Would you consider a woman in her 20s twice divorced

[OneOfHis]

@OneOfHis

Are you going to address the other passages I mentioned?

At work.

I waited many hours for you, please return the favor and don't put me on your clock.

 

[OneOfHis]

"But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment."

5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

The word for permission is:
συνγνώμην (syngnōmēn) — 1 Occurrence
1 Corinthians 7:6 N-AFS
GRK: λέγω κατὰ συνγνώμην οὐ κατ'
NAS: by way of concession, not of command.
KJV: this by permission, [and] not of
INT: I say by way of permission not by way of

Paul is referring to verse 5 in verse 6. He is making a concession to married couples, not commanding them. In this way they are not tempted by Satan for overindulging in sexual pleasure with each other. This concession allows them to maintain their spiritual health through a time of fasting and prayer. He's giving them a suggestion, not a command.

He is not referring to the verses that follow, namely 10 and 11. We know this is the case because verse 10 does contain a command from the Lord.

10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Now to verse 8:

1 Corinthians 7:8
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.

In verse 8 the word for unmarried is:
ἀγάμοις (agamois) — 1 Occurrence
1 Corinthians 7:8 N-DMP
GRK: δὲ τοῖς ἀγάμοις καὶ ταῖς
NAS: But I say to the unmarried and to widows
KJV: therefore to the unmarried and
INT: moreover to the unmarried and to the

It carries the same conatation as the english word "unmarried". A divorced person is also unmarried. This does not mean that being divorced and having never been married is the same thing. The evidence to support this can be found in verse 11, where the singular form of the same word is used to describe a divorced woman.

1 Corinthians 7:11
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Let her remain unmarried, is not the same as "never let her marry again"

I disagree with your understanding of verse 11...


I agree to the "unmarried" includes those who have been divorced....

 

[selfdissolving]

At work.

I waited many hours for you, please return the favor and don't put me on your clock.

take as much time as you need

 

[OneOfHis]

@OneOfHis

Are you going to address the other passages I mentioned?

Matthew 5:31-32
“Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”

Again Jesus describing the letter of law to those who think they have lived it.....

Speaking of the law moses gave to the jews that was addressed in matthew 19 as well....

same principal

This is God showing His absolute standard in order to "uphold the law" in that specific verse


He is teaching many things here

convicting and encouraging and using examples to show how serious even lusts of the heart are to GOD


Do you believe what Jesus said in the verse you posted is pertaining to the laws of moses, or spiritual in nature?

I see this as Jesus using the law to convict those who believe they kept it

and later sums up
(same chapter... in matthew)
27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:

32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

33 Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths:

34 But I say unto you, Swear not at all; neither by heaven; for it is God's throne:

35 Nor by the earth; for it is his footstool: neither by Jerusalem; for it is the city of the great King.

36 Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou canst not make one hair white or black.

37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:

39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.

41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.


How even if they kept the law, they are not living up to Gods standards.


The law is not how we ought to define our marriage or who God can join together


but what was from the beginning and His design


I believe you are mixing up instruction for upholding the law, with instruction for righteousness

and not understanding freedom in Christ


yes ... do not divorce....
yes it is better to remain single


but i still see 1 cor for what it says....

it is better to marry than burn with lust (using language which includes those divorced already)

 

[selfdissolving]

Let her remain unmarried, is not the same as "never let her marry again"

I disagree with your understanding of verse 11...


I agree to the "unmarried" includes those who have been divorced....

she can get married again, but only to the husband she divorced. She has 2 options, remain divorced or be reconciled. Remaining divorced means not marrying ever again. Nowhere in the Scriptures are Christians told to go ahead and marry someone else after a divorce. This is called adultery, and over and over again we are commanded not to do it.


1 Corinthians 7:11
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried OR be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

 

[OneOfHis]

she can get married again, but only to the husband she divorced. She has 2 options, remain divorced or be reconciled. Remaining divorced means not marrying ever again. Nowhere in the Scriptures are Christians told to go ahead and marry someone else after a divorce. This is called adultery, and over and over again we are commanded not to do it.


1 Corinthians 7:11
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried OR be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

If you see it that way we will have to disagree... I see you as incorrect in your understanding unless you have more to add?


It says nothing about remarriage there... but it does in the verse before it..

 

[OneOfHis]

Again Jesus describing the letter of law to those who think they have lived it.....

Speaking of the law moses gave to the jews that was addressed in matthew 19 as well....

same principal

This is God showing His absolute standard in order to "uphold the law" in that specific verse


He is teaching many things here

convicting and encouraging and using examples to show how serious even lusts of the heart are to GOD


Do you believe what Jesus said in the verse you posted is pertaining to the laws of moses, or spiritual in nature?

I see this as Jesus using the law to convict those who believe they kept it

and later sums up
(same chapter... in matthew)
27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:

32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

33 Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths:

34 But I say unto you, Swear not at all; neither by heaven; for it is God's throne:

35 Nor by the earth; for it is his footstool: neither by Jerusalem; for it is the city of the great King.

36 Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou canst not make one hair white or black.

37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:

39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.

41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.


How even if they kept the law, they are not living up to Gods standards.


The law is not how we ought to define our marriage or who God can join together


but what was from the beginning and His design


I believe you are mixing up instruction for upholding the law, with instruction for righteousness

and not understanding freedom in Christ


yes ... do not divorce....
yes it is better to remain single


but i still see 1 cor for what it says....

it is better to marry than burn with lust (using language which includes those divorced already)

(just adding a bit ... I rushed this.... still at work)

I do want to add we are to still follow the laws of the land and do our best to be blameless... which means to obviously fall in line with all marriage laws


(though not all "legal"marriage is marriage... two men can get "married"...but I bet God did not join those two in holy union)

 

[MegMarch]

At work.

I waited many hours for you, please return the favor and don't put me on your clock.

I've been patiently waiting for hours for the verse I posted to be addressed.

 

[selfdissolving]

Again Jesus describing the letter of law to those who think they have lived it.....

Speaking of the law moses gave to the jews that was addressed in matthew 19 as well....

same principal

This is God showing His absolute standard in order to "uphold the law" in that specific verse


He is teaching many things here

convicting and encouraging and using examples to show how serious even lusts of the heart are to GOD


Do you believe what Jesus said in the verse you posted is pertaining to the laws of moses, or spiritual in nature?

I see this as Jesus using the law to convict those who believe they kept it

and later sums up
(same chapter... in matthew)
27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:

32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

33 Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths:

34 But I say unto you, Swear not at all; neither by heaven; for it is God's throne:

35 Nor by the earth; for it is his footstool: neither by Jerusalem; for it is the city of the great King.

36 Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou canst not make one hair white or black.

37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:

39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.

41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.


How even if they kept the law, they are not living up to Gods standards.


The law is not how we ought to define our marriage or who God can join together


but what was from the beginning and His design


I believe you are mixing up instruction for upholding the law, with instruction for righteousness

and not understanding freedom in Christ


yes ... do not divorce....
yes it is better to remain single


but i still see 1 cor for what it says....

it is better to marry than burn with lust (using language which includes those divorced already)

The context of Matthew 5-7 is Jesus speaking to his disciples. These are his commandments to his Church. He is not speaking to the Pharisees to try and convict them of inability to keep the law. He is instructing his disciples how to live as Christians.

Matthew 5:1-2
1 And seeing the multitudes, he went up into a mountain: and when he was set, his disciples came unto him:
2 And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying,
3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

In verse 19 we see more proof that Jesus is teaching his disciples how he wants them to live:

Matthew 5:19
19 Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.

The problem with your understanding of 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 is that it is contradicted 2 verses later.

Your claim is that verse 9 is telling a divorced woman to go ahead and marry another man, but in verse 11 Paul is commanding divorced women to remain divorced or be reconciled to their husband.

That's a contradiction! So which one is it?

Furthermore, marrying another person after divorce is referred to as adultery multiple times in Scripture, and adultery is sin. Paul is neither giving us permission to sin or contradicting himself. Unmarried in verse 8 means a woman who has never been married since that lines up with the full counsel of God's Word, and unmarried in verse 11 means a woman who was once married but is now divorced, since Paul is telling her to reconcile with her husband.

As we've seen before agamos (ἄγαμος) can be used in either instance. Our exegesis of the passage has to take into account the full counsel of the Word of God.

 

[selfdissolving]

I've been patiently waiting for hours for the verse I posted to be addressed.

I did not see the verse you posted. Please post it again and i will address it

 

[MegMarch]

1 Corinthians 7:27-28 NASB

27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.

 

[kinda]

This is one of those topics that people will not change their minds on. You can quote scripture until 4 new blood moons come, but people will find a different point a view.

Was just giving commentary on the discussion of the thread, not the subject matter. Keeping my mouth shut, already said my peace.

Let's try to remember to love each other while we karate chop each other up in a Biblical debate.

 

[OneOfHis]

The context of Matthew 5-7 is Jesus speaking to his disciples. These are his commandments to his Church. He is not speaking to the Pharisees to try and convict them of inability to keep the law. He is instructing his disciples how to live as Christians.

Matthew 5:1-2
1 And seeing the multitudes, he went up into a mountain: and when he was set, his disciples came unto him:
2 And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying,
3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

In verse 19 we see more proof that Jesus is teaching his disciples how he wants them to live:

Matthew 5:19
19 Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.

The problem with your understanding of 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 is that it is contradicted 2 verses later.

Your claim is that verse 9 is telling a divorced woman to go ahead and marry another man, but in verse 11 Paul is commanding divorced women to remain divorced or be reconciled to their husband.

That's a contradiction! So which one is it?

Furthermore, marrying another person after divorce is referred to as adultery multiple times in Scripture, and adultery is sin. Paul is neither giving us permission to sin or contradicting himself. Unmarried in verse 8 means a woman who has never been married since that lines up with the full counsel of God's Word, and unmarried in verse 11 means a woman who was once married but is now divorced, since Paul is telling her to reconcile with her husband.

As we've seen before agamos (ἄγαμος) can be used in either instance. Our exegesis of the passage has to take into account the full counsel of the Word of God.

You are wrong about what I claimed....

I also disagreed with your understanding of 1 cor 11 but you just imputed your belief to me.....

There has been no "contradiction".


As for the disciples yes, I agree He was speaking to them and thank you for pointing that out to me... I conflated chapter 19 with 5 in my mind while trying to multi task at work. My mistake...

But I still stand by that being distinction between the law, and what was being practiced during those times. (also being distinct from what is absolutely perfect in a few cases)

He often instructs even the disciples like this....


Here is a clear example of this.... (ye have heard...
but I say)

27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

_________

Is Jesus telling people to physically rip out their eyes?

No... He is demonstrating how much sin is underestimated and comparing the law to perfection
________


(ye have heard but I say)


21 Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment:

22 But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
___

again^



All of divorce in of itself is not tied to Gods plan of perfection... divorce itself is a law.... and Jesus then tells how to follow this law perfectly

_______


31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:

32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
____



How can you claim this is not about the law when Jesus said What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder....

^ There is his example of perfection compared to the law...


If you are unmarried, wether divorced or not


it remains better to marry than burn with lust....

 

[selfdissolving]

1 Corinthians 7:27-28 NASB

27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you.

I've included the surrounding verses to provide context. Paul is advising the Corinthians to remain in the state they were in when they were called. If you are married, stay married. If you are unmarried, stay unmarried. Yet if an unmarried person wishes to marry, they have not sinned. This does not apply to divorced people, because that would contradict the other verses which say that marrying again after divorce is a sin.

1 Corinthians 7:24-28
24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.

25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.

26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

 

[Butterflyyy]

The context of Matthew 5-7 is Jesus speaking to his disciples. These are his commandments to his Church. He is not speaking to the Pharisees to try and convict them of inability to keep the law. He is instructing his disciples how to live as Christians.

Matthew 5:1-2
1 And seeing the multitudes, he went up into a mountain: and when he was set, his disciples came unto him:
2 And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying,
3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

In verse 19 we see more proof that Jesus is teaching his disciples how he wants them to live:

Matthew 5:19
19 Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.

The problem with your understanding of 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 is that it is contradicted 2 verses later.

Your claim is that verse 9 is telling a divorced woman to go ahead and marry another man, but in verse 11 Paul is commanding divorced women to remain divorced or be reconciled to their husband.

That's a contradiction! So which one is it?

Furthermore, marrying another person after divorce is referred to as adultery multiple times in Scripture, and adultery is sin. Paul is neither giving us permission to sin or contradicting himself. Unmarried in verse 8 means a woman who has never been married since that lines up with the full counsel of God's Word, and unmarried in verse 11 means a woman who was once married but is now divorced, since Paul is telling her to reconcile with her husband.

As we've seen before agamos (ἄγαμος) can be used in either instance. Our exegesis of the passage has to take into account the full counsel of the Word of God.

What about Matt 5:32 and also 1 Corinthians 7:15?
God is just... how can it be justified that someone who has had adultery committed against them through no fault of their own must then never be allowed to re-marry? This would be cruel and unjust.
And when folks haven't studied the Word properly in this matter they ought to be careful that they are not twisting the knife in the heart of fellow believers, by being so opinionated. Make sure you got your facts absolutely right on such a sensitive issue- it could affect the lives of others in a way you would not want for yourself I'm sure.
Unless you have walked a mile in another man's shoes....

 

[selfdissolving]

If you are unmarried, wether divorced or not


it remains better to marry than burn with lust....

Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

You can believe what you want. I'm gonna take Jesus at his Word.

 

[selfdissolving]

What about Matt 5:32 and also 1 Corinthians 7:15?
God is just... how can it be justified that someone who has had adultery committed against them through no fault of their own must then never be allowed to re-marry? This would be cruel and unjust.
And when folks haven't studied the Word properly in this matter they ought to be careful that they are not twisting the knife in the heart of fellow believers, by being so opinionated. Make sure you got your facts absolutely right on such a sensitive issue- it could affect the lives of others in a way you would not want for yourself I'm sure.
Unless you have walked a mile in another man's shoes....

God is neither cruel or unjust, but he is the Boss. If he said that's how he wants it, that's how we ought to do it.

God's direction is for our protection and benefit, not to punish us. I encourage anyone who may be struggling with this to trust the Lord and do what he says.

We are called to deny ourselves, take up our cross and follow Jesus.

The only reason that these things are even up for debate in the modern day is because the divorce rates are through the roof and we live in a hyper-sexualized society. But God's Word doesn't change. Compromising on his Word is a bad idea.

 

[OneOfHis]

Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

You can believe what you want. I'm gonna take Jesus at his Word.

again.

back to context

already explained


but instead you quote one sentence.... easy to push a false doctrine that way

_______
exodus 32 33
And the LORD said unto Moses, Whosoever hath sinned against me, him will I blot out of my book



If you dont understand grace this can be used to push a false idea standing alone



you agreed unmarried means presently unmarried wether having been divorced or not

then twist what it means depending on what you want it to mean at the time....


dont you under stand why the word virgin is used here?


Corinthians 7:24-28
24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.

25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.

26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you


as in NEVER MARRIED......


same chapter... same paul speaking

vvv


8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.

9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.



22. agamos ►

Strong's Concordance​

agamos: unmarried

Original Word: ἄγαμος, οῦ, ὁ, ἡ
Part of Speech: Noun, Feminine; Noun, Masculine
Transliteration: agamos
Phonetic Spelling: (ag'-am-os)
Definition: unmarried
Usage: unmarried, of a person not in a state of wedlock, whether he or she has formerly been married or not.​

virgin would have been used paired with widows if he was not including those who have been divorced

 

[OneOfHis]

You can believe what you want. I'm gonna take Jesus at his Word.

Common cop out....

"welp the bible says what I believe not what you believe"

as if the other person hasnt read or doesnt believe the same bible


c'mon now

the differences are from bias or false understanding.... language blocks

unless you are speaking to someone who doesnt trust Gods word

we have been discussing Gods word and the CONTEXT of what is being said

i have said multiple times "you love truth" "we both trust Gods word" "we both love Jesus"

but most of what you say seems to imply the opposite of those who disagree with you


sounds like implied accusations and digs opposed to a genuine attempt to share the truth

 

[Butterflyyy]

God is neither cruel or unjust, but he is the Boss. If he said that's how he wants it, that's how we ought to do it.

God's direction is for our protection and benefit, not to punish us. I encourage anyone who may be struggling with this to trust the Lord and do what he says.

We are called to deny ourselves, take up our cross and follow Jesus.

The only reason that these things are even up for debate in the modern day is because the divorce rates are through the roof and we live in a hyper-sexualized society. But God's Word doesn't change. Compromising on his Word is a bad idea.
The point is you are missing some of what He says, to the detriment of those who have been treated unjustly. Understanding God's character is a key part of this and your point is illogical.
Divorce rates must have been pretty bad in Moses' day and it's safe to say that the days and society of Lot in Sodom and Gomorrah were even more sexualised than they are today. In Noach's day God was sorry he made man for their thoughts were evil continually.
You need to be very sure about advising Christians that not re-marrying after divorce is them 'taking up their cross.'
I have been in a church where old ladies have broken their hearts in public because they were heavy-shepherded into not re-marrying only to be publicly apologised to by leadership many, many years down the line when their lives had been virtually spent.
I think it would be wise if you to prayerfully consider your position and also study key words in these verses in Hebrew and Greek.
Ultimately you are not addressing the verses I have brought to your attention. You seem to be ignoring them despite me warning you of the heavy responsibility on you if you teach others this; not to mention the insensitivity towards brethren who have already been very hurt by others. Do you not for one moment consider that this matters to God? They are worth more than many sparrows, they are His children...