Are u turned off if someone is of a different ethnicity?

[zeroturbulence]

This is an anonymous poll so no one will know how u voted.

Are u automatically turned off if someone is of a different ethnicity? I am very curious about this because I think sometimes women write me off right away because I am not caucasian or whatever. I know a lot of asian guys are attracted to causcasian women instead of asian women (not me though) and they complain because they can't seem to attract any.

 

[seoulsearch]

Here, here, Zero. I can totally relate. BUT, I do sometimes think this can be of God... My brother, who is white, specifically had it in his heart to marry an Asian girl, but that came after many years of dating all-white girls (and one Hispanic girl.)

I myself have NEVER actually dated anyone my own race, mostly because it's rare to find anyone of the same race where I live!

When I was in a grade school, I had an on-again, off-again boyfriend--oh, the drama!--who was white... and his cousin made fun of him because I was different... It's funny though--I made an effort to introduce myself to his cousin, who later, apparently had the "official" ruling that I at least passed as a human being... and so, the boyfriend apparently decided I was worth talking to again.

I could tell a hundred stories... but another one that sticks out in my mind was when I met my then-husband's grandparents for the first time. They were extremely prejudice against "certain" races and when they met me, the Grandpa said, "We've never seen a Korean before," as if I were a space alien... or some kind of exhibit... (They wound up liking me a lot though... funny thing.)

Sometimes people react the way they do more out of inexperience (or bad experiences based on a small group of people) than anything.

Crazy stuff... not nearly as bad as some of my friends have had it though! I consider myself blessed.

P.S. Did I miss the poll??!! I would have voted: "I enjoy making friends of all different races and backgrounds, and would hopefully consider dating anyone God directed me to, regardless of ethnicity."

I find people of mixed backgrounds (I don't have any history of my own background to know, but most people feel that I am mixed--I have a white family so I consider that to be "mixed" anyway!) to be especially fascinating.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Here, here, Zero. I can totally relate. BUT, I do sometimes think this can be of God... My brother, who is white, specifically had it in his heart to marry an Asian girl, but that came after many years of dating all-white girls (and one Hispanic girl.)

I myself have NEVER actually dated anyone my own race, mostly because it's rare to find anyone of the same race where I live!

When I was in a grade school, I had an on-again, off-again boyfriend--oh, the drama!--who was white... and his cousin made fun of him because I was different... It's funny though--I made an effort to introduce myself to his cousin, who later, apparently had the "official" ruling that I at least passed as a human being... and so, the boyfriend apparently decided I was worth talking to again.

I could tell a hundred stories... but another one that sticks out in my mind was when I met my then-husband's grandparents for the first time. They were extremely prejudice against "certain" races and when they met me, the Grandpa said, "We've never seen a Korean before," as if I were a space alien... or some kind of exhibit... (They wound up liking me a lot though... funny thing.)

Sometimes people react the way they do more out of inexperience (or bad experiences based on a small group of people) than anything.

Crazy stuff... not nearly as bad as some of my friends have had it though! I consider myself blessed.

P.S. Did I miss the poll??!! I would have voted: "I enjoy making friends of all different races and backgrounds, and would hopefully consider dating anyone God directed me to, regardless of ethnicity."

I find people of mixed backgrounds (I don't have any history of my own background to know, but most people feel that I am mixed--I have a white family so I consider that to be "mixed" anyway!) to be especially fascinating.

Thats horrible (never seen a korean) lol. I had the same "problem", I mean I grew up where there weren't many asians so all the girlfriends I had were caucasian. I used to like only causcasian women but now I live in an area where there are women of all different ethnicities and I see now that beauty knows no boundaries when it comes to ethnicity.

 

[grace]

oh goodness! It does not matter a persons race. The heart inside is what matters.

I do understand a persons race/ethnic background may mean more than just their apperance. And because of that, I guess those things would need to be discussed if it is a big part of their life. (due to family tradition, or older generations still keeping it alive in the family etc.) But your certainly NOT going to know that just by looking at someone and seeing that they are asian, or hispanic, or black, or east indian or whatever race/culture they are from.

 

[zeroturbulence]

oh goodness! It does not matter a persons race. The heart inside is what matters.

I do understand a persons race/ethnic background may mean more than just their apperance. And because of that, I guess those things would need to be discussed if it is a big part of their life. (due to family tradition, or older generations still keeping it alive in the family etc.) But your certainly NOT going to know that just by looking at someone and seeing that they are asian, or hispanic, or black, or east indian or whatever race/culture they are from.

lol sorry Grace. I know this isn't a very politically correct topic, but my real goal is to maybe make some people realize that beauty is not limited to certain ethnicities, that there are beautiful people from every ethnicity, that one shouldn't write someone off just because they are different.

 

[Psalm2713]

Good topic... so let me take this opportunity to ask...
I will be going to the US, California for college... I am black, African ....... will there be people snapping at me just because I am African in a predominantly white country? and if yes, do christians do that as well?..... I wonder what to expect... here in African we are really nice to people of other ethnicities... if you are non-black, you will have all the cute babies and children starring at you..... pretty cool...

 

[Thomas60]

On race and ethnicity alone, does not make them unnattractive to me, but as grace has said, more often than not it means more than just their appearance but the culture, behaviours and beliefs that come with it. Thus I'd take all on an individual basis, bar the influence of stereotypes that would make me primarily search in the most likely division of ethnicity to echo compatibility with me.

 

[Grey]

Good topic... so let me take this opportunity to ask...
I will be going to the US, California for college... I am black, African ....... will there be people snapping at me just because I am African in a predominantly white country? and if yes, do christians do that as well?..... I wonder what to expect... here in African we are really nice to people of other ethnicities... if you are non-black, you will have all the cute babies and children starring at you..... pretty cool...

In California I wouldn't worry about it, unless your like up and about at 3 in the morning

 

[Liz01]

I usually feel attracted to different ppl, it doesnt depend of the ethnicity, it depends of the personality of each person.
I think that different kind of persons and different experiences of life is a good opportunity to grow as humans, besides that we can see that that God loves us in the same way.

 

[Jullianna]

Hmmmm...never been approached by anyone of another ethnicity or had them ask me out, but I don't have any issues with it. I'm about as white as they come (we redheads don't do well with prolonged sunlight exposure haha), so people act kinda wierd around me sometimes too. I've never understood making anyone uncomfortable about genetics, especially since we christians believe we all come from the same blood line.

Psalm 2713, there are still ignorant people in the world who have their prejudices, but MOST people in the U.S. are not bigots and you will be fine. I pray that your time here will be blessed.

 

[NukePooch]

I'm about as white as they come (we redheads don't do well with prolonged sunlight exposure haha), so people act kinda wierd around me sometimes too..

I, also, am firmly in the 'slather on sunscreen and wear a big floppy hat when even considering going out in the sun' category...and when in certain situations (for instance, when I've run sound for gangster rap concerts, militant-feminist rallies, or Japanese-school talent shows), I definitely 'glow'.

I also have seen Koreans in person, so I'm okay.

 

[Megatron]

I mean i prefer caucasian women most of all, followed next by asian, then hispanic, then black. Nothing really against any group in particular as far as color goes, it just seems this is also the order of who i has the most in common with. If i found someone i thought was attractive and had a lot of stuff in common with it wouldnt really matter.

 

[Jullianna]

I, also, am firmly in the 'slather on sunscreen and wear a big floppy hat when even considering going out in the sun' category...and when in certain situations (for instance, when I've run sound for gangster rap concerts, militant-feminist rallies, or Japanese-school talent shows), I definitely 'glow'.

I also have seen Koreans in person, so I'm okay.

The question is, have they seen US without sunglasses on? We can be quite blinding! hahaha

And...wow...brave guy running sound at militant-feminist rallies

 

[thimsrebma]

I was talking to my cousin abou this the other day. I am most attracted to guys who look somewhat like me. I think that is almost natural though. I think it has something to do with wanting offspring that resemble you. The best way to do that is to have a mate that shares some common expressed traits.

I am a lighter skinned black girl from diverse ancestry. I generally find fairer skinned black men and latinos most attractive. This does not mean I do not find other guys attractive just tanned/honey/almond/carmel are my physical preference.

 

[GreenNnice]

Don't say 'no' to anyone unless God says to.

Ethnicity is something made of God's design, the Lord will lead you to the right answer if you first pray then follow Him.

I guarantee, guys, that you might think you say 'no' and will miss out on God's best for you. For caucasians, God could put the ONLY GIRL in front of you, beautiful like Rihanna (more beautiful looking to you) or, for a local example, even more beautiful than Psalm, on c.c. , and, you WOULD be hooked even if like a PYRAMID, (CHARISSE ASIA GIRL SINGER) and nothing on that thing is looking real hookable

 

[lightbliss]

I agree with what the others have said.

I never really thought about it but [when I am ready] even though I have a "type," I would not turn someone down based on their ethnicity or if they did not fit the mold; the mold is constructed from paper not concrete.

 

[Vladimir_Ukr]

I think the Lord have created all of folks. Naturally what we may differ but it's only outside.
All in all I hope what for christians it's not a big deal. As it is written in Acts(17:26)
From one man he made every nation
of men, that they should inhabit the
whole earth; and he determined the
times set for them and the exact places
where they should live.

 

[VikkiKate89]

Race really doesn't matter to me. It's personality that makes or breaks a person and whether or not I'd be interested.

 

[seoulsearch]

I, also, am firmly in the 'slather on sunscreen and wear a big floppy hat when even considering going out in the sun' category...and when in certain situations (for instance, when I've run sound for gangster rap concerts, militant-feminist rallies, or Japanese-school talent shows), I definitely 'glow'.

I also have seen Koreans in person, so I'm okay.

It's funny that what's seen as "attractive" differs so much by culture. One of my white friends bought me a tube of sunless tanning cream, saying I needed it and that it would help "give me some color."

And yet, when I see my Korean sister-in-law and her mother... they talk very rapidly in Korean and point at me... then my sis-in-law kindly interprets that they are talking about my very pale skin tone (I turn bright screaming red in the sun as well), which they claim would be seen as "perfect" in Korea.

I was once talking to a (black) co-worker and a (white) fellow co-worker (the one who gave me the "You need to tan" cream) tried to join in, and so jokingly, I smiled at her and said, "OH NO, I'm sorry, this conversation is ONLY for us PEOPLE OF COLOR!!" They just looked at me and shook their heads.

Ok, Nuke, so you've seen Koreans in person... *yawns* But how about a DUTCH Korean???? (I just found out a few years ago that my adoptive last name is Dutch.) I guess I need to don a pair of wooden shoes to go with my chopsticks... (which I can't use at all--that's why they have the good old American fork and shovel, I mean, spoon. I always say, no wonder other Asians--not myself--are so tiny. You can only pick up like one grain of rice at a time with those sticks...)

 

[NukePooch]

Ok, Nuke, so you've seen Koreans in person... *yawns* But how about a DUTCH Korean???? (I just found out a few years ago that my adoptive last name is Dutch.) I guess I need to don a pair of wooden shoes to go with my chopsticks... (which I can't use at all--that's why they have the good old American fork and shovel, I mean, spoon. I always say, no wonder other Asians--not myself--are so tiny. You can only pick up like one grain of rice at a time with those sticks...)

Well, maybe if I ate with a tiny pickle fork I'd get a workout? Eh...I'll stick with the shovel.

...and for what it's worth, thanks for staying un-fake-tanned.