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In your initial thread you mentioned that "the thought of pursuing her had crossed your mind". It appears that the thought of you pursuing her was more than just a thought in your mind. It must have leaked out in to how you relate to her and she picked up on it.
But, in my opinion that's alright. If you have feelings for someone you should express them and if they are not received then you can either move on emotionally or condition yourself to accept that you two will only be friends.
I would be honest with her and let her know truly how you have been feeling and then let her know you respect her feelings about the relationship and her wishes not to be contacted. Maybe you can restart the "friend" relationship after some time apart.
But, in my opinion that's alright. If you have feelings for someone you should express them and if they are not received then you can either move on emotionally or condition yourself to accept that you two will only be friends.
I would be honest with her and let her know truly how you have been feeling and then let her know you respect her feelings about the relationship and her wishes not to be contacted. Maybe you can restart the "friend" relationship after some time apart.
Well it had crossed my mind, but I wasnt acting on it. Because the current circumstances clearly showed me that wasn't God's will. She seemed to read my friendliness and my loyalty to her because of her past faithfulness to me in some of my troubles as more than was intended, and she almost said as much. She never actually told me not to contact her, but I think I will refrain from writing her unless she initiates it.
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Friendship, especially close ones, with individuals of the opposite gender can easily get complicated because one has desires the other doesn't share. These desires are not easily suppressed and have a way revealing themselves. I have been on both sides of the equation and therefore I stopped having close relationships with females. Be at peace with this female and allow some distance. You never know she may come back into your life with different intentions.
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Oh don't get me wrong. I'm all for making friends with the opposite sex. It's in having close relationships where things can get, not always, complicated. When I was praying for a wife I went on as many dates as possible until I found a person I really connected with on a spiritual and physical level. Having girls as just friends though, I found worked best if kept at a low level.