A Husband Shaped Hole

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Aqua_Girl09

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So i believe that I am whole because I've accepted Jesus in my heart. Hes my lord and Savior and hes everything I need.

but recently I've been making a husband shaped hole in my heart and looking for a guy that might be able to fill it one day. I know in my head that I should focus on my spiritual walk and school instead of putting effort into looking for a guy and maintaining a relationship that may not even be for me.

so i'm wondering what can i do to get rid of this hole and Let Jesus take it over again? any suggestions?
 
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Jullianna

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Sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants, huh? :) But you are right to focus on your walk and your education right now. You're so bright and there's a big world out there with a hole that only YOU can fill. God has a way of filling up the empty spaces when we take our focus off of them.

It's not easy, but, sometimes when the quest for our other half is premature, we end up with the wrong person. Dream higher. Don't settle. :) God is the one who said it was not good for us to be alone, so He knows what you want and what you need. Wait for something amazing....someONE amazing.
 
Hommer

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Thats easy........go buy you a nice vintage tractor..................that will fill the hole and probably attract a really really good man to you...........

No need to thank me.........I just like to help
 
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thimsrebma

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Hommer said:
Thats easy........go buy you a nice vintage tractor..................that will fill the hole and probably attract a really really good man to you...........

No need to thank me.........I just like to help
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Homer, why do I get the feeling that you are just hanging out at a tractor store just waiting for some nice Chirstian ladies to come thru?:)
 
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XboughtwithapriceX

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A husband shaped hole...awww
Ask God forgiveness for wanting a worldly person to fill a hole you have. If you have a hole then you need to seek the Lord, because he COMPLETES us, totally fills us till we overflowing, so much that we are totally focused on him and no one but him.
I have said this before but yeah, A women's heart should be so focused on God that a man needs to seek HIM in order to find her.
All you need is the Lord.
Ask Him to take that feeling away, ask him to take care of whoever he has planned for you, ask him to make it clear to you then when he leads that someone to you, you will know and you two will have sparks! lol
Just talk to God, ask him to fill that hole, he wants to.
Go deeper in prayer and worship and allow Him to set your heart on fire again, you wont feel like you need anything else.

You are in my prayers! God Bless you and your future and all the wonderful he has planned for you!
Be a young women with a heart only for the Lord and he will bless you abundantly!

hugs xoxo
 
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Psalm2713

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I know what you can do.............stop using CC so much....... for some reason there are more people on CC talking about wanting relationships than those wanting anythingelse..... and most of us joined christian chat because we wanted someone to talk to..lol

I have discovered that my time spent on CC(t ) is proportional to my desire for guys( <3 )...... t =k <3.. where k >0..... the value of k varies from person to person( for some it's a whole number positive exponent of e.. when I first joined CC I was totally convinced the world was better in all girls style... like a girls floor in college, Girls high school etc... I just couldn't understand why anygirl would want to have a relationship with a guy.... but now.... duh-is all I can say.. :)
 
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Tatz

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I guess a shaped hole shows up in every girls life...who has not been called into consecrated single-hood. And as much as we would all love to get married someday, of course to the right man, it is not our job to look for this right guy but to wait on God to connect them to us and they will have to pursue us.

We should not get rid of this desire to get married, but we should get busy on other things, like our relationship with Jesus, School, work etc. This is the time to let God mold us into being great wives and mothers.

Bless You.
 
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FireWire

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The hole is clearly God shaped. Everything else just comes in its own time consistent with Gods will and is a matter of faith and putting ones destiny...in Gods hands.
 
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kiwi_OT

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Its certainly not a sin to desire after things that God is happy to put into your heart.
When I was 20 two years ago I was gloriously happy being single. I had ended a spiritually unhealthy relationship and full heartedly told God to pick whoever he wanted in his own timing. I was expecting a good solid few years of joyful singlehood. Though from then on I was even more passionate about having a godly husband one day and the husband shaped whole in my heart didnt ache in loneliness it just got me excited knowing that God was going to provide it. A month later I met Steven. He was a 32 year old employed Canadian and I was a 20 year old broke university student in New Zealand. We had cultural, financial, geographical and emotional hurdles not to mention throw in my very last (and very hectic) year in study. My priorities were God -> School -> Steven. Finding a husband at my age came very abruptly and threw a spanner into my system. But I honoured God first. He taught me patience, slow gratification, hard work, faith. Of course I stamped my foot like an excited little girl every now and then but I think thats normal.

Please don't get rid of that husband shaped hole, prepare for marriage and keep it there as a reminder that God knows best, because you never know... But follow HIM first in faith.
 
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NukePooch

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thimsrebma said:
Homer, why do I get the feeling that you are just hanging out at a tractor store just waiting for some nice Chirstian ladies to come thru?:)
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Personally, I think he OWNS a tractor store, and he's just trying to move some extra units this month...
 
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thimsrebma said:
Homer, why do I get the feeling that you are just hanging out at a tractor store just waiting for some nice Chirstian ladies to come thru?:)
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ROFL cause I am ............my life revolves around three things.........God, History, and Farming/Ranching.......I also love to teach but that fits with the other things
 
Hommer

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NukePooch said:
Personally, I think he OWNS a tractor store, and he's just trying to move some extra units this month...
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You guys always make me smile...............and by the way this unit is knee deep in rubber and just listen to that engine purrrrr
 
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Kooper

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Forlorn-Hope said:
Buy an xbox 360. Better than any human companion :D
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Maybe for a little while. But this isn't a hole shaped like an xbox. And no, personally, I don't think video gaming can suffice for any real need and want for an actual life companion. I find that gaming distracts one from God, and fills that hole only temporarly.


I'm pretty sure God will provide for you and fill that hole in your heart. :)
 
Liamson

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Alright, alright....

This thread as well as its counterpart are actually fairly difficult reads for me.


I do not believe in a Wife/Husband shaped hole. That is the kind of ludacris thinking that causes people to settle for the shiniest thing that crosses their path. Of course there are people who think they NEED a husband because they believe their purpose in life is to make babies. Which doesn't sound too silly until we think about the male equivalent. I need a wife because my purpose in life is to make babies.


We are complete in Jesus Christ, Someone else said it but I felt like it got ignored. (what does that mean?) We are striving to be the best Christians that we can be. That is our mission and our goal in life.

IF you at some time in your mission meet someone who steals your heart and captivates you, then you should marry them and spend the rest of your life with them. It is not that you should serve God in hopes that by doing so He will provide you with a partner.

God is not the host of lets make a deal.
 
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Psalm2713

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This could be true Liam.... but have you read what Kiwi wrote?....... I think ultimately it will depend on what God's plan for your life iis..... if God has a plan for you to get married, you wont be fine until you are married and if you listen and follow His directions correctly He will instruct you to the person to marry.

if God says you are okay being single then it's what He plans for you and you should say behold "your servant"

and God can have you married for so many reasons.. one of them and it's very honorable, is to minister to future children and Husband/wife. I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to minister and serve own children
 
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