Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

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Anime, pcs xD are not things we girls like c:, but if you like it is fine, just don't try to change and be who you are all the time. I had an experience with a non-christian guy, and believe me, I regret completely :s, now I've been single for 5 months, with no kissing or anything XD, but I feel fine, cuz I feel closer to God now. I don't think you should be desperate, having a girl that is not in God's will is not worth it, so you as a christian person, just have faith and hope. Don't be afraid of rejection, you see guys that have maaany girls? they also had even more rejections ^o^ and mmmm don't know, I'm not an expert, I'm just 19! but I hope I helped u ><. And don't forget praying is the most important thing! If I made a mistake I'm sorry, I don't speak english ^^.
 
Hi,

i JUST JOINED THE CHRISTIAN CHAT AND I SAW YOUR THREAD SO I DECIDED TO EMAIL U
MY NAME IS VICKY AND AM FINDING IT DIFFICULT ASWELL IN MEETING THE RIGHT MAN
AM A NICE PERSON,SINGLE, CHRISTIAN SPIRIT FILLED I GOT MY OWN BUSINESS AM FT6 TALL
MEDUIM BUILD,ATTRACTIVE VERY DOWN TO EARTH, RESPECTFUL AND HARDWORKING BUT I FIND IT
VERY DIFFICULT IN MEETING THE RIGHT MAN, HAVE PRAYED AND PRAYED BUT IT SEENS NOTHING IS HAPPENING AND I REALLY WANT TO SETTLE DOWN AND START FAMILY I LOVE KIDS AND I WNAT TO HAVE MINE BUT WHERE IS THE MAN? I THINK WE BOTH HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM BUT GOD WILL SEE US THROUGH IS TIME IS ALWAYS THE BEST LET'S HOLD ON TO HIM AND HE WILL LET HIS CHILDREN DOWN.

PLS IF YOU LIKE THE SOUND OF ME KINDLY GET IN TOUCH I LIVE IN UNITED KINGDOM LONDON CITY. STAY BLESS AND DON'T GIVE UP THE BEST IS YET TO COME AND REMEMBER GOOD THINGS COMES TO THOSE WHO WAIT. XX
 
funny all the girls think there isn't enough guys and all the guys think there isn't any good christian girls lol :-D
But I will just say what every one else said.... God is always providing...supplying all needs!!
 
I feel the same way! I just can't seem to find a good Christian man, all I find are men who pull me away from God :(
 
Okay, so it looks like I found a girl that's easy enough to talk to that we could become friends. I just don't want to freak her out/scare her off.
 
just pretend she is not a girl....be nicer to her than you would be with the guys,...but don't focus on her being a girl... :-)
 
Couple comments. First.. Dothackzero, why not just try being yourself? Why not just try & befriend her the way you would any other person, first? Its funny how many people try so hard to be a certain way when they're looking, but its not normal for their behavior, then wonder why things never work out in the long run. Maybe its because who you present yourself to be isn't who you really are & they don't get to know that til later on.
Secondly, welcome to the forums, Preciousgirl. And i say this not meaning to insult or attack, but to give perspective. But i see your post, & saw your profile & it sounds like you're handing out a job resume. So many Christian singles spend more time worrying about what they 'want' in a mate. To me thats a bad start right there. Right from the beginning your focus is on what you want. I've learned over the years its better to focus on what you have to offer. What kind of spouse you can be. Once you approach things with the focus on 'i want' that sets off an attitude of viewing marriage & as a result, your spouse, as things that are there for you. Marriage isn't about fulfilling your wishes & desires, its about sacrificing yourself for the others happiness, & as a result, they do the same in return. I'm single & i spend more time working on being the type of person who would be a good spouse than i spend making lists of demands, or focusing on the fact that i'm single, or being on the prowl & throwing myself out there.
Now before anyone twists what i've said, note that i am not saying its bad to have a few basic essential ideas. For example i would want a non-drinker/smoker. Christian, within 10 years either younger or older. Though i lean away from that much older. Also physically attractive to my standards. Thats the majority of my list. All thats left is a small list of things i don't want. Now i'm free to meet people & make friends without treating every new woman as a potential spouse to fulfill me.
Anyways, just some suggestions about rethinking the idea of how to approach being single while looking for marriage. Its a collection of knowledge i've obtained over the years from talking to others, reading, & just thinking about people. Again, nothing was meant to be critical or attacking.
 
Heavenup, brother!

If you trust in your father, all else falls into place, no longer will the weight of uncertainty and yearning pull you down, for you will walk in love of understanding that all things are perfect and in their time when you walk with God, if you love him, follow his commandments, this doesn't mean everything you want will happen, because you will know that wants are waste of thinking time, wants are of self, and then you'll no longer identify with them, they will pop in, and fade away just as fast.

Im still in process of perfecting my trust in God, it takes time though, and I understand that.

Peace and Love to you brother!
 
I think the more you worry about it, the less probable it is for it to happen. If you don't see it happening soon, then I don't think worrying about it is gonna make it any better or happen faster.
 
We have alot of time on our hands nowa days...

We think too much in many instances...

Waiting is absurd...

But its not... tis just hard to do...

I wish you the best... itll all work out...
 
I love how God is showing hints to my friends about who they are going to marrying, and yet hasn't really giving me any hints of me getting married. Blah, this makes me worried....
 
Seems to me from your posts like you spend more time looking for a woman than seeking the kingdom of heaven. Get your priorities straight brother. Seek first the kingdom of heaven and all things will be added unto you.
 
dothackzero said:
Any ideas on becoming good friends without freaking her out?
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Okay, I read your first post and your last post and kinda quickly skipped in between the rest. Don't take any of this as direct advise because I am actually the guy you can all look up to as being much WORSE in their single status than the whole bunch of you... but, hey, you'll be glad to know that I do talk to girls all the time.

Just some factors to consider:

1. Churches mostly suck for meeting people. Your anime thing apparently has actually become very popular even with girls. You might want to get involved with that and come across a christian girl that way.

2. You cannot sit back and wait for a girl to come along because that is exactly what they are doing... if both sides sit and wait nothing will ever happen.

Finally,

3. NO,NO,NO... you do NOT want to make "friends" with this girl that came along somewhere between pages 1 and 29 because then you will be in that really sucky friends territory wanting to be more than friends. Best to just skip the friends thing and go for the jugular. Tell her something, anything, that you want her as a romantic interest or just ask her on a date. I know, you say "I'm shy" but the reality is if you go for it it will be like a wonderful rush like bungee jumping or something. And then afterwords whether you get her or bomb out, you'll find it much more easy to try a next time and a next time again if so needed.
 
persecuted said:
Okay, I read your first post and your last post and kinda quickly skipped in between the rest. Don't take any of this as direct advise because I am actually the guy you can all look up to as being much WORSE in their single status than the whole bunch of you... but, hey, you'll be glad to know that I do talk to girls all the time.

Just some factors to consider:

1. Churches mostly suck for meeting people. Your anime thing apparently has actually become very popular even with girls. You might want to get involved with that and come across a christian girl that way.

2. You cannot sit back and wait for a girl to come along because that is exactly what they are doing... if both sides sit and wait nothing will ever happen.

Finally,

3. NO,NO,NO... you do NOT want to make "friends" with this girl that came along somewhere between pages 1 and 29 because then you will be in that really sucky friends territory wanting to be more than friends. Best to just skip the friends thing and go for the jugular. Tell her something, anything, that you want her as a romantic interest or just ask her on a date. I know, you say "I'm shy" but the reality is if you go for it it will be like a wonderful rush like bungee jumping or something. And then afterwords whether you get her or bomb out, you'll find it much more easy to try a next time and a next time again if so needed.
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See, this is why you rock!
 
Liamson said:
See, this is why you rock!
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Liamson, you should be the guy giving all the advise. I know you're sitting there right now with four beautiful NFL cheerleaders stroking your hair and whatever else you've decided is morally right for them to get their hands on. Meanwhile, I'm still cursing that I couldn't afford the extra $1.25 for the repair kit when I bought the inflatable at WalMart three years ago.
 
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