Calming dating fears and how do you get close due to COVID-19

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SweetMB26

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Hi fellow wise Christians... How do you know this is the Christian man God has chosen for you, when you are fearful of getting close due to COVID-19? When do you ask about it? Should both get tested at the same time? And then when do you get tested again? since you could be carrying or develop the virus later on and be asymptomatic you know? I am naturally affectionate and a hugger.... Now it is like 6 feet apart hand wave or virtual hugs?! Your thoughts? How do you navigate this?
 
Blain

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As a hugger myself it would be very difficult for me I mean what am I supposed to do wrap myself in plastic put on a mask and then hug? I am also a cuddler so that would be even more difficult for me, I am not sure there is a lot ways around it honestly this might be where people who are not affection types would shine, welcome to cc btw
 
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As a hugger myself, let me just say that for your own safety as well as hers/his, you just have to not be a hugger for a while. I just recovered from Coronavirus in the last week and I got it from shaking someones hand that had no symptoms at the moment, but less than 8 hours later he was at the ER with a handful of symptoms. I know not hugging is difficult, but my family is very blessed to have come through this with only one person ( my dad after coming down with covid pneumonia) ending up in the hospital. You can bet that we will be more careful for a long while.
 
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Pipp said:
As a hugger myself, let me just say that for your own safety as well as hers/his, you just have to not be a hugger for a while. I just recovered from Coronavirus in the last week and I got it from shaking someones hand that had no symptoms at the moment, but less than 8 hours later he was at the ER with a handful of symptoms. I know not hugging is difficult, but my family is very blessed to have come through this with only one person ( my dad after coming down with covid pneumonia) ending up in the hospital. You can bet that we will be more careful for a long while.
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Praise God that you all recovered Pipp.
 
laughingheart

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This is a good time to get to know the other person by talking. By not being able to be in physical contact you get a more unclouded view of them and how you'd communicate. Take the time to become best friends. You might learn some really important things right now. It must be so hard to be apart but it can be very telling. If things drift apart because you can't touch then it doesn't have the staying power to make it in the long run.
 
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Pipp said:
As a hugger myself, let me just say that for your own safety as well as hers/his, you just have to not be a hugger for a while. I just recovered from Coronavirus in the last week and I got it from shaking someones hand that had no symptoms at the moment, but less than 8 hours later he was at the ER with a handful of symptoms. I know not hugging is difficult, but my family is very blessed to have come through this with only one person ( my dad after coming down with covid pneumonia) ending up in the hospital. You can bet that we will be more careful for a long while.
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So sorry to hear that you were ill. I am so glad you are on the mend. Thank you Lord.
 
Lanolin

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depends on how long youve been dating/engaged and if you live with them or not.
If you are fearful then get tested. Otherwise I dont know I am not dating anyone atm. Maybe wait till the vaccine is here or it all dies down. Surely you can wait a couple of months.

Do what most people have done anyway, when they cant be close. Write to each other or talk on the phone/facetime.
 
Lynx

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Zen hugs, we can do.

Zen hug: The hug you would get, if I were there, if I could hug you, but I'm not and I can't.

(Shamelessly copied from an old Anne McCaffrey book.)
 
SweetMB26

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Blain said:
As a hugger myself it would be very difficult for me I mean what am I supposed to do wrap myself in plastic put on a mask and then hug? I am also a cuddler so that would be even more difficult for me, I am not sure there is a lot ways around it honestly this might be where people who are not affection types would shine, welcome to cc btw
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Thanks Blain (if that is your name --it rhymes! :)). I take comfort in knowing that God is in control. We have to look at the positive in all of this and re-evaluate our life's priorities. God created us to have human contact to thrive. However, some people have utilized human touch or contact in ungodly ways. "Wait" is a word that no one likes to use any more. We wait on the Lord for He knows the perfect timing of everything---the author and finisher of the universe. Amen.
 
SweetMB26

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Lanolin said:
depends on how long youve been dating/engaged and if you live with them or not.
If you are fearful then get tested. Otherwise I dont know I am not dating anyone atm. Maybe wait till the vaccine is here or it all dies down. Surely you can wait a couple of months.

Let me clarify some things to clear up some misunderstanding here please...... First of all, we do not know each other personally. As a wise, honest, mature, "call it like I see it" born again Christian, I do not believe in living together (shacking up) before marriage. I do not believe in "trial runs" or "test drives" before marriage. I am not engaged. I am disease free, virus free, drug free, alcohol free, smoke free, etc. But I love sweets and chocolates! :)
Waiting on the Lord is not the issue. Trusting others is the issue. Lack of patience is the issue. We were created in the image of God and need human contact/encouragement to thrive. However, some people have become so impatient, and used human contact in such evil and ungodly ways and for selfish gain, that it has made it even more difficult to connect at a deeper level. As the Bible says in Proverbs 3:6 "In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths." God is in control. Heaven bound soon. Peace.
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Lanolin

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well if you dont know each other personally then why are you even considering dating??

everyone has go do their bit with the virus and keep social distance, so why would dating people be an exception?

as I said, write or phone, which is what everyone does to keep in touch and connect, as per nomrmal. Its not hard to do this, you just need to make the time.
 
Lanolin

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lack of trust is the issue well. think on your faith. You dont see God and you cant touch Him right now. Actually if anybody encountered God face to face they would DIE since we are not even holy enough to be within 100 metres of him.
But do you trust God? Do you trust that Jesus has died for YOU and rose again?

its the same with this virus, thats Jesus can make us clean. The virus thrives partly because most humans are unclean and spreads that way. washing you hands and surfaces actually KILLS the virus.
 
Blain

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SweetMB26 said:
Thanks Blain (if that is your name --it rhymes! :)). I take comfort in knowing that God is in control. We have to look at the positive in all of this and re-evaluate our life's priorities. God created us to have human contact to thrive. However, some people have utilized human touch or contact in ungodly ways. "Wait" is a word that no one likes to use any more. We wait on the Lord for He knows the perfect timing of everything---the author and finisher of the universe. Amen.
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Well if I ever find someone to be with hopefully this annoying virus will be a thing of the past, I do feel bad for those who are in a relationship and have to deal with this I am pretty sure kissing is off the table
 
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Easy. I don't date random people. I take my time getting to know them in a friendship context so that by the time anythjng romantic arises I already have a good idea of who they are, including their views and habits.
 
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I cannot add the stress of dating to the stress of living in current times. I'm also teleworking at my parents' place in a different city. Personally I know I make a better first impression in person than on the phone/video chat.
 
SweetMB26

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Lanolin said:
well if you dont know each other personally then why are you even considering dating??

everyone has go do their bit with the virus and keep social distance, so why would dating people be an exception?

as I said, write or phone, which is what everyone does to keep in touch and connect, as per nomrmal. Its not hard to do this, you just need to make the time.
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Ooh My Lord! Amin Lanolin, I meant you and I do not know each other personally. So do not make assumptions about me and vice versa. You need to chill and not respond in attack mode. Thank you Blain and Thank you you Laughing Heart for your kind and wise insights. Clearly, Lanolin, is not not on the same wavelength as both of you. Peace out.
 
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TheIndianGirl said:
I cannot add the stress of dating to the stress of living in current times. I'm also teleworking at my parents' place in a different city. Personally I know I make a better first impression in person than on the phone/video chat.
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I agree completely. But our meeting was truly unexpected. We connected on a lot of levels. But the timing is Just not the best with COVID-19. . I will just wait it out and let it play out. Thanks 😊
 
SweetMB26

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Lanolin said:
well if you dont know each other personally then why are you even considering dating??

everyone has go do their bit with the virus and keep social distance, so why would dating people be an exception?

as I said, write or phone, which is what everyone does to keep in touch and connect, as per nomrmal. Its not hard to do this, you just need to make the time.
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Lord help us! I meant you and I do not know each other personally Lanolin so do not make assumptions. We are not on the same wavelength. Thank you Blain and thank you Laughing heart! When did this Christian Chat started? I need to study this forum better....
 
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