All things work to the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to his purpose.
This does not sound like a disconnected God who don't care one way or the other about our lives.
I pray that he puts a fence on both sides of my path so I don't stray. That he would guide me and keep me in his will this way, because I am not wise and I make bad decisions. The Lord however knows what is best, and he knows how to correct and to bless.
Now I do agree if some man claims to be a spokes person for God and he tries to dictate your life, you should steer clear.
The best way to stay straight is to study the Bible for yourself and pray. This way no one can lead you astray.