Godly cure for loneliness

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
L

listenyoumust

Guest
#21
What is the best Godly cure for loneliness, especially after asking God to fill you up and then waiting upon Him to do so? Recognizing that one can be lonely in a crowd, marriage or as a single. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this, especially if you use the word of God to confirm your advice. Blessings🙏🏽💗.
bible study is what i do when i feel alienated . God never forsakes or rejects a repentant heart.
 

Lanolin

Well-known member
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,177
113
#22
churches should have sofas instead of hard pews or individual chairs.
Then you can say sit next to me. And they should all be facing each other.
 

Aldg19

Well-known member
May 11, 2021
579
309
63
#23
funny thing was, the only university educated one in Friends was Ross. He was a paleontolgist, which none of us were studying at the time. I dont know anyone personally who studies paleontology.

rachel was the waitress, Monica was a chef, Joey was a soap actor, Phoebe a massuse and nobody really knew what Chandler's job was. I dont think he knew himself.

Anyhow. I dont think it was too realistic anyway, cos their apartments were huge - they were meant to be living in New York city. Where rents are sky high and average 20 year old can barely afford more than a closet. And no cafe really has a sofa like that they hogged all the time. Well Ive never seen one in all the cafes Ive been to they all have little tables to sit at and eat with chairs not coffee tables and big sofas.
Yep
 

Aldg19

Well-known member
May 11, 2021
579
309
63
#24
churches should have sofas instead of hard pews or individual chairs.
Then you can say sit next to me. And they should all be facing each other.
Yes
 
L

listenyoumust

Guest
#25
churches should have sofas instead of hard pews or individual chairs.
Then you can say sit next to me. And they should all be facing each other.
even with the discomfort in those chairs you have some people sleep just half way through the sermon .. sofas should be debated ..:)
 

Lanolin

Well-known member
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,177
113
#26
well, Jesus was napping in a storm so I think it should be perfectly acceptable. Just dont snore.
 

Lanolin

Well-known member
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,177
113
#27
Funny, Friends was actually on the front page of the news today something about them having a reunion. ?!

Got to check that one out. Favourite character? Had to be Phoebe. Her Mum killed herself and she has an evil twin sister? Brother needs her as a surrogate to have children? Nothing phased Phoebe.

After Friends ended I dont think I watched any other sitcoms. Some sitcoms can go on for too long before they run out of stories. And then you think what, theres more?! eg. Full House....Fuller House.

I never got used to Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen (who both played Michelle) as grown up billionaires. I just always pictured them as baby Michelle with the big eyes and curly blond hair in pig tails. She (they) always stole the show no matter how many wise cracks Stephanie made or how gormless Kimmie was being. DJ was the sensible one..though she got a lot of flack for being christian like her brother Kirk Cameron.
 

Aldg19

Well-known member
May 11, 2021
579
309
63
#28
Funny, Friends was actually on the front page of the news today something about them having a reunion. ?!

Got to check that one out. Favourite character? Had to be Phoebe. Her Mum killed herself and she has an evil twin sister? Brother needs her as a surrogate to have children? Nothing phased Phoebe.

After Friends ended I dont think I watched any other sitcoms. Some sitcoms can go on for too long before they run out of stories. And then you think what, theres more?! eg. Full House....Fuller House.

I never got used to Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen (who both played Michelle) as grown up billionaires. I just always pictured them as baby Michelle with the big eyes and curly blond hair in pig tails. She (they) always stole the show no matter how many wise cracks Stephanie made or how gormless Kimmie was being. DJ was the sensible one..though she got a lot of flack for being christian like her brother Kirk Cameron.
I love fuller house don’t watch full house at the time
 
May 25, 2021
75
54
18
#29
So (hang on to your hats......I'm not a friends fan)😟, give me Seinfeld over friends every time😁.
 
May 25, 2021
75
54
18
#30
I think that us getting lost in entertainment is not the answer to loneliness, I've done it successfully for many many years but the price to pay is having a third wheel in your relationship with Christ (that's not Holy Spirit or God) and do not believe it pleases the Lord. Additionally, the enemy uses our entertainment addiction as a door to enter our hearts and minds and cause destruction. I'm not advocating never taking part in entertainment but rather not choosing to have it fill us up, only Holy Spirit can do that. I do realize that loneliness in some seasons is our cross to bear, gonna pick it up and follow the Lord. There is also grace along the way, see that God brought me to CC to have fellowship, He is a good good Father!

Your support on this thread is so amazingly wonderful, you All have blessed me with your thoughts on this matter, bless each of you.🙏🏽💗
 

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
Aug 13, 2014
24,921
8,170
113
#31
I'm not advocating never taking part in entertainment but rather not choosing to have it fill us up, only Holy Spirit can do that.
That is true for anything in life that people often use to try to fill up their lives - career, TV shows, facebook, even this forum. I've seen people make everything their main focal point in life, from raising their children to bicycle riding. All it ever does is consume a life and leave the person at the end of his life thinking, "So what do I have to show for it all?"

For me it used to be video games. Not online games that replace your social life, just games that have a good story. They became my whole life, to the point that I had to check out of gaming completely for a few years until I could build a REAL life. After I actually had something to live for I was able to allow games back into my life in their proper place as something to fill a few hours here and there.
 

MatthewWestfieldUK

Well-known member
May 13, 2021
871
498
63
#32
The best ways I know to deal with lonliness are:

  • Reach out to someone else who may be lonely (or someone who would probably be happy to connect with you a bit).
  • Go for a walk / hike where you may encounter other people ( and / or pets before I got my dog I used to have a couple places I'd go walk because I knew lots of people often walked their dogs there and I could pet dogs)
  • Volunteer somewhere, anywhere, ideally somwhere where you receive frequent appreciative feedback so you are reminded that there are people who appreciate you and kinda need you
  • Write an e-mail to a friend
  • Connect online on CC or other forums or chat sites
  • Crank some music and dance like no one's watching (because there's no one around to watch)
  • Reminisce and pray thanking God for all the good friends of the past, asking him to continue to watch over them and guard them, and also to provide more friends like that in your life
  • Designate a pillow, stuffed animal, blanket, etc as your cuddle buddy for those times when you just need something to hug

And if none of that seems to work, there's always the bury yourself in a game, tv show, movie, book to help burn through the lonely hours (don't know that that's such a godly response, but I still consider it better than some alternatives.
U must have been through stuff to know how to cope
 

cinder

Senior Member
Mar 26, 2014
4,328
2,361
113
#33
U must have been through stuff to know how to cope
Lonliness is an inherent hazard of introversion, and I think in an old post I said something about I was so introverted I made hermits and recluses look social so yeah had a fair amount of practice navigating that hazard.
 

MatthewWestfieldUK

Well-known member
May 13, 2021
871
498
63
#34
Lonliness is an inherent hazard of introversion, and I think in an old post I said something about I was so introverted I made hermits and recluses look social so yeah had a fair amount of practice navigating that hazard.
I have a deaf friend. It's a different perspective when one learns how an introvert views gatherings
 

Lanolin

Well-known member
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,177
113
#35
some say being lonely like its a bad thing, I think its bad if it goes on too long, but actually periods of lonliness can be GOOD for the soul. I think it makes one appreciate having friends more when you do get together.

also being alone and lonely can fuel creativity. Why do artists adn writers have retreats. Because they cant create when theres all these people and obligations always crowding them and sticking their oar in!
 

Lanolin

Well-known member
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,177
113
#38
haha I watched the Friends reunion
If you liked the tv show Friends then I recommend the catchup. I like that it ended when it did, happily.

Not all the friends got coupled up! Also the guy who didnt have any friends, Gunther had a cameo, but it was kind of like blink and you miss him.
There were also some Friends fans who said they watched it when they didnt have any friends, so it felt like they had friends. (Its kinda sad, but in some situations its really hard to make friends! I hear you!)

solution - share a flat, share the crippling rent, and you have a friend...
 

Lanolin

Well-known member
Dec 15, 2018
23,460
7,177
113
#39
well, being sick and deciding I know, Im going to to watch Friends on netflix one after the other...

I watched about five episodes and yes its funny and great to catch up but

actually Im not sure I would even be friends with these bunch of people in real life.
firstly cos..who really had all that time to hang out in a coffee shop. with the same bunch of people!

secondly did they not ever worry about $$ in their twenties. Apparently not. and they had huge apartments, and zero issues with crime, pollution, landlords, cockroaches, noise..this was meant to be new york city! I think i was meant to be greenwich village or something but still. I have been to manhattan and know its really not like that.

Joey was a lech, Im sorry but he was. He was also freeloading off Chandler, but chandler didnt seem worries about it. In real life he would have kicked him out the flat.
Rachel was a spoiled princess, but Monica also didnt kick her out.

ross and rachel would have found nothing in common after a few years him being so intellectual and she being so not.

Phoebe, well love Phoebe but also, didnt everyone just find her just super annoying.

you couldnt find six working people in different jobs in their 20s hanging out together in a coffee shop day after day. where do you ever see that.... not in the real world! didnt any of them ever want to be alone?