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Ok so how do you deal with kids when they have nightmares?

I'm a softy I know, when my husband isn't home( he works night shift sometimes) i just let them crawl into bed with me.

My daughter woke up crying about "monsters in my eye!!!" when I asked her what scared her.

she's only just turned 3 years old and has a very active imagination. I did too but some of the things I tried to convince myself were imaginary weren't all in my head.

I used to have vivid dreams and conversations with beings that I at five years old should not have known or remember. I found things those beings taught me when I was older and studied other religions. That's what concerns me because I know now my imaginary friends were demons disguised as angels, kids, and every day people.

The danger of magic isn't just illusion and delusions, there are actually demonic forces behind some of the ritual and things. I've seen them and they say they are "angels" helping people towards the "Light" of "Truth"

I didn't say anything because the pastor at the supposedly Christian church I was attending believe in "other paths towards God"

it was very hard to discern the truth from the lies, but my heart was always troubled by their words and I say the fruit of their influence on the lives of my friends who trusted these beings and it was not good.

they were blinded by the lies, their minds kept to busy to see the truth, the spent hours chasing after knowledge, were never happy or just content to exist but busy busy busy, work work work, help help help others but never really stopping long enough to LISTEN and LIVE.

anyway maybe I'm over reacting and she just wants to cuddly with mommy and using tactics that she knows will work on me, but what do you think

is there any harm in letting kids jump in bed with you? i just keep thinking she'll be a teenager before we know it and probably won't ever want to come into our bedroom. lol.
 
AnandaHya said:
Ok so how do you deal with kids when they have nightmares?

I'm a softy I know, when my husband isn't home( he works night shift sometimes) i just let them crawl into bed with me.

My daughter woke up crying about "monsters in my eye!!!" when I asked her what scared her.

she's only just turned 3 years old and has a very active imagination. I did too but some of the things I tried to convince myself were imaginary weren't all in my head.

I used to have vivid dreams and conversations with beings that I at five years old should not have known or remember. I found things those beings taught me when I was older and studied other religions. That's what concerns me because I know now my imaginary friends were demons disguised as angels, kids, and every day people.

The danger of magic isn't just illusion and delusions, there are actually demonic forces behind some of the ritual and things. I've seen them and they say they are "angels" helping people towards the "Light" of "Truth"

I didn't say anything because the pastor at the supposedly Christian church I was attending believe in "other paths towards God"

it was very hard to discern the truth from the lies, but my heart was always troubled by their words and I say the fruit of their influence on the lives of my friends who trusted these beings and it was not good.

they were blinded by the lies, their minds kept to busy to see the truth, the spent hours chasing after knowledge, were never happy or just content to exist but busy busy busy, work work work, help help help others but never really stopping long enough to LISTEN and LIVE.

anyway maybe I'm over reacting and she just wants to cuddly with mommy and using tactics that she knows will work on me, but what do you think

is there any harm in letting kids jump in bed with you? i just keep thinking she'll be a teenager before we know it and probably won't ever want to come into our bedroom. lol.
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I might well take some criticism for the way the missus and I handled our little girls seeking the security of their parents bed but I'll say it anyways ......we purchased a king-sized bed ....lol It wasn't every night that we had their companionship and yes, there were many times when they at 3 to 7 yrs. old manipulated us ......okay....me
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but I'll be honest with you Ananda, I never once minded cuddling and gently hugging my little girls to sleep.....and neither did my wife. Somehow, I slept better knowing they were secure in my arms. It wasn't long before their desire waned and I can tell you that I dearly miss those years that you are now enjoying. I wouldn't change a thing about them :) In regards to their nightmares and such, these were experienced as well. I would place a bible under my girls pillow (I know this sounds corny to some) and give them my assurance that by doing so, they were under the protection of God. And it worked. They trusted and felt confident that God was with them. I'm well aware that to some, this may make me look like a "kook" but if something works (especially God's word), why change it ? Enjoy your children to the utmost Ananda . It passes all too quickly. God richly bless you and your family :)
 
thanks, you know what I think i'll cross stitch some bible verses on a pillow case and they can sleep with that. :) thanks for the idea, but a bible would probably get torn up and keep them up but they do have one close to their bed :) i'll remind them of it. :)
 
I had similar cases as well with my son. He comes to get me when he has a bad dream, and I use to let him come in my bed as well. Now we have met half way and I walk him back to his room, but lay with him until he is asleep again. I think all one can really do is to be reassuring and nuturing to let them know we are here to protect them, and their room is a safe place as well as mommy's room. We also say a prayer we made up together as I'm putting him back into bed. Its a really short cute prayer that he can say and has some of his personality in it as well. On my own I pray for him each night to have a peaceful sleep and rest. Good Luck!
 
One thing I would do is to ask Jesus or Almighty God to protect your children every night before they go to bed.
 
Alot of good ideas and advise so far.
I thought Id share a few the the things we did as well.
Sharing your bed and cuddleing is always good, but we did always return our child to their bed after they were asleep or calmed down, althouth if it was a really bad dream they were allowed to stay.
We felt it was important though , for our children to know that we were there to comfort and love them, we also believed it was important for them to find protection in Jesus.
I taught them to say" Jesus Christ is Lord says you leave now!"
By doing this they knew that Jesus is always with them and will keep them safe, also this brought the power of Jesus to their heart.
I also would anoint their bed with oil, bringing the protection of Jesus to them as well.
Wether the nightmares were simply the ussual fears of childhood, or something more, by teaching them that Jesus protects them, they saw that in Jesus, God Our Father protects and loves them always.
But the protective arms of a parent, will also always witness to the protective love that is ours in Jesus.

God bless.
pickles
 
i pray daily with thanks that Father God gaurds my girls hearts and mind in Christ Jesus, amen
(since they were born)
 
Anyone who remembers laying in bed as a child, too scared to even breathe surely has empathy for their own children in the same situation. I say make room for them and cuddle them while you can. Mine, now 18 & 12, have outgrown this- and I miss it! I did teach them Psalm 56:3 "What time I am afraid I will trust in thee." We tried various assurances and 'stay in your own bed' methods but they always knew they were welcome to climb into my bed if that didn't work.
One night when my son was about 6, my husband attempted to put his foot down and send my son back to his own bed. He told him what a wonderful new bed he had, the street light made a great night-light, and his window was too high up for anyone to get in. My son said,"Well, if you think it's so great, YOU sleep in there and I'LL sleep with mommy."
Why do we expect kids to be ok with sleeping alone when lots of us don't? I never found a fair answer to that, soooo... making room and cuddling was always just fine with me.
 
I will advice you to be reading some bible verses with your kids before going to bed, teach them how to pray and the importance of prayer doing this will protect their mental power.
 
you could but it doesn't put them back to bed and sleeping peacefully.
 
Hi there, I haven't read all the replies but something you could try is leaving an open Bible in your child's bedroom and playing Christian music in it during the day. I read somewhere that this can help. Also ask the Lord to lead you to anything in the room that shouldn't be there. I read Stormie O Martians - praying parent book and she relates to issues with her son and being led by the Lord found inadequate computer games in her son's room which he had borrowed - that is just one example and I know your little one is just 3. God Bless X
 
AnandaHya said:
Ok so how do you deal with kids when they have nightmares?

I'm a softy I know, when my husband isn't home( he works night shift sometimes) i just let them crawl into bed with me.

My daughter woke up crying about "monsters in my eye!!!" when I asked her what scared her.

she's only just turned 3 years old and has a very active imagination. I did too but some of the things I tried to convince myself were imaginary weren't all in my head.

I used to have vivid dreams and conversations with beings that I at five years old should not have known or remember. I found things those beings taught me when I was older and studied other religions. That's what concerns me because I know now my imaginary friends were demons disguised as angels, kids, and every day people.

The danger of magic isn't just illusion and delusions, there are actually demonic forces behind some of the ritual and things. I've seen them and they say they are "angels" helping people towards the "Light" of "Truth"

I didn't say anything because the pastor at the supposedly Christian church I was attending believe in "other paths towards God"

it was very hard to discern the truth from the lies, but my heart was always troubled by their words and I say the fruit of their influence on the lives of my friends who trusted these beings and it was not good.

they were blinded by the lies, their minds kept to busy to see the truth, the spent hours chasing after knowledge, were never happy or just content to exist but busy busy busy, work work work, help help help others but never really stopping long enough to LISTEN and LIVE.

anyway maybe I'm over reacting and she just wants to cuddly with mommy and using tactics that she knows will work on me, but what do you think

is there any harm in letting kids jump in bed with you? i just keep thinking she'll be a teenager before we know it and probably won't ever want to come into our bedroom. lol.
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Allowing them to crawl in your bed is one way of showing them love and care physically. However, it may not be a lasting solution to the problem. When our son, Melchizedek, was three years old (2009) he used to see big isects like creatures and he could shout with crying the whole night. Even when we re wth him in our bedroom, he could still see those things. The solution ; Romans 8:37; James 5:17b and Philipians 2:9b-11. Prayer of protection over our children every night when they sleep, every morning as they go playing. Cover them with the blood of Jesus. Renounce every unknown or known covenants with the evil one.
Since Charity and I started doing that, there is always a peaceful sleeping in our children;s room. May be if you can do the same.
 
Romans 8:37 (New King James Version)

37 Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.

James 5:17 (New King James Version)

17 Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed earnestly that it would not rain; and it did not rain on the land for three years and six months.

Philippians 2:9-11 (New King James Version)

9 Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name, 10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth, 11 and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

thank you Blackson and others I will try and remember to pray over them every night and post some Bible quotes in their rooms.they have Bibles in their rooms and I play Christian music to them continuously through the day and try and remind them to pray to God when they get scared or upset. They pray over their food and thank God for providing it daily.

I just have to remember to trust in God and keep my shield of faith strong.

1 Corinthians 13 v. 4-9
" Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the TRUTH; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

LOVE NEVER FAILS, but whether there are prophecies, they will fail, whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part...."
 
Protection_Retribution said:
Yeah you can.
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But why would you? Not having children, you cannot imagine what it is to love a person more than you love anything else (except Christ).

What stands out to me about this discussion is how Christians don't seem to put much stock in what modern "science" tells us. Most psychologists, I believe, would tell us that you are stunting your child's growth by not making them face their fears on their own. What these people will never understand is that we never face anything on our own. We always have God watching over us and providing His strength in times of anxiety and fear.
 
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quote=AnandaHya;413068]Ok so how do you deal with kids when they have nightmares?

I'm a softy I know, when my husband isn't home( he works night shift sometimes) i just let them crawl into bed with me.

My daughter woke up crying about "monsters in my eye!!!" when I asked her what scared her.

she's only just turned 3 years old and has a very active imagination. I did too but some of the things I tried to convince myself were imaginary weren't all in my head.

I used to have vivid dreams and conversations with beings that I at five years old should not have known or remember. I found things those beings taught me when I was older and studied other religions. That's what concerns me because I know now my imaginary friends were demons disguised as angels, kids, and every day people.

The danger of magic isn't just illusion and delusions, there are actually demonic forces behind some of the ritual and things. I've seen them and they say they are "angels" helping people towards the "Light" of "Truth"

I didn't say anything because the pastor at the supposedly Christian church I was attending believe in "other paths towards God"

it was very hard to discern the truth from the lies, but my heart was always troubled by their words and I say the fruit of their influence on the lives of my friends who trusted these beings and it was not good.

they were blinded by the lies, their minds kept to busy to see the truth, the spent hours chasing after knowledge, were never happy or just content to exist but busy busy busy, work work work, help help help others but never really stopping long enough to LISTEN and LIVE.

anyway maybe I'm over reacting and she just wants to cuddly with mommy and using tactics that she knows will work on me, but what do you think

is there any harm in letting kids jump in bed with you? i just keep thinking she'll be a teenager before we know it and probably won't ever want to come into our bedroom. lol.
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[/QUOTE]I dont think theres anything wrong with it. You may get an uncomfortable sleep, but good to let them know that if they are scared or just need comfort then we can assure them that we are always there. This is how they learn to trust us. Just like our Father in heaven with us. We depend on him the same. I used to jump in my mums bed right up till my teens! (after a nightmare of course) Enjoy them. Nice to have a cuddle when hubby not home.

 
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