FALL IN LOVE!!! (if you can)

[Liamson]

I am bitter and sarcastic and disastrously Logical; it is my shield. Don't let it become yours.


In these threads we post a LOT of bad things. Lists of qualities that we try to avoid. Ways people have hurt us and how to avoid that. Our Regrets, our pain our mistrust, laid bare before each other, it is the last breath of passion we gasped before we hid the broken pieces of our hearts. Our expectation shattered, the feeling of belonging left us alone and naked. We arrive at our most faithful companion, misery. He is quick to remind of us how it isn't. We size people up, quantify, clarify, classify and objectify. A Synthetic expectation remains of what should be a person. Our minds have taken control, locked up our hearts and allowed no visitors within arms reach. We have our charity and our kinship but, the true scope of all that Love has for us is nowhere in sight.

I was in love once. I know what it is to be moved, to be in love. To see the light in someone's eyes and to feel alive because of it, as if the world is new and more beautiful than ever could be imagined. To be eternally captivated, inspired and forever grateful for each second shared.

How does it happen? How do we get there from here?

 

[AnandaHya]

you remember that God loves YOU not who you are or who you will become but YOU. You learn how God loves you and you show it to others. You allow your heart to be changed by God and allow yourself to have a tender heart and communicate with others though they may not thank you for it and may hate you for speaking the truth.

YouTube - JJ Heller - What Love Really Means (Official Music Video)

remember God loves you for you.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (New King James Version)

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Have faith God has plans for you. My husband is very logical and brutally honest which makes some people think he is mean and oppressive, but they don't know either of us very well.

My shield is that I seem very sweet and innocent but I'm passive aggressive and my shield wears thin at times and I'm not so nice. My husband on the other hand is a big softy sometimes especially with the kids and me. I'm spoiled rotten and I know it. LOL for our wedding aniversy he got me one of those cleaning robots because I hate vacuuming and cleaning in general. I want the Jetson maid lol.

just remember everyone is different and GOD made us that way. You may be ready for a relationship but what if the person God has in mind for you still has some growing to do?

Peace of the Lord be with you.

Your Sister in Christ.

 

[Jullianna]

Ever see that movie "War Games" (One of my favorites ever)? At the end of the movie where the computer says "The only way to win is not to play"? (It's on youtube if you haven't)

Sometimes we do that with love. We don't find it because we don't give ourselves a chance to find it. The only way to find it is to just let it happen. Be open to it.

I've been in love three times in my life and I've learned that just because things don't turn out the way you expected, it doesn't mean it wasn't worth it. Some things are worth the risk. Love is the best of them. I've been hurt, but I've never been sorry.

 

[FireWire]

That computer also said: do you want to play a game?

 

[princessbella]

Love is an action a choice , taking that leap of faith ,if you cut yourself off from love you cut yourself off from one of the greatest gifts God gave, The truth is people will let you down break your trust, break your heart its part of life, theres no guarantees but the moment you choose neverto love anyone else youve let that person whos hurt you win, if you stay in pain and misery youve let that person win , i say choose life , faith hope and love , and the greastest of these is love.. i cant tell you how to get there cos im on a journey myself, flitting between what your saying and what juliannas saying and its kinda like a tug of war.. But youkow what i dont regret the things ive leart through it and im coming out the other side fighting cos i didnt wanna stay there cos i wanted to be better not bitter and miserable and cynical and closed off.

One day your gonna meet an amazing girl whos gonna sweep you off your feet capture your heart to love as though youve never been hurt before and your gonna have to decide if shes worth the risk,


YouTube - LOVE LIKE YOU'VE NEVER BEEN HURT, this is a great song what puts it int words better than me

Dance as though no one is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth.”

FlirtyFairy27

 

[NukePooch]

Ever see that movie "War Games" (One of my favorites ever)? At the end of the movie where the computer says "The only way to win is not to play"? (It's on youtube if you haven't)

Sometimes we do that with love. We don't find it because we don't give ourselves a chance to find it. The only way to find it is to just let it happen. Be open to it.

I've been in love three times in my life and I've learned that just because things don't turn out the way you expected, it doesn't mean it wasn't worth it. Some things are worth the risk. Love is the best of them. I've been hurt, but I've never been sorry.

Wouldn't you prefer a good game of chess?

 

[Jullianna]

Love is an action a choice , taking that leap of faith ,if you cut yourself off from love you cut yourself off from one of the greatest gifts God gave, The truth is people will let you down break your trust, break your heart its part of life, theres no guarantees but the moment you choose neverto love anyone else youve let that person whos hurt you win, if you stay in pain and misery youve let that person win , i say choose life , faith hope and love , and the greastest of these is love.. i cant tell you how to get there cos im on a journey myself, flitting between what your saying and what juliannas saying and its kinda like a tug of war.. But youkow what i dont regret the things ive leart through it and im coming out the other side fighting cos i didnt wanna stay there cos i wanted to be better not bitter and miserable and cynical and closed off.

One day your gonna meet an amazing girl whos gonna sweep you off your feet capture your heart to love as though youve never been hurt before and your gonna have to decide if shes worth the risk,


YouTube - LOVE LIKE YOU'VE NEVER BEEN HURT, this is a great song what puts it int words better than me

Dance as though no one is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth.”

FlirtyFairy27

Thank you, bella I keep telling Liamson the same thing! One day all of that logic will just fly out the window.

 

[Jullianna]

Wouldn't you prefer a good game of chess?

LOL some days...........

 

[thimsrebma]

Can you feel that Liamson? I am hugging you right now.

 

[Liamson]

This may sound strange but, this almost isn't about me. I feel like if I followed a lot of my own advice I would be going about everything the sideways.

I enjoy being single and flying. Every time I get on the plane I'm surrounded by a bunch of people I've never met. Its like every one of them is a mystery and they all have a story. I enjoy traveling to strange places for much the same reason. The possibility of meeting new and interesting people is kind of romantic.


But in the same way, I feel like if I stay around the same people too much and brood over everything that is wrong. I'm only going to become more bitter. I just don't want to see the same thing happen here. We have way too much negative stuff that we pour into these threads and maybe its just me but, I don't know how to enjoy myself in anything if all I'm thinking about is what not to do or who to blame for whatever is wrong.

I'm okay, but I won't be if all we do is exchange our rules, types and rants.

 

[thimsrebma]

This may sound strange but, this almost isn't about me. I feel like if I followed a lot of my own advice I would be going about everything the sideways.

I enjoy being single and flying. Every time I get on the plane I'm surrounded by a bunch of people I've never met. Its like every one of them is a mystery and they all have a story. I enjoy traveling to strange places for much the same reason. The possibility of meeting new and interesting people is kind of romantic.


But in the same way, I feel like if I stay around the same people too much and brood over everything that is wrong. I'm only going to become more bitter. I just don't want to see the same thing happen here. We have way too much negative stuff that we pour into these threads and maybe its just me but, I don't know how to enjoy myself in anything if all I'm thinking about is what not to do or who to blame for whatever is wrong.

I'm okay, but I won't be if all we do is exchange our rules, types and rants.

Oh. I guess I just don't see it that way. I glanced thrught the Singles forum and saw varying threase, firearms, sports, food, and of course relationship stuff. I think the key to this is in our responses. Its like that saying "There are no stupid questions, just stupid answers."

Depending on how we respond to a thread starter, that says alot about us. What we speak into others livesand the encouragement that we give each other is what is important. I know when I start a thread it is just because something is on my mind or maybe I thought of something stemming from another thread. Some may seem negative but that may be God's way of having me reach out for positive responses or help to my negative thought processes in that moment. (and probably for other too.)

There have been threads about what makes us run away from a person but there have also been equal amount of threads about what attracts you to a person.

It could also be that some of us are more interested in posting on certain types of threads. You know, there are some that you don't even read or read and never respond too.

Maybe we should ask ourselves...
Is there a specific type of thread I am more attracted to?
If so Which ones?
Which ones do I avoid?
Why do I like or dislike these types?
Are my response negative or are they positive and encouraging?

 

[Jullianna]

I like to mix it up - post something about love one day, something about our relationship with God one day, something to simply ponder, and something just for fun the next. I don't really like the negative stuff, but life's like that, so it's gonna pop up here too from time to time if we're keeping it real.

I do have to admit that there are days when I pop in, see the same old stuff, and just keep surfing... And some days I'll fire off some new threads because we need to turn things loose and move on to something else.

One of the things that I love about the forums is that we can actually talk ABOUT something rather than just rattle on about nothing, as happens in chatrooms a lot. But, heavy issues can weigh us down if overdone. The brain needs a break sometimes and laughter doeth good like medicine, right?

 

[Liamson]

Oh. I guess I just don't see it that way. I glanced thrught the Singles forum and saw varying threase, firearms, sports, food, and of course relationship stuff. I think the key to this is in our responses. Its like that saying "There are no stupid questions, just stupid answers."

Depending on how we respond to a thread starter, that says alot about us. What we speak into others livesand the encouragement that we give each other is what is important. I know when I start a thread it is just because something is on my mind or maybe I thought of something stemming from another thread. Some may seem negative but that may be God's way of having me reach out for positive responses or help to my negative thought processes in that moment. (and probably for other too.)

There have been threads about what makes us run away from a person but there have also been equal amount of threads about what attracts you to a person.

It could also be that some of us are more interested in posting on certain types of threads. You know, there are some that you don't even read or read and never respond too.

Maybe we should ask ourselves...
Is there a specific type of thread I am more attracted to?
If so Which ones?
Which ones do I avoid?
Why do I like or dislike these types?
Are my response negative or are they positive and encouraging?

True, thanks =)

I like to mix it up - post something about love one day, something about our relationship with God one day, something to simply ponder, and something just for fun the next. I don't really like the negative stuff, but life's like that, so it's gonna pop up here too from time to time if we're keeping it real.

I do have to admit that there are days when I pop in, see the same old stuff, and just keep surfing... And some days I'll fire off some new threads because we need to turn things loose and move on to something else.

One of the things that I love about the forums is that we can actually talk ABOUT something rather than just rattle on about nothing, as happens in chatrooms a lot. But, heavy issues can weigh us down if overdone. The brain needs a break sometimes and laughter doeth good like medicine, right?

I do feel like there is a lot we can discuss in the relationship dept but, when things get too negative, I tend to change the channel. But I also keep coming back, so sometimes I feel like its Negative Relationship stuff vs. Random off topic conversation.

Perhaps its just me and I should take a break or something.

 

[Jullianna]

I totally get that. Sometimes I think I should just log off and go read a book, write a letter or something, and I often do.

 

[NukePooch]

I totally get that. Sometimes I think I should just log off and go read a book, write a letter or something, and I often do.

Whoah...you mean OFF THE INTERNETZ?

 

[thimsrebma]

Perhaps its just me and I should take a break or something.

I totally get that. Sometimes I think I should just log off and go read a book, write a letter or something, and I often do.

I think that may be a good idea. I went AWOL for about a week. It helped me to focus on other things and just get a break from the norm.

If you choose to do so, when you come back you will feel like you have missed alot but can catch up on some interesting new stuff and everyone will be waiting for your return with open arms.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

love.......... pfft

That is all

 

[zeroturbulence]

Love. Love will keep us together. Think of me babe whenever. Some sweet talkin girl comes along, singin a song, don't mess around you just gotta be strong. Just stop!Cause I really love you. Stop! I'll be thinkin of you. Look in my heart and let love keep us together.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Love. Love will keep us together. Think of me babe whenever. Some sweet talkin girl comes along, singin a song, don't mess around you just gotta be strong. Just stop!Cause I really love you. Stop! I'll be thinkin of you. Look in my heart and let love keep us together.

hahhahaha great, now im singin that song in my head

 

[zeroturbulence]

hahhahaha great, now im singin that song in my head

Hehe good