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there is more to teaching than just "avoid these mistakes".......
From Titus 2 we learn:
In this way they can train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, managers of their households, kind, and submissive to their own husbands.....
we often think that "older" and "younger" refers only to age; however, a younger in age woman (say in her 30's) can be considered "older" if she has been walking the life of faith longer than an older (say in her 50's)
example:
woman A is in her 30's but has been walking the faith life most her life.....
Woman B is in her 50's but only recently begun this journey.
In this sense woman A (in her 30's) is considered "older" and deemed "qualified" to be a "teacher" to woman B (in her 50's).......
From Titus 2 we learn:
In this way they can train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, managers of their households, kind, and submissive to their own husbands.....
we often think that "older" and "younger" refers only to age; however, a younger in age woman (say in her 30's) can be considered "older" if she has been walking the life of faith longer than an older (say in her 50's)
example:
woman A is in her 30's but has been walking the faith life most her life.....
Woman B is in her 50's but only recently begun this journey.
In this sense woman A (in her 30's) is considered "older" and deemed "qualified" to be a "teacher" to woman B (in her 50's).......
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Hormones!! You will be a nightmare to live with approx. 12 weeks a year. Avoid each other as much as possible at this time...then there’s the menopause (lasts up to ten years) don’t worry, by this time he will have a garage to tinker around in (to avoid you) 🤪
Proverbs 21:19
Better to dwell in the wilderness,
Than with a contentious and angry woman....that’s all there is to teach tbh Oh and homeschooling is best for your kids 👋 Numbers 6:24-26
Proverbs 21:19
Better to dwell in the wilderness,
Than with a contentious and angry woman....that’s all there is to teach tbh Oh and homeschooling is best for your kids 👋 Numbers 6:24-26
Hi Reformyourself,
I can only speak for myself, but the reason I asked about age is because throughout my life, people (in this case, we'll talk about women) have often patted me on the head and given me a "There, there, sweetie," and have tried to "teach" me from their own perspective/agenda without knowing, realizing, or asking that I'm either almost as old as they are, almost the same age they are, or sometimes even older than they are.
I'm kind of at that in-between stage. Some see me as younger, some see me as older (I'm probably not that much further behind you age-wise, but people almost always think I'm younger), and we all have different life experiences. These days, I learn a lot from younger women too.
In the past, I realized that I had some "teachers" who would use God as a way of trying to manipulate me into being more like them, rather than trying to help me be who God made me to be. I've learned to be very careful about choosing teachers (if I have a choice.) I'm sure you're a great teacher
, I'm just explaining things from my point of view.
Lol... So I guess that would be my own advice to young women -- pray carefully about whom God wants you to pay attention to. If someone starts to tell that you're being rebellious, not listening, etc., ask God whom this correction is coming from -- God, or the person themselves because they want their own protege. Unfortunately, this has happened to me a few times. And of course, if the correction is just, ask God for the heart to listen to it -- but it's important to remember to "test the spirits" as the Bible tells us to do.
A few years ago, I was looking for a mentor at the church I was attending. I was actually hoping the woman I had asked would be my mentor, but she introduced me to someone else, and this second woman had no interest in learning who I was or what I was about. When I met her, she gave me a book title and told me this is what we would be studying together.
She didn't ask anything about me, my life, or why I was seeking a mentor in the first place -- and that's not because I was trying to make it all about me. But I've never done a lot of the things "teachers" try to tell me not to do anyway (I've never been drunk, never so much as taken a drag off a cigarette, never tried drugs, and have been single for many years so I'm not someone constantly looking for a date) so my needs in a mentor may be slightly different than what they're used to. I'm not saying they have to have lived the same way at all, I'm just saying, I would hope the person would want to know enough about me to know what my own personal weak points are and how we can help each other in a two-way relationship, not something that's just one-sided.
Needless to say, I didn't take up this second woman's "mentorship" or offer to "teach" me (which is another important lesson -- if something doesn't seem right, use the power to say "No thank you" and walk away if you need/are able to.)
One of the things I look for in a teacher is someone who wants to collaborate TOGETHER and would ask me about what I'd like to study with her and why I sought her out in the first place.
I'm not at all saying you wouldn't do this for young women you teach here -- in fact, I'm looking forward to learning from your teaching style -- again, it's just giving an explanation from my own point of view.
I can only speak for myself, but the reason I asked about age is because throughout my life, people (in this case, we'll talk about women) have often patted me on the head and given me a "There, there, sweetie," and have tried to "teach" me from their own perspective/agenda without knowing, realizing, or asking that I'm either almost as old as they are, almost the same age they are, or sometimes even older than they are.
I'm kind of at that in-between stage. Some see me as younger, some see me as older (I'm probably not that much further behind you age-wise, but people almost always think I'm younger), and we all have different life experiences. These days, I learn a lot from younger women too.
In the past, I realized that I had some "teachers" who would use God as a way of trying to manipulate me into being more like them, rather than trying to help me be who God made me to be. I've learned to be very careful about choosing teachers (if I have a choice.) I'm sure you're a great teacher
, I'm just explaining things from my point of view. Lol... So I guess that would be my own advice to young women -- pray carefully about whom God wants you to pay attention to. If someone starts to tell that you're being rebellious, not listening, etc., ask God whom this correction is coming from -- God, or the person themselves because they want their own protege. Unfortunately, this has happened to me a few times. And of course, if the correction is just, ask God for the heart to listen to it -- but it's important to remember to "test the spirits" as the Bible tells us to do.
A few years ago, I was looking for a mentor at the church I was attending. I was actually hoping the woman I had asked would be my mentor, but she introduced me to someone else, and this second woman had no interest in learning who I was or what I was about. When I met her, she gave me a book title and told me this is what we would be studying together.
She didn't ask anything about me, my life, or why I was seeking a mentor in the first place -- and that's not because I was trying to make it all about me. But I've never done a lot of the things "teachers" try to tell me not to do anyway (I've never been drunk, never so much as taken a drag off a cigarette, never tried drugs, and have been single for many years so I'm not someone constantly looking for a date) so my needs in a mentor may be slightly different than what they're used to. I'm not saying they have to have lived the same way at all, I'm just saying, I would hope the person would want to know enough about me to know what my own personal weak points are and how we can help each other in a two-way relationship, not something that's just one-sided.
Needless to say, I didn't take up this second woman's "mentorship" or offer to "teach" me (which is another important lesson -- if something doesn't seem right, use the power to say "No thank you" and walk away if you need/are able to.)
One of the things I look for in a teacher is someone who wants to collaborate TOGETHER and would ask me about what I'd like to study with her and why I sought her out in the first place.
I'm not at all saying you wouldn't do this for young women you teach here -- in fact, I'm looking forward to learning from your teaching style
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I would actually like to ask the women out there -- does absolutely every woman turn into a nightmare during "that time of the month"?
This has actually always puzzled me most of my life. I guess it's because I never grew up with my Mom telling me this and she was never any different, nor did she talk about it much except as an inconvenience, even though I know she had her own challenges. I have some medical concerns that I know in some women, result in extremely painful cycles, and I've had some struggles here and there, but I honestly never thought it was a matter of turning into a monster every month.
Maybe I'm just off my rocker?
My last boyfriend (but granted, that was many, many years ago) actually told me I was nicer during that time, lol.
Probably because one is in a bit of pain while all of that is going on, so maybe I was just weakened and had lost some of my fight.
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Hi Reformyourself,
I can only speak for myself, but the reason I asked about age is because throughout my life, people (in this case, we'll talk about women) have often patted me on the head and given me a "There, there, sweetie," and have tried to "teach" me from their own perspective/agenda without knowing, realizing, or asking that I'm either almost as old as they are, almost the same age they are, or sometimes even older than they are.
I'm kind of at that in-between stage. Some see me as younger, some see me as older (I'm probably not that much further behind you age-wise, but people almost always think I'm younger), and we all have different life experiences. These days, I learn a lot from younger women too.
In the past, I realized that I had some "teachers" who would use God as a way of trying to manipulate me into being more like them, rather than trying to help me be who God made me to be. I've learned to be very careful about choosing teachers (if I have a choice.) I'm sure you're a great teacher, I'm just explaining things from my point of view.
Lol... So I guess that would be my own advice to young women -- pray carefully about whom God wants you to pay attention to. If someone starts to tell that you're being rebellious, not listening, etc., ask God whom this correction is coming from -- God, or the person themselves because they want their own protege. Unfortunately, this has happened to me a few times. And of course, if the correction is just, ask God for the heart to listen to it -- but it's important to remember to "test the spirits" as the Bible tells us to do.
A few years ago, I was looking for a mentor at the church I was attending. I was actually hoping the woman I had asked would be my mentor, but she introduced me to someone else, and this second woman had no interest in learning who I was or what I was about. When I met her, she gave me a book title and told me this is what we would be studying together.
She didn't ask anything about me, my life, or why I was seeking a mentor in the first place -- and that's not because I was trying to make it all about me. But I've never done a lot of the things "teachers" try to tell me not to do anyway (I've never been drunk, never so much as taken a drag off a cigarette, never tried drugs, and have been single for many years so I'm not someone constantly looking for a date) so my needs in a mentor may be slightly different than what they're used to. I'm not saying they have to have lived the same way at all, I'm just saying, I would hope the person would want to know enough about me to know what my own personal weak points are and how we can help each other in a two-way relationship, not something that's just one-sided.
Needless to say, I didn't take up this second woman's "mentorship" or offer to "teach" me (which is another important lesson -- if something doesn't seem right, use the power to say "No thank you" and walk away if you need/are able to.)
One of the things I look for in a teacher is someone who wants to collaborate TOGETHER and would ask me about what I'd like to study with her and why I sought her out in the first place.
I'm not at all saying you wouldn't do this for young women you teach here -- in fact, I'm looking forward to learning from your teaching style -- again, it's just giving an explanation from my own point of view.
I can only speak for myself, but the reason I asked about age is because throughout my life, people (in this case, we'll talk about women) have often patted me on the head and given me a "There, there, sweetie," and have tried to "teach" me from their own perspective/agenda without knowing, realizing, or asking that I'm either almost as old as they are, almost the same age they are, or sometimes even older than they are.
I'm kind of at that in-between stage. Some see me as younger, some see me as older (I'm probably not that much further behind you age-wise, but people almost always think I'm younger), and we all have different life experiences. These days, I learn a lot from younger women too.
In the past, I realized that I had some "teachers" who would use God as a way of trying to manipulate me into being more like them, rather than trying to help me be who God made me to be. I've learned to be very careful about choosing teachers (if I have a choice.) I'm sure you're a great teacher
, I'm just explaining things from my point of view. Lol... So I guess that would be my own advice to young women -- pray carefully about whom God wants you to pay attention to. If someone starts to tell that you're being rebellious, not listening, etc., ask God whom this correction is coming from -- God, or the person themselves because they want their own protege. Unfortunately, this has happened to me a few times. And of course, if the correction is just, ask God for the heart to listen to it -- but it's important to remember to "test the spirits" as the Bible tells us to do.
A few years ago, I was looking for a mentor at the church I was attending. I was actually hoping the woman I had asked would be my mentor, but she introduced me to someone else, and this second woman had no interest in learning who I was or what I was about. When I met her, she gave me a book title and told me this is what we would be studying together.
She didn't ask anything about me, my life, or why I was seeking a mentor in the first place -- and that's not because I was trying to make it all about me. But I've never done a lot of the things "teachers" try to tell me not to do anyway (I've never been drunk, never so much as taken a drag off a cigarette, never tried drugs, and have been single for many years so I'm not someone constantly looking for a date) so my needs in a mentor may be slightly different than what they're used to. I'm not saying they have to have lived the same way at all, I'm just saying, I would hope the person would want to know enough about me to know what my own personal weak points are and how we can help each other in a two-way relationship, not something that's just one-sided.
Needless to say, I didn't take up this second woman's "mentorship" or offer to "teach" me (which is another important lesson -- if something doesn't seem right, use the power to say "No thank you" and walk away if you need/are able to.)
One of the things I look for in a teacher is someone who wants to collaborate TOGETHER and would ask me about what I'd like to study with her and why I sought her out in the first place.
I'm not at all saying you wouldn't do this for young women you teach here -- in fact, I'm looking forward to learning from your teaching style
-- again, it's just giving an explanation from my own point of view.
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I would actually like to ask the women out there -- does absolutely every woman turn into a nightmare during "that time of the month"?
This has actually always puzzled me most of my life. I guess it's because I never grew up with my Mom telling me this and she was never any different, nor did she talk about it much except as an inconvenience, even though I know she had her own challenges. I have some medical concerns that I know in some women, result in extremely painful cycles, and I've had some struggles here and there, but I honestly never thought it was a matter of turning into a monster every month.
Maybe I'm just off my rocker?
My last boyfriend (but granted, that was many, many years ago) actually told me I was nicer during that time, lol.
Probably because one is in a bit of pain while all of that is going on, so maybe I was just weakened and had lost some of my fight.
This has actually always puzzled me most of my life. I guess it's because I never grew up with my Mom telling me this and she was never any different, nor did she talk about it much except as an inconvenience, even though I know she had her own challenges. I have some medical concerns that I know in some women, result in extremely painful cycles, and I've had some struggles here and there, but I honestly never thought it was a matter of turning into a monster every month.
Maybe I'm just off my rocker?
My last boyfriend (but granted, that was many, many years ago) actually told me I was nicer during that time, lol.
Probably because one is in a bit of pain while all of that is going on, so maybe I was just weakened and had lost some of my fight.
You come across as very knowledgeable and caring, Reformyourself. Plus, you have a great sense of humor! 😁 Five hundred bonus points for that!
Thank you so much for listening to what I had to say.
I'm looking forward to reading the things you have to share. 🙂
You obviously care about others I have no doubt will inspire many here. 🙂
Thank you so much for listening to what I had to say.
I'm looking forward to reading the things you have to share. 🙂
You obviously care about others I have no doubt will inspire many here. 🙂
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