I think I’m gay

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Unfortunatelyasinner said:
what is there to understand? I dont like guys. I don’t have the capacity to love a man the same way you don’t have the capacity to love your sex. How can I change that? Sorry if this comes across as rude it’s not intended that way I just can’t think of another way to express this
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I could ask all kinds of questions about your past, how old were you when you began feeling this way, were you abused etc. But it comes down to this, you are free to love whoever you wish to. But if your question is can you love whoever you want to and please God, according to the Bible I would say no. I don't see how you can get around that according to Scripture. It doesn't matter what anyone here says. This is an between you and God. Only you can know His plan for your life. Sincerely ask Him to put the people in your life that should be there and close the door to those that shouldn't be. He will guide you if you trust Him to. I wish you the best.


 
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yes I do. I have a crush on someone. I’ve never liked a boy in my life and im 17. I find the idea of a boyfriend repulsive and a girlfriend really nice. I’m having a hard time understanding how loving someone can be evil.
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It may help you to know that there are different Greek words used for love in the New Testament. The type of love you're mentioning is Eros, which is romantic or sexual love. For Christians, this type of love is only permissible between one man and one woman who are married. Any other sexual activity is therefore sin and thus evil.

Immoral sexual activity is particularly detrimental to the Christian, as it is done against one's own body which houses the Spirit of God. "Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
 
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Unfortunatelyasinner said:
yes I do. I have a crush on someone. I’ve never liked a boy in my life and im 17. I find the idea of a boyfriend repulsive and a girlfriend really nice. I’m having a hard time understanding how loving someone can be evil.
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Dear Unfortunatelyasinner,

It is not evil. I will pray for you to find peace.

I had a dear childhood friend who was a lesbian. She passed last year, 43 years old, after a life in sorrow and misery. People refused to accept her, she couldn’t accept herself because of that and resorted to living a life containing of alcohol and pills. Her worn out body gave up last year.

My advice to you is to accept yourself for whom you are and don’t let the people trying to break you win. I don’t think they are acting in accordance with Christ, even though they claim to be.
 
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Dear Unfortunatelyasinner,

It is not evil. I will pray for you to find peace.

I had a dear childhood friend who was a lesbian. She passed last year, 43 years old, after a life in sorrow and misery. People refused to accept her, she couldn’t accept herself because of that and resorted to living a life containing of alcohol and pills. Her worn out body gave up last year.

My advice to you is to accept yourself for whom you are and don’t let the people trying to break you win. I don’t think they are acting in accordance with Christ, even though they claim to be.
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please could you message me privately?
 
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Unfortunatelyasinner said:
what is there to understand? I dont like guys. I don’t have the capacity to love a man the same way you don’t have the capacity to love your sex. How can I change that? Sorry if this comes across as rude it’s not intended that way I just can’t think of another way to express this
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Might i suggest you are only 17. Its okay to focus on yourself. Many people that are 17 don't know anything about what it is they want especially in a relationship. Focus on being celibate and find out who you are, a relationship can't tell you that. Get yourself a college education, a job and some quality friends. I would also suggest hang out with guys and find out what they are like because trust me they will be loyal and ensure your safety plus they are a lot of fun, it may change your mind about them.
 
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Dear Unfortunatelyasinner,

It is not evil. I will pray for you to find peace.

I had a dear childhood friend who was a lesbian. She passed last year, 43 years old, after a life in sorrow and misery. People refused to accept her, she couldn’t accept herself because of that and resorted to living a life containing of alcohol and pills. Her worn out body gave up last year.

My advice to you is to accept yourself for whom you are and don’t let the people trying to break you win. I don’t think they are acting in accordance with Christ, even though they claim to be.
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So you don't see any issue with same sex relationships at all?
 
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Yesterday I went on a chat online and spoke with a guy called bob, I’m really confused is it wrong to be gay?
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It is wrong to yield your members to sin. The includes yielding ones eyes to lust. That includes using ones body to sinful sex acts.

Two men engaging in sexual activities together is sinful. Israelites who did this in Old Testament were to be put to death. The New Testament says tgat those who do such things... And a list of other things will not inherit the kingdom of Gid.

TheLGBT movement teaches that we all have a sexual orientation and that it is normal to be 'ga' and pursue those desires. People in the movement accept such labels as their identity. But that is not what the Bible teaches. Romans 6 says to consider yourself to be dead to sin and alive to God. It says not to yield your members (parts) to sin. So if you are a man and you find yourself attracted to a man do not yield to that. Do nit accept the label 'gay'. If you are baptized into Christ, like Romans 6 teaches, walk in newness of life.

God gives us grace to desire and do according to His good pleasure.
 
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Susanna said:
Dear Unfortunatelyasinner,

It is not evil. I will pray for you to find peace.

I had a dear childhood friend who was a lesbian. She passed last year, 43 years old, after a life in sorrow and misery. People refused to accept her, she couldn’t accept herself because of that and resorted to living a life containing of alcohol and pills. Her worn out body gave up last year.

My advice to you is to accept yourself for whom you are and don’t let the people trying to break you win. I don’t think they are acting in accordance with Christ, even though they claim to be.
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What a toxic evil reply..

Isaiah 5: KJV
20 "¶ Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!"
 
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Susanna said:
Dear Unfortunatelyasinner,

It is not evil. I will pray for you to find peace.

I had a dear childhood friend who was a lesbian. She passed last year, 43 years old, after a life in sorrow and misery. People refused to accept her, she couldn’t accept herself because of that and resorted to living a life containing of alcohol and pills. Her worn out body gave up last year.

My advice to you is to accept yourself for whom you are and don’t let the people trying to break you win. I don’t think they are acting in accordance with Christ, even though they claim to be.
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Sorry to hear about your dear friend. it is sad that one who is a christian would not lead them to Christ instead of supporting the addiction and false narrative of lesbianism and homosexuality.
The idea that " one could not accept her" is lie from the pit of hell. I would never accept something so destructive for my children I would doing everything I could to help out of that addiction and self-destructive life-style. To even suggest that one is showing love by accepting that self-abuse only tightens the chain. They will answer to the Living God for not speaking truth and causing one to fall. Jesus said it is better for you, to have big rock tied around your neck and cast into the sea, then to cause one of my children to fall.

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Will answer to God for that. All have the power to provide truth and love and instead of playing the pimp, drug dealer , and child molester hiding from the word of God. Many young people are lost and hurting because of those who were called Mother & father, Teacher, Pastor, and friend. They sold out to PC narrative and became self-derived.
 
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kaylagrl said:
So you don't see any issue with same sex relationships at all?
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I have issues with people displaying hatred. Those people who were claiming to be Christians was the people making her do what she did. I don’t value that sort of behavior much, regardless of how many times they’re uttering the name of Jesus. Sounds like Pharisees to me.
 
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What a toxic evil reply..

Isaiah 5: KJV
20 "¶ Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!"
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I have read many of your posts. You of all people shouldn’t accuse anyone of making evil and toxic replies.
 
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Lev 18:22
22 You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination. NKJV

Lev 20:13
13 If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination. They shall surely be put to death. Their blood shall be upon them. NKJV

Rom 1:18-32
For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, 19 because what may be known of God is manifest in them, for God has shown it to them. 20 For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even His eternal power and Godhead, so that they are without excuse, 21 because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Professing to be wise, they became fools, 23 and changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like corruptible man -- and birds and four-footed animals and creeping things.
24 Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. 26 For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. 27 Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due.
28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; 29 being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; they are whisperers, 30 backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31 undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful; 32 who, knowing the righteous judgment of God, that those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the same but also approve of those who practice them. NKJV

1 Cor 6:8-11
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God. NKJV

1 Cor 6:8-11
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God. NKJV

1 Tim 1:8-11
8 But we know that the law is good if one uses it lawfully, 9 knowing this: that the law is not made for a righteous person, but for the lawless and insubordinate, for the ungodly and for sinners, for the unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, 10 for fornicators, for sodomites, for kidnappers, for liars, for perjurers, and if there is any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine, 11 according to the glorious gospel of the blessed God which was committed to my trust. NKJV

these scriptures are plain. Homosexuality is a sin! if you do not repent (turn from it.) you will go to hell for it! do not believe the false teachers who tell you that it is ok. this is a satanic lie!

no unrepentant homosexual will be forgiven. and no unrepentant homosexual will go to heaven! This is what God says about it very clearly!

have a great day!

David
 
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I came here for advice and most of you are being nasty about it and making a joke about out. I thought maybe I would get some good advice but not. Most of you are probably grown arsed people and your sat behind a screen being horrid to a 17 year old. Wow this is what the world has came to.
 
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Unfortunatelyasinner said:
I came here for advice and most of you are being nasty about it and making a joke about out. I thought maybe I would get some good advice but not. Most of you are probably grown arsed people and your sat behind a screen being horrid to a 17 year old. Wow this is what the world has came to.
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What type of advice do you want?
 
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Unfortunatelyasinner said:
I came here for advice and most of you are being nasty about it and making a joke about out. I thought maybe I would get some good advice but not. Most of you are probably grown arsed people and your sat behind a screen being horrid to a 17 year old. Wow this is what the world has came to.
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the scriptures i posted right above your post is the best advice you can get! for it is Gods advice to you! it tells you the only opinion that matters! i.e. God's! For it is God who will judge us! it is to god who we will give an account for every idol word we speak. and it is God who will judge us and either cast us into hell, or receive us into heaven! if truth is the advice your looking for: then you have been given the truth above! But, and i hope that this is not the case with you: if you are here to find individuels who will tell you that it is ok to be a homosexual. and eschew those who tell you the truth in love! then your in danger of spending eternity in Hell!

Remember, it is only Gods views that matter! all other views do not matter! And Gods views have been given to us in the bible! Please, for your own eternal good: take heed to the scriptures that i have posted above and keep yourself far away from the perversion of homosexuality!

David
 
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Unfortunatelyasinner said:
I came here for advice and most of you are being nasty about it and making a joke about out. I thought maybe I would get some good advice but not. Most of you are probably grown arsed people and your sat behind a screen being horrid to a 17 year old. Wow this is what the world has came to.
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Some people are thriving on such behavior.
 
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Sorry to hear about your dear friend. it is sad that one who is a christian would not lead them to Christ instead of supporting the addiction and false narrative of lesbianism and homosexuality.
The idea that " one could not accept her" is lie from the pit of hell. I would never accept something so destructive for my children I would doing everything I could to help out of that addiction and self-destructive life-style. To even suggest that one is showing love by accepting that self-abuse only tightens the chain. They will answer to the Living God for not speaking truth and causing one to fall. Jesus said it is better for you, to have big rock tied around your neck and cast into the sea, then to cause one of my children to fall.

  • Pastors
  • Teachers
  • Parents
  • friends
  • family members
Will answer to God for that. All have the power to provide truth and love and instead of playing the pimp, drug dealer , and child molester hiding from the word of God. Many young people are lost and hurting because of those who were called Mother & father, Teacher, Pastor, and friend. They sold out to PC narrative and became self-derived.
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You’re condemning me to Hell. Great to know what to expect from you. Why don’t you just tie a rock around my neck and cast me into the sea? Because that’s what you say I deserve.
 
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the ones who love you are the ones who tell you the truth! i would rather have blunt truth than flowery deceit! the greatest lie satan tells people is to make them believe that their sin is ok with God. to make them believe that they are saved when in fact they are on their way to hell! it is to soothe their conscience and put them at ease concerning their sin, so that they will never turn from it! and in the end, they go to hell!

It is by the fear of the Lord that men depart from evil! and thus are saved!

david
 
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Looks like anger issues are running high in this thread.
 
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