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I don't think I would ever be comfortable asking a guy out, but I would be comfortable asking him to come for dinner. Maybe I look at it wrongly, but ...if a person is awesome enough for us to want to be with them, surely they aren't the sort of people who would be unkind, even if they weren't interested, right? Seems like it beats wondering. And if they ARE unkind, seems like it would make it so much easier to scratch them off of your list and know that you were far better off without them.
A person can only accept if asked, right? *shrugs*
A person can only accept if asked, right? *shrugs*
Is'nt *inviting* a guy over for dinner the same thing as *asking* him over for dinner...hence the same thing as asking him out??
If a guy were to invite me over for dinner....It would be considered a date in my book. And to be honest, a sort of personal/intimate (for lack of better wording) date because it would be at his home and he would go through the care and trouble of cooking a meal for me.
*shrugs* Maybe I am the one looking at it the wrong way.
If a guy were to invite me over for dinner....It would be considered a date in my book. And to be honest, a sort of personal/intimate (for lack of better wording) date because it would be at his home and he would go through the care and trouble of cooking a meal for me.
*shrugs* Maybe I am the one looking at it the wrong way.
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George Bush would say to you for asking why he's still doing his bucket list, P_R: 'Read my lips.'
Hmmm, a question, I liked Homer's with closer lidge , and, others too like Zere's asking communist n Korea leader why hates usa and s. Korea, so, hmmm, how about....
asking Billy Graham if he thinks he or George W.will be the first to go?
No. That's yeah not it, but, hmm, how about, along those lines, ask Billy Graham what it is that most makes him tick, besides God in his life?
Hmmm, a question, I liked Homer's with closer lidge , and, others too like Zere's asking communist n Korea leader why hates usa and s. Korea, so, hmmm, how about....
asking Billy Graham if he thinks he or George W.will be the first to go?
No. That's yeah not it, but, hmm, how about, along those lines, ask Billy Graham what it is that most makes him tick, besides God in his life?
Well, as a guy, I think if a woman asked if she could cook dinner for me. Its borderline but, I think it all depends on how much heads up and forethought go into it.
And as for asking people out. Sometimes, I've asked people out to dinner, Mini-golf, a movie followed by Dairy Queen and they don't think its a date. I like being friends first ideally but, its easier to go at it cold. If you have an established friendship and you wind up giving this person gifts, telling them how amazing they are and taking them everywhere, You (I) might just fall into the Brother (sister) box.
"Oh you got me flowers!
You're just like the brother I never had"
So I have this maneuver that I like to use to get out of the box, which is that I take 2 weeks, disappear, get a haircut and then show up as if I had an epiphany. If that doesn't work then.... its pretty much a slimy Well.
And as for asking people out. Sometimes, I've asked people out to dinner, Mini-golf, a movie followed by Dairy Queen and they don't think its a date. I like being friends first ideally but, its easier to go at it cold. If you have an established friendship and you wind up giving this person gifts, telling them how amazing they are and taking them everywhere, You (I) might just fall into the Brother (sister) box.
"Oh you got me flowers!
You're just like the brother I never had" So I have this maneuver that I like to use to get out of the box, which is that I take 2 weeks, disappear, get a haircut and then show up as if I had an epiphany. If that doesn't work then.... its pretty much a slimy Well.
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Well, as a guy, I think if a woman asked if she could cook dinner for me. Its borderline but, I think it all depends on how much heads up and forethought go into it.
And as for asking people out. Sometimes, I've asked people out to dinner, Mini-golf, a movie followed by Dairy Queen and they don't think its a date. I like being friends first ideally but, its easier to go at it cold. If you have an established friendship and you wind up giving this person gifts, telling them how amazing they are and taking them everywhere, You (I) might just fall into the Brother (sister) box.
"Oh you got me flowers! You're just like the brother I never had"
So I have this maneuver that I like to use to get out of the box, which is that I take 2 weeks, disappear, get a haircut and then show up as if I had an epiphany. If that doesn't work then.... its pretty much a slimy Well.
And as for asking people out. Sometimes, I've asked people out to dinner, Mini-golf, a movie followed by Dairy Queen and they don't think its a date. I like being friends first ideally but, its easier to go at it cold. If you have an established friendship and you wind up giving this person gifts, telling them how amazing they are and taking them everywhere, You (I) might just fall into the Brother (sister) box.
"Oh you got me flowers!
You're just like the brother I never had" So I have this maneuver that I like to use to get out of the box, which is that I take 2 weeks, disappear, get a haircut and then show up as if I had an epiphany. If that doesn't work then.... its pretty much a slimy Well.
Wait.. so what does disappearing for two weeks and getting a hair cut do???
But if you have someone who is suppose to say those things but doesn't, you might check the warranty and the mileage. Much like Cell Phones, I'm pretty sure you can upgrade after a while of having unsatisfactory coverage. Or you could take the relationship to a mechanic/service provider and have him recalibrate your Boyfriend. Every once in a while their bearings need to be replaced, priorities aligned, and a full service also checks for new software updates.
J
Asking a guy over for dinner is FAR easier than asking him out. Food is a pretty common conversational topic. You could steer the conversation to Italian food and then mention how great your lasagna is. You could guage his response to that and mention that he should let you cook it for him sometime. If he’s interested, he’ll ask when, but it may not be right away, so don’t lose heart..guys love to make you wait sometimes. Not sure why that is, but just let it ride.. J If he’s not interested, he might steer the conversation in another direction, but at least you would know to move on.
If he DOES come and brings a bottle of wine or a dessert, it might just be a friendship kinda thing for him, but still an opportunity to change his mind about that. J If he brings flowers, candy (and by candy I mean CHOCOLATE haha) or a bag of gummybears with a bow around it, he’s a keeper.
If he DOES come and brings a bottle of wine or a dessert, it might just be a friendship kinda thing for him, but still an opportunity to change his mind about that. J If he brings flowers, candy (and by candy I mean CHOCOLATE haha) or a bag of gummybears with a bow around it, he’s a keeper.
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But if you have someone who is suppose to say those things but doesn't, you might check the warranty and the mileage. Much like Cell Phones, I'm pretty sure you can upgrade after a while of having unsatisfactory coverage. Or you could take the relationship to a mechanic/service provider and have him recalibrate your Boyfriend. Every once in a while their bearings need to be replaced, priorities aligned, and a full service also checks for new software updates.
im taking a mental note of this