I went through a period of time after having been single most of my life where I was very outgoing with women... at the same time I got involved with lots of activities. Well, I got nowhere with women... anytime things were going good some third party interfered in some way. Eventually I ended up just doing the activities--- more and more of them until I reached the current point where I m so rushed I hardly even have time to notice the women anywhere.... and further, if I suddenly got a girlfriend now, I'd have to give up many of these activities I've grown accostumed to. Don't think I'm even remotely boyfriend material at all anymore.