The Senses

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Which of the five senses make you attracted to the opposite gender?

  • Sight

    Votes: 8 47.1%

  • Smell

    Votes: 8 47.1%

  • Hearing

    Votes: 10 58.8%

  • Touch (If you pick this one please explain)

    Votes: 5 29.4%

  • Taste (nobody should honestly pick this one)

    Votes: 4 23.5%

  • Other/Combination

    Votes: 4 23.5%
  • Total voters
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RadioU

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Recently i had a conversation with my friend and i asked her what made her attracted to a guy, and she said that she was very persuaded by how the guy smelled.
This lead to the question: Which of the five senses make you most attracted to someone of the opposite gender?
I was just wondering your thoughts/opinions
 
Thomas60

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I don't think i'd give a direct answer, first impression-wise visual is quite descriptive... but I think over longer periods hearing can be the best because it puts in a dimension about just sound, but also the ability of us to see the thoughts and demeanors of those around us.
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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I chose 'other' because I am attracted to a woman's personality more than anything else.
 
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Jullianna

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I think it's a combination of things that initially cause someone to get our attention. Later on, as we learn other things about them (like faith, intelligence, personality...), the attraction either becomes deeper or certain things cause us to back off, but the senses do play an important part at first meeting if we're being honest.

Sight - Not a specific thing, more the overall appearance of a person. It's not about a certain eye/hair color or body type (thought it might be for some folks), or about wearing the best, newest, most expensive thing, or spending a bundle on your hair, etc. It's about how a person carries themselves. Are they approachable? Do they pay attention to personal hygiene? Do they smile or do they appear dark and brooding?

Smell - RadioU, I completely understand your friend. About a month ago I was at the mall and a guy walked by me. I didn't really pay attention until his scent hit me. Nothing overpowering...just simple, clean and light. I started to turn around and ask him what it was, but that seemed a little too stalkerlike. :)

Hearing - A voice can be a very attractive thing. It can be strong, yet gentle and calming at the same time. Consider the impact listening to certain people sing love songs can have on us. (Josh Turner *sigh*)

Touch - Whether a person is affectionate or standoffish can be very important to some people. I'm not talking about someone crawling all over you, squeezing the life out of you or being suffocating, but when a guy takes your hand or guides you into a room with his hand on the small of your back in a way that says "this is my lady", it can have an impact I can't even begin to explain.

Wisdom tells me to skip the whole taste issue. lol
 
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Liamson

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Jullianna said:
I think it's a combination of things that initially cause someone to get our attention. Later on, as we learn other things about them (like faith, intelligence, personality...), the attraction either becomes deeper or certain things cause us to back off, but the senses do play an important part at first meeting if we're being honest.

Sight - Not a specific thing, more the overall appearance of a person. It's not about a certain eye/hair color or body type (thought it might be for some folks), or about wearing the best, newest, most expensive thing, or spending a bundle on your hair, etc. It's about how a person carries themselves. Are they approachable? Do they pay attention to personal hygiene? Do they smile or do they appear dark and brooding?

Smell - RadioU, I completely understand your friend. About a month ago I was at the mall and a guy walked by me. I didn't really pay attention until his scent hit me. Nothing overpowering...just simple, clean and light. I started to turn around and ask him what it was, but that seemed a little too stalkerlike. :)

Hearing - A voice can be a very attractive thing. It can be strong, yet gentle and calming at the same time. Consider the impact listening to certain people sing love songs can have on us. (Josh Turner *sigh*)

Touch - Whether a person is affectionate or standoffish can be very important to some people. I'm not talking about someone crawling all over you, squeezing the life out of you or being suffocating, but when a guy takes your hand or guides you into a room with his hand on the small of your back in a way that says "this is my lady", it can have an impact I can't even begin to explain.

Wisdom tells me to skip the whole taste issue. lol
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Well..........

Lemme just say, I agree with the sight portion of what you are saying, like there are people without pointing fingers or poking fun, and in spite of their best interests, are visually disqualified. I suppose the same can be said of people who are smell - disqualified. ( Downy Fabric Softener is a total WIN)

But hearing is something that gets me. It is the sound tone and effectiveness of a persons words that win me over. Its like if the tongue is a two edged sword, then a woman who has the skills of a fencer will always have my attention. Its what a person says more than anything else that give me an insight into their wisdom and out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.

The touch thing is telling but in the opposite way. Some women don't like to be touched or touch too much in general, either way it can be like a barometer into trust issues.
 
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Maddog

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In rough order:

Sight (the fitter the better, dark hair has the edge, aversion to ginners)

Smell (even if she's fit, sometimes her smell just doesn't do it for me. Most girls smell nice though)

Hearing (if she says stupid things, expresses terrible opinions, or has a southern/studenty accent it would deter me, unless she makes up for it by being really really fit and smelling nice, but even then I'd stay away from southerners)

Touch (I'm not a very tactile person, so a very touchy feely lass would put me off. On the other hand, if they're fit and they give me hug it sometimes feels nice).

I have never, to my knowledge, tasted a lass.
 
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Jullianna

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Liamson said:
But hearing is something that gets me. It is the sound tone and effectiveness of a persons words that win me over. Its like if the tongue is a two edged sword, then a woman who has the skills of a fencer will always have my attention. Its what a person says more than anything else that give me an insight into their wisdom and out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
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I would have to agree with that. No matter what the voice sounds like, if they aren't saying anything of substance, at some point, the mind does tend to drift.
 
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NandehRu

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sight : nail shape, color.. always caught my attention, i don't care much of how you look physically what you wear or whatever doesn't catch my attention that much, but nail shape , both hands and feet. Nails helps discern the people's character even health issues lol.

but that doesn't mean i am attracted lol just caught my attention

I go for Other/Combination
It's just so hard to be attracted to a man no matter how good he looks, smells, and owhh..it's creepy when they become so touchy.it's the His spiritual status that attract me much, and his simplicity lol
 
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NandehRu

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sight : nail shape, color.. always caught my attention, i don't care much of how he looks what he wears or how trendy he is, doesn't catch my attention that much, but nail shape , both hands and feet does . Nails helps discern people's character even health issues lol.

but that doesn't mean i am attracted lol just caught my attention

I go for Other/Combination
It's just so hard to be attracted to a man no matter how good he looks, smells, yet harsh in his ways, and owhh..it's creepy when they become so touchy.it's his spiritual status attracts much to me, also his simplicity(genuine) lol
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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In no particular order. Smell, Sound and personality.
 
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mac6375

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Most importantly the person for me has to be 100% for Christ and His kingdom. I believe if they are, then the rest will fall in to place.
 
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Lalilo

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To be above the animal kingdom we must be above the 5 physical senses and use our 6th sense, which is a gift from God. The spirit is more important than the flesh.
 
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Jullianna

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I totally agree that faith is #1, but I understood him to be talking about initial attraction. Maybe I misunderstood the question....

We can't know where someone stands regarding matters of faith until we actually get to know them.
 
grace

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As other here, I don't think I can define it by just one of the senses.

Of course you notice things about the persons physical appearance. I think the first thing I am prone to notice is their smile, or lack of one. (I guess along with that overall hygiene is an obvious must.)

Smell can be a very big attraction. (or turn off if they do not follow the above rule of hygiene lol)

The sound of someones voice can also be very nice. But I think it does not matter what they sound like if they do not have anything to say that makes me laugh, or grow, or be challenged etc.)

I am also a touchy-feely sort of person so touch can be another really nice thing. I can't speak for all ladies, but there is just something about a the guy I am with putting his hand on the small of my back as we are walking through a doorway, or into a room etc. Mhm, a nice attentive detail. :)
 
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Jullianna

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grace said:
I am also a touchy-feely sort of person so touch can be another really nice thing. I can't speak for all ladies, but there is just something about a the guy I am with putting his hand on the small of my back as we are walking through a doorway, or into a room etc. Mhm, a nice attentive detail. :)
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perzactly :)
 
Jilly81

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Maddog said:
Hearing (if she says stupid things, expresses terrible opinions, or has a southern/studenty accent it would deter me, unless she makes up for it by being really really fit and smelling nice, but even then I'd stay away from southerners)
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:rolleyes: I'm more concerned with not marrying a bigot than I am with avoiding a guy from a certain region or who has a certain accent.
 
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Robert1857

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Taste (nobody should honestly pick this one)

I happen to disagree. If she cooks dinner and he gags through every mouthful, that could possibly hurt her feelings and cause him indigestion.
 
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Maddog

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Jilly81 said:
:rolleyes: I'm more concerned with not marrying a bigot than I am with avoiding a guy from a certain region or who has a certain accent.
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I was being slightly tongue in cheek. But seriously, with the accent usually comes certain character traits. They're a different breed down south and the chances are (as my experience to date indicates) we just wouldn't click. To be fair, it's possibly a class divide in addition to a north-south one. In any case, it's not bigoted to call a spade a spade and to prefer like-minded people.

But besides all that, the question is about what we are attracted to. Southern accents just don't do it for me. What's wrong with that?
 
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RadioU

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To all those who are saying faith: Yes, Faith is the number one thing for all relationships, however i am refering to if you meet someone for the first time ever and you talk about light subjects. Initial attraction is the key here
 
Liamson

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RadioU said:
To all those who are saying faith: Yes, Faith is the number one thing for all relationships, however i am refering to if you meet someone for the first time ever and you talk about light subjects. Initial attraction is the key here
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Thats actually what I was referring to when I mentioned listening. Even in light subjects that may follow hi or hello, things can be gathered about who this person is.


Oh and I'm curious to know what a Studenty accent is.
 
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