Okay, I need the guys to help me out here...I have heard that guys like the chase, meaning if he is into a girl, he wants to chase her. So if a guy suddenly stops the chase, does that mean he's just lost interest, or is there some other explanation there? And if so, is it worth it to do anything to pursue him, or is it better to just let him go?
"The Chase"
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If he's doing the chasing then the game is probably on his terms.
If he stops chasing, then he's probably chased enough to realize that he's not interested in chasing anymore. This may sound counter intuitive but chasing also kind of lends itself to You playing the part of being hard to get. If you stop running or make it too easy, he may lose interest.
Real Men like challenges and mysteries so if you've suddenly become less challenging or mysterious he reevaluate why he was chasing you in the first place.
Or he might be tired of chasing altogether, if he feels like this is fruitless, he might go somewhere else. So in the end its really up to him.
If he stops chasing, then he's probably chased enough to realize that he's not interested in chasing anymore. This may sound counter intuitive but chasing also kind of lends itself to You playing the part of being hard to get. If you stop running or make it too easy, he may lose interest.
Real Men like challenges and mysteries so if you've suddenly become less challenging or mysterious he reevaluate why he was chasing you in the first place.
Or he might be tired of chasing altogether, if he feels like this is fruitless, he might go somewhere else. So in the end its really up to him.
T
Why must we play games?
I much prefer a guy to be upfront anf honest about his intentions and his desire to get to know me. I am completely oblivious to a chase. So if a guy was dropping hints that he was interested I wouldn't know anyway and he would probably think I was not interested in him as I can hide my interests because I don't wanna seem aggressive.
Maybe we should all wear signs around our necks broadcasting who we are interested in.
I much prefer a guy to be upfront anf honest about his intentions and his desire to get to know me. I am completely oblivious to a chase. So if a guy was dropping hints that he was interested I wouldn't know anyway and he would probably think I was not interested in him as I can hide my interests because I don't wanna seem aggressive.
Maybe we should all wear signs around our necks broadcasting who we are interested in.
N
I think im confused as to what chasing is. In my mind,(which i've been told tells lies 
) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though..
I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.
) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though.. I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.
I think im confused as to what chasing is. In my mind,(which i've been told tells lies ) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though..
I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.
) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though.. I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.
I think im confused as to what chasing is. In my mind,(which i've been told tells lies ) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though..
I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.
) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though.. I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.
If love were just an off the cuff investment, like buying a tv or renting a moped, I would agree with you.
But its not not so if a guy really likes a girl, he already has too much invested in what is going to happen regardless of the outcome. If he walks up to her and says, "You inspire me in every conceivable capacity. I think you more beautiful and wonderful than my heart is willing to admit. If you were with me, you would never find an end to the days I show you what you mean to me." She would laugh at him but, if he SHOWED her without saying it and eased her into the idea of him being seriously interested in her, then things may turn out differently. That is the chase. He doesn't want her to take him lightly like some 15 year old who confesses his undying love for his home room study buddy the same way he does every month to a different girl. She has to know and be made to believe that his attentions and affections are genuine and sincere.
If the chase were unnecessary things like Pride & Prejudice would seems silly.
T
Okay so I kinda get it but I still rather have a guy say to me. "Amber, I think you are a wonderful woman and I would like to get to know you better." and then show me that he interested by pursung me like spending time together and truely learning about each other. Otherwise I may misinterpret the actions or just miss the actions all together.
I think im confused as to what chasing is. In my mind,(which i've been told tells lies ) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though..
I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.
) i think of it as him being the one to take the initiative, Somehow im thinkin thats not what it really means though.. I like what thimsrebma said. Why must we play games?
I mean i think its ok to play games when the two of you know exactly where you stand with each other, In that case its fun. However to play with each others feelings... yeah....... no.
Sweet, what is ''the chase'' exactly?? I mean is that where your supposed to pretend you dont like someone, when really you do?? Are you supposed to like make them run around in circles to get you
If men like challenges and mysteries like liamson said, i heard milton bradleys having a sale, maybe you should all go to wal-mart and buy clue.