How do YOU express love?

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Belka

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Hello beautiful souls,

I hope you're having a lovely day / night.

I'm curious to know how you express love to others around you, in your daily life.

I am not talking about the love languages, but about the actual, practical, things that you do that show others you love them.

Since most of us here are single, this question can be applied to your family members, friends, colleagues, and even strangers.

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Looking forward to your replies!
 

tourist

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One way I express love is to wake up to go to work in the morning.
 
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I send love energetically, and always willing to say a nice word or help someone. Saying that, I'm an introvert, so don't like human company for to long. Much prefer to be with animals, arachnids and by myself.
 

Belka

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I send love energetically
What do you mean by that?

I hope the Lord will connect you with a good friend you can spend time with, if that's a desire of your heart. Someone who won't feel draining to you!
 

Pipp

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I try to be kind to everyone and consider their feelings , and I bake them cakes ;)
 

17Bees

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Even Mr. Rogers gets a little nervous around me....

 

Going_Nowhere

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By staying away from people and having nothing to do with them. Now THAT is loving, right?
 

love_comes_softly

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Hello beautiful souls,

I hope you're having a lovely day / night.

I'm curious to know how you express love to others around you, in your daily life.

I am not talking about the love languages, but about the actual, practical, things that you do that show others you love them.

Since most of us here are single, this question can be applied to your family members, friends, colleagues, and even strangers.

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Looking forward to your replies!
I love this topic. :)

Ways that I express love to those around me:

* I make time and I listen wholeheartedly (no distractions)

* I like to leave little notes of encouragement when I feel lead to

* Smiling- even at strangers (I love that you can "talk" through expressions or even through ones eyes, I suppose that could come off as creepy :ROFL: I hadn't considered that.)

* If I see something that makes me think of the person, I like to get it for them or share it with them.
 
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What do you mean by that?

I hope the Lord will connect you with a good friend you can spend time with, if that's a desire of your heart. Someone who won't feel draining to you!
I just imagine her image, and send rays of light her way. Usually they perceive that, if they are spiritually awake that is
 
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EliBeth

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1) This may sound super silly and cheesy to some, but when I text people I like to add emojis because I feel like I'm giving them an extra little gift. It adds color and interest. Same when I send a card in the mail- I like to use colored ink pens and decorate the cards and/or envelopes with stickers, drawings, stamps. And Scriptures of course! 😍

2) I use pet names and terms of endearment when addressing those I love- e.g. for my Mom I call her "Marmie", and for children I often call them (for girls) "Sugar", "Darlin", "Precious", (and for boys) "Bud" or "Bub"... Y'all, I'm 24 and I still call my brother "Bubba"! 😅

3) The Lord helps me to show love by forgiving quickly... Confession: There was a time when I had a boss who really discouraged me because I just couldn't seem to please her. That was hard, but God has freed me and I don't harbor bitterness against her now. Glory to God!

4) I leave a significant amount of space in between me and the vehicle in front of me when driving. It bothers me when people get right up on my bumper, so I don't do it. 😊

One thing my family does that I so appreciate is we simply say, "I love you." Those three words hold so much importance. Even so, our actions do need to back up those words.

Another of our family symbols of love is holding hands during meal-time prayer.

As a child, one way that my Father loved me was by talking and praying with me before bed.

My Mother always comments on my appearance before I leave the house. Like, "You look so pretty!" It may sound vain, but her approval is love. It is a blessed thing to know your parent approves of you.

My Aunt always strives to make me as comfortable as possible when I am over at her house- offering food and beverages, a blanket if it's cold, turning the ac on if it's hot, etc.

Belka, have you any contribution? I would like to hear some things you do to show love or some things you have noticed others doing. 🙂 I think you probably have some great things to add to the list, Sister. 💜💙❤️
 

Belka

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I just imagine her image, and send rays of light her way. Usually they perceive that, if they are spiritually awake that is
That sounds new-agey : / Be careful with that. The best you can do for someone is to pray for them in the name of Jesus. Avoid all that energy / sending light-love-peace stuff. That is not biblical brother. I know because I used to be into that kind of thing.
 

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... simply put to say... by...

everyday😁
 

Belka

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Belka, have you any contribution? I would like to hear some things you do to show love or some things you have noticed others doing. 🙂 I think you probably have some great things to add to the list, Sister. 💜💙❤️
EliBeth! So good to "see" you again :D
And wow, you sound like an amazing person with an amazing family, haha. I would have loved to be your friend IRL.

Thanks for sharing all those with us.

As for me, honestly @love_comes_softly 's list is pretty much it! That's also what I do. (high five, sister)


But the way I express love depends on if I'm interacting with a believer or not, as well.


--- If they're in Christ, I will generally be more open with them in my expression and find it easier to tell them "I love you" and hug them, and also send them Bible verses / pictures or encouraging words. Depends on how close I am with them of course (it's not automatic).

With some, it's immediate, and it takes them aback a little bit. For instance, there's a brother in the church I go to, and I just LOVE his mom, like I can't even explain why, I loved her pretty much immediately upon meeting her. We saw each other for the first time at their place for dinner, and after that dinner I gave her a big hug and told her I love her. Mind you, we barely even interacted with each other. She seemed super surprised but also really delighted in my spontaneous love confession (lol) but that's the kind of thing that happens to me fairly often.

I believe it's love from the Holy Spirit towards His people, it is really supernatural and divine and happens very fast. I am not sure why I don't experience it with every single believer in that same way, though. Like, I love all my brothers and sisters in Christ, but with some, it's a different level. Does that make sense? And it doesn't have anything to do with how much I know them or anything like that. Just an immediate strong love. Eh, it's hard to explain.


--- If they're not in Christ, I find it more difficult to be that openly affectionate. Probably because I (wrongly?) assume they won't really understand that kind of affection and love I have for them and I don't want them to think the wrong thing (something like, I like them more than a friend, or whatever).

To be honest, I still find it tricky to express love to others in many situations. I have a lot of love to give but I am also quite reserved and don't want to make others uncomfortable, or make them assume things that are wrong about my intentions (even with fellow Christians).


Generally though, I share my love verbally and through the written word, by telling them how amazing they are and how much I love them and how much God loves them, etc. I also love writing people encouraging notes / letters and giving them little gifts (if I know their taste a little bit). And if they're comfortable with physical touch, I love hugging them and just gently rubbing their back or shoulders, etc. as a sign of affection.

Sometimes I offer to pay for their meal / drink / whatever and I have also happened to pay for more expensive things before, like paying part of a plane ticket or just sending money to help for whatever reason. Right now that's a little more difficult since I'm unemployed but I do offer generosity to others when I can.

Cleaning up after others / serving them is also a way I show love but that's something I would do regardless of the situation, so it's less personal, if you will.

If I enjoyed cooking, I would probably cook for others, too. But alas, that's one area I am really not good at, lol.

And like love_comes_softly mentioned, I smile a lot in my interactions with others and try to actively listen and be present with them. It's a challenge with my family members sometimes but it's a work in progress. : )

With strangers, I sometimes smile at them and if I'm feeling bold, compliment them on something I notice. It's not as culturally acceptable here in Western Europe though, so it's not as easy to do as in the States. When I'm in the States, I'm like "Hey! I really like your hair! Jesus loves you! Have a great day!" LOL.


Bahhh, such a long post...

**gives you a medal (made of chocolate and edible confetti) if you've read this far**
 

BrotherMike

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I thought of an idea that I hope to someday incorporate with my future sweetheart. We write down the 5 love languages in a jar and we each pick one to do with the person that you love for a week. Rinse and repeat each week. Gotta put in the work to keep the fire burning!
 

Lanolin

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Sharing things and putting up love hearts. Everyone knows what a love heart means...

I had emoji cushions in the library and children really go for them...I do say though they are for cuddling, not throwing. I can absolutely tell which children know how to show affection by the way they treat those cushions.