH has to decide IF he/she will believe, love, obey, repent when he/she fails to obey and we all fail from time to time. If we remain saved, it is because we submitted to God and His Will. If we do not remain saved, it is because we chose to go our own way and never repent aka return and such is entirely on our heads as God did not make us do such and nor did Satan or anyone else .. it was our choice and ours alone .. no one to blame but ourselves. I do hope this will have others understand what I am saying and what I truly mean and believe as such is well supported in God's Holy Spirit inspired Word and Truth. Eternal life in heaven is for the victorious. Anyone who would be forced to go to heaven when he/she has CHOSEN to sin and not repent is not victorious and did not endure in doing God's Will but, instead, his/her own sinful unrepenting will and he/she perishes for such.