do women feel loneliness the same as men??

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andrew12

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what i have experienced about lonliness like a man is a kind of feeling that is very painfull inside and also makes me ache my hands i dont know and i wish a woman to be with me and say to me romantic things and i protecting her and be always there when she feels bad and all that.sometimes i cry for that feeling but God strengthens me .but i can not avoid this feeling anyway .but also i feel is a very special pain for when i imagine that woman comes she will relieve me and i will apreciate her so much and i will not want nothing bad to touch her so in this way is very special.and maybe sometimes i cry but it is something really pure.

so women tell me what do you feel about loneliness? .do you feel the same as men feel ?? please write all what you feel i want to know more how women feel.alll please...lol
 
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You're asking if women... who tend to be way more emotional... feel loneliness? The answer is a million times yes lol.
 
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andrew12

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VikkiKate89 said:
You're asking if women... who tend to be way more emotional... feel loneliness? The answer is a million times yes lol.
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yeah but also ,i am talking about all kind of women.and tell me ..do you cry? tell me all what you feel...
 
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Psalm2713

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yes we do!!!... we cry a thousand times more...
we love to hug people... so we want people we can hug forever and tell them that we love them :) and people we can tell all about our lives and hear about their's.
we want people to feed everyday( for those who love cooking), and people to watch movies with, people to get rid of bugs at all times( scared of bugs!!).. did I mention people to hug and cuddle?...well yes those.
and MOST importantly for us Christian girls is people to grow together with in the Lord!
 
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I think after you get in a good place with God about the issue of loneliness you cry less. I used to cry often. There was a time period about a yr and a half ago, that I was crying nearly everyday for about a month. Now I am in a so much better place, really trusting that God will bring my mate soon.

It is definitely something you have to give away to Him. Now that doesnt mean that you will never think about being lonely or never feel sad or stop desiring love and companionship. But once you truely reject the mindset of loneliness by acknowlwedging that only God can bring you and your future mate together then you can just live in those promises not worrying about it.

Another good way to overcome loneliness is to stay busy. Find activities/hobbies/service so that you are so busy you wont think about it.
 
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Kooper

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andrew12 said:
yeah but also ,i am talking about all kind of women.and tell me ..do you cry? tell me all what you feel...
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Yes, I cry... I feel... hungry.
 
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I think the difference is that men feel inadequate and that they are less of a man if they can't find a woman who loves them, but women just feel lonely.
 
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thimsrebma said:
I think after you get in a good place with God about the issue of loneliness you cry less. I used to cry often. There was a time period about a yr and a half ago, that I was crying nearly everyday for about a month. Now I am in a so much better place, really trusting that God will bring my mate soon.

It is definitely something you have to give away to Him. Now that doesnt mean that you will never think about being lonely or never feel sad or stop desiring love and companionship. But once you truely reject the mindset of loneliness by acknowlwedging that only God can bring you and your future mate together then you can just live in those promises not worrying about it.

Another good way to overcome loneliness is to stay busy. Find activities/hobbies/service so that you are so busy you wont think about it.
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yeah..but i think when you know how to manage this loneliness can become something good because it helps you to be patience and if you keep in purity when you find that person it will be really special and awesome.i also think that the more you know how to manage the loneliness keeping your principles and then find that person you will learn more to apreciete and value him/her because was not something easy.it was something really difficult and also it is as when you are looking for the greatest treasure and you find it ,you want to keep it and take care of it.it is also as the kingdom of God you find it and then you do whatever thing to keep it in your heart and never leave it or neglect it for was somthing really awesome and special.
 
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all these opinions are very intersting keep posting ,it helps to know more girls
 
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thimsrebma

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zeroturbulence said:
I think the difference is that men feel inadequate and that they are less of a man if they can't find a woman who loves them, but women just feel lonely.
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Women feel inadequate too. I have asked myself plenty of times "What is so wrong with me that no one wants me?"

Sometimes you wonder what you are doing wrong or why it seems that so many other women have men, or date regularly but you rarely get a date. You got hru all the possiblities in your brain about why its not happening for you and then you feel not good enuf.

Its weird because before I became a Christian I used to date or at least get hit on fairly often. But now its very rare for a man to even talk to me. LOL
 
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Everybody, even married people or people in relationships experience loneliness, the difference in people is how they handle it......its a natural feeling...but a hard one to handle sometimes..........

Personally I think its unhealthy to rely on someone else to eliminate this feeling....you become dependent on that individual to keep you from being lonely and that is not their purpose in life.......its called co-dependency..........I get lonely like everybody but just rely on myself to work through it...as this too shall pass........
 
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Wow you can't win either way then. Well at least with marriage you feel less alone. You probably don't feel as alone as you would if you were single, that is if you're with the right person.
 
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Women and men are equal. Both have feelings, can get hurt, suffer and strive for happiness.

Oh, women love chocolate more than men:D that's your difference.
 
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I've been alone for the last two years. And yeah, it hurts.

I pretend it doesn't. I pretend to be really strong and happy to be alone. And in a way, I am, because I've been able to learn about God's character and trust Him in ways I never thought possible.

But in a way, I'm not that strong or stoic. Sometimes, I'll see a couple with a baby, and I have a moment of sadness when I wonder if I'll ever have that. A nice Christian guy will smile at me, seem to take an interest, and then I figure out he's like that to everyone and my heart sinks. The highlight of a girl's day should never be that guy who off-handedly called her "gorgeous."

And I think it's worse than usual, being plus-sized, because not only do a lot of people ignore you or give you nasty looks, but there's this misconception that it's your own fault, if only you wouldn't eat that way or would exercise more.... Most people don't know that I've lost almost 40 pounds in the last year and a half, but that it's as slow coming off as it was fast going on. And sometimes, medicine can do awful things to our bodies.

So, yeah. Women feel that loneliness too.
 
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God definitely created us with a drive to find a lifetime mate. Loneliness makes us seek a significant other. Ironically, we don't feel whole until we give half of ourselves away to another, and accept their half as part of us.

I found love when I stopped looking for it. Why it works that way, I don't know.

Use this 'alone time' to build your relationship with God and to grow emotionally. It will be time well spent. When you do meet your mate, you will be ready for him or her.
 
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Psalm2713

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sometimes I get too busy to notice I am the only human at the centre of my life. Sometimes I don't notice because of all the non-human beings in my life, they are always there, i am never alone ... :)
 
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Lucy68 said:
God definitely created us with a drive to find a lifetime mate. Loneliness makes us seek a significant other. Ironically, we don't feel whole until we give half of ourselves away to another, and accept their half as part of us.

I found love when I stopped looking for it. Why it works that way, I don't know.

Use this 'alone time' to build your relationship with God and to grow emotionally. It will be time well spent. When you do meet your mate, you will be ready for him or her.
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heyyy,honestly your answer made me understood something very important ,how God created us to work and to love and to give .i didnt know how to describe this feeling with my words before.and your answer describes what i wish to do with my heart.and i understand what i want.

thanks...
 
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More than twenty years ago I came across this letter. I don't know who wrote it. But I believe that the writer was truly inspired by God.

Everyone wants to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep lasting relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But God says, "No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by me alone; to have an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me. Discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found will you be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be completely united with another until you are completely united with Me, exclusive of any other desire or longing, I want you to stop planning, stop wishing and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing, one that you cannot imagine.

I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. You must keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things. Keep experiencing the satisfaction, the I AM. Keep listening and learning the things I promise and mean. Be patient, that is all. Don't be anxious, don't worry. Don't look around at all the things others have gotten or that I have given them. Don't look at the things you want. You just keep looking off and way up to Me, or you'll miss what I want to show you.

And then when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would dream of. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have both of you ready at the same time), until you both are satisfied with Me and the life I want you to have, you will not be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, and to enjoy perfection and love that only I offer. Know that I Love you utterly, I am God Almighty. Believe it and be satisfied."
 
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thimsrebma

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Vinifera said:
More than twenty years ago I came across this letter. I don't know who wrote it. But I believe that the writer was truly inspired by God.

Everyone wants to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep lasting relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively.

But God says, "No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and content with being loved by me alone; to have an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me. Discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found will you be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be completely united with another until you are completely united with Me, exclusive of any other desire or longing, I want you to stop planning, stop wishing and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing, one that you cannot imagine.

I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. You must keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things. Keep experiencing the satisfaction, the I AM. Keep listening and learning the things I promise and mean. Be patient, that is all. Don't be anxious, don't worry. Don't look around at all the things others have gotten or that I have given them. Don't look at the things you want. You just keep looking off and way up to Me, or you'll miss what I want to show you.

And then when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would dream of. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have both of you ready at the same time), until you both are satisfied with Me and the life I want you to have, you will not be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, and to enjoy perfection and love that only I offer. Know that I Love you utterly, I am God Almighty. Believe it and be satisfied."
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That's nice I think I will share it with my singles group at church. Thanx
 
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