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beckyz
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It is a serious addiction. I would go to your pastor. If you don't feel comfortable with him then seek out a Sex addicts group. I'm not sure if your age will be an issue. I do think they have some online support groups as well. Good luck and God Bless!
1) Install a site filter, such as K9, K9 Web Protection - Free Internet Filter and Parental Control Software | Free Internet Filtering and Parental Controls Software, set it up, ask someone else to be your accountability, let them control the password and settings on your computer to block the things you shouldn't see
2) This ministry is one I have heard works very well. Freedom from habitual sin: Overeating, Pornography, Smoking, Drinking
You can have victory if you want it and go after it with all your heart. The problem is if we feed our flesh it will win, you have to be willing to starve the flesh, but you can do it by God's grace.
2) This ministry is one I have heard works very well. Freedom from habitual sin: Overeating, Pornography, Smoking, Drinking
You can have victory if you want it and go after it with all your heart. The problem is if we feed our flesh it will win, you have to be willing to starve the flesh, but you can do it by God's grace.
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wolfywolfs
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its such a serious addiction it gives you cancer you should stop ... no wait isnt that something else ?
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Fire7
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I have the same problem. It's easier to admit it to secular people than christians though; it's so incredibly shameful! It's like you keeep promising yourself you will never do it again, which always turns out to be a lie.
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purplemonkiesflymyprettys
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i have this problem as well...it wasn't until i found out i wasn't alone in it that i was able to let it out, even though it was kinda embarrasing since they are all guys, but they were very understanding and supportive. i had friends who also shared in my problem and are trying to get better. It is a constant struggle, but always try. there are many things you can do. Try looking up XXXChurch they are great at helping. they have an accountablity thing on their website. There is also books you could try like "Pure Eyes a man's guide to sexual integrity" i read Pure heart a womans guide to sexual integrity and it was very helpful. Also look up White Collar Side Show. they are pretty awesome. and Levi the Poet. they are both really great things to watch. Talk to someone you trust (even though i know its hard), Research ways to get better, and pray. and never stop trying to get better 
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Kooper
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Read. The. Bible.
Like, if you get that urge to view something pornographic, cut yourself off from that train of thought. I can personally say I had that problem when I was younger. I used watch that stuff, like, whenever I could. And more I watched the more disgusting the things I tried to find to get that... sinful fix.
Sin leads to worse sins. And sin effects everyone around you. It's just best to cut the habit off right at the base.
Pray for yourself, and pray for strength. Look up passages and verses in the Bible that intrest you greatly. Allow the Spirit to change you, thought-wise and habit-wise.
God bless you.
Like, if you get that urge to view something pornographic, cut yourself off from that train of thought. I can personally say I had that problem when I was younger. I used watch that stuff, like, whenever I could. And more I watched the more disgusting the things I tried to find to get that... sinful fix.
Sin leads to worse sins. And sin effects everyone around you. It's just best to cut the habit off right at the base.
Pray for yourself, and pray for strength. Look up passages and verses in the Bible that intrest you greatly. Allow the Spirit to change you, thought-wise and habit-wise.
God bless you.
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The-Prodical-Son
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xJoe
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installing porn blockers and such will get you no where. It has to do with you and your addiction.
Get Godly accountability partners and have them call you every night to check on you. By our self the Devil mostly gets the best of us but in numbers we can overcome him.
Get Godly accountability partners and have them call you every night to check on you. By our self the Devil mostly gets the best of us but in numbers we can overcome him.
There is probably a filter out there, Google it. If your phone is causing you to stumble, it might be something to consider getting rid of.
Mark 9:44 "And if your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than with two hands to go to hell, to the unquenchable fire."
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FireOnTheAltar
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While I do realize that there are some straight up perverts and predators out there, for the average porn or sex addict, it's root cause is a lack of intimacy. Such addictions is a coping mechanism, it's what the addict turns to when they feel lonely or rejected because it is the only form of "intimacy" (although a counterfiet) that they have ever known.
The only way to obtain victory over such an addiction is:
1. Understand that you are powerless to overcome this addiction in and of your own strength, after all it is your unhealthy desire(s) thus you must not rely on your own strength to battle this addiction. You must place all of your trust in God because God himself (true authentic intimacy with him) is the only cure for your condition.
2. Understand that sin is a choice and a choice you don't have to make if you put your complete trust in the Lord and his word which states we are given power to overcome come the flesh through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit (ie, his presence)
3. Once you realize that only God can deliver you from your condition, you must consecrate yourself. Consecration means getting rid of anything and everything that might tempt or distract you from seeking and entering into intimacy with God. If this means getting rid of the internet or your cable / satellite connection so be it. If it means stop hanging out with certain friends or family members so be it. Whatever it takes, get rid of it.
4. We can place our complete trust and reliance (FOCUS) in God by spending much more time in his presence through prayer and worship and also by delving deep into His word, understanding his promises for those who put their complete trust in him. Verses like the following:
John 8:31 Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”
1 Thes 4:3 "For this is the will of God, even unto your sanctification..." -
1st Corinthians 10:13 "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."
2 Peter 1:3-4 "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires."
James 4:7-8 "Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you."
Romans 8: 1-14
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death. For what the law could not do in that it was weak through the flesh, God did by sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, on account of sin: He condemned sin in the flesh, that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us who do not walk according to the flesh but according to the Spirit. For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.
But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you. Now if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he is not His. And if Christ is in you, the body is dead because of sin, but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you.
Therefore, brethren, we are debtors—not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.
1 John 2: 1-10
My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.
Brethren, I write no new commandment to you, but an old commandment which you have had from the beginning. The old commandment is the word which you heard from the beginning. Again, a new commandment I write to you, which thing is true in Him and in you, because the darkness is passing away, and the true light is already shining. He who says he is in the light, and hates his brother, is in darkness until now. He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him."
Jude 1:22-26 Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, and to make you stand in the presence of His glory blameless with great joy, to the only God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord,be glory, majesty, dominion and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen."
Everything that I have stated here is completely scriptural and doable. I strongly suggest doing a word search on both sanctification and consecration in your bibles and / or bible software since this is what it is that you are seeking.
The only way to obtain victory over such an addiction is:
1. Understand that you are powerless to overcome this addiction in and of your own strength, after all it is your unhealthy desire(s) thus you must not rely on your own strength to battle this addiction. You must place all of your trust in God because God himself (true authentic intimacy with him) is the only cure for your condition.
2. Understand that sin is a choice and a choice you don't have to make if you put your complete trust in the Lord and his word which states we are given power to overcome come the flesh through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit (ie, his presence)
3. Once you realize that only God can deliver you from your condition, you must consecrate yourself. Consecration means getting rid of anything and everything that might tempt or distract you from seeking and entering into intimacy with God. If this means getting rid of the internet or your cable / satellite connection so be it. If it means stop hanging out with certain friends or family members so be it. Whatever it takes, get rid of it.
4. We can place our complete trust and reliance (FOCUS) in God by spending much more time in his presence through prayer and worship and also by delving deep into His word, understanding his promises for those who put their complete trust in him. Verses like the following:
John 8:31 Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”
1 Thes 4:3 "For this is the will of God, even unto your sanctification..." -
1st Corinthians 10:13 "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."
2 Peter 1:3-4 "His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires."
James 4:7-8 "Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you."
Romans 8: 1-14
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death. For what the law could not do in that it was weak through the flesh, God did by sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, on account of sin: He condemned sin in the flesh, that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us who do not walk according to the flesh but according to the Spirit. For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.
But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you. Now if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he is not His. And if Christ is in you, the body is dead because of sin, but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you.
Therefore, brethren, we are debtors—not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.
1 John 2: 1-10
My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.
Brethren, I write no new commandment to you, but an old commandment which you have had from the beginning. The old commandment is the word which you heard from the beginning. Again, a new commandment I write to you, which thing is true in Him and in you, because the darkness is passing away, and the true light is already shining. He who says he is in the light, and hates his brother, is in darkness until now. He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him."
Jude 1:22-26 Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, and to make you stand in the presence of His glory blameless with great joy, to the only God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord,be glory, majesty, dominion and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen."
Everything that I have stated here is completely scriptural and doable. I strongly suggest doing a word search on both sanctification and consecration in your bibles and / or bible software since this is what it is that you are seeking.
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FireOnTheAltar
Guest
We will never have victory over sinful desires until we learn to love / desire God more than we love / desire the lusts of our flesh. This is the key to victory over the flesh!
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Christmusiclover7
Guest
You should check out Porn Addiction - Treatment and Recovery They have accountability software for free that you can use. They also have a paid version which gives you more things. They also have it for phones such as iphone, android, etc. For that it's only $7 a month.
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radical_christian
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I skimmed with what the others said and I'm sorry if I sound repetitve. I had the same problem. I know its hard. You are definitely not alone in this situation. It is a constant struggle.
Every time the mere thought of lust comes into mind. Pray about it and flee from temptation--whether that means getting off the computer or turning off the television, what ever the case may be. You have to realize that you can't do this alone. You need God's help to help you with the addiction. Every time you choose not to watch pornography it will be an act of love towards God out of obedience. Thus, you will grow closer to God as you depend on Him more.
Don't expect an overnight recovery. It will take time to renew your mind. Read Bible verses that will help you maintain your focus on God.
You will be in my prayers. May God richly bless you
Every time the mere thought of lust comes into mind. Pray about it and flee from temptation--whether that means getting off the computer or turning off the television, what ever the case may be. You have to realize that you can't do this alone. You need God's help to help you with the addiction. Every time you choose not to watch pornography it will be an act of love towards God out of obedience. Thus, you will grow closer to God as you depend on Him more.
Don't expect an overnight recovery. It will take time to renew your mind. Read Bible verses that will help you maintain your focus on God.
You will be in my prayers. May God richly bless you