Couple comments. First.. Dothackzero, why not just try being yourself? Why not just try & befriend her the way you would any other person, first? Its funny how many people try so hard to be a certain way when they're looking, but its not normal for their behavior, then wonder why things never work out in the long run. Maybe its because who you present yourself to be isn't who you really are & they don't get to know that til later on.
Secondly, welcome to the forums, Preciousgirl. And i say this not meaning to insult or attack, but to give perspective. But i see your post, & saw your profile & it sounds like you're handing out a job resume. So many Christian singles spend more time worrying about what they 'want' in a mate. To me thats a bad start right there. Right from the beginning your focus is on what you want. I've learned over the years its better to focus on what you have to offer. What kind of spouse you can be. Once you approach things with the focus on 'i want' that sets off an attitude of viewing marriage & as a result, your spouse, as things that are there for you. Marriage isn't about fulfilling your wishes & desires, its about sacrificing yourself for the others happiness, & as a result, they do the same in return. I'm single & i spend more time working on being the type of person who would be a good spouse than i spend making lists of demands, or focusing on the fact that i'm single, or being on the prowl & throwing myself out there.
Now before anyone twists what i've said, note that i am not saying its bad to have a few basic essential ideas. For example i would want a non-drinker/smoker. Christian, within 10 years either younger or older. Though i lean away from that much older. Also physically attractive to my standards. Thats the majority of my list. All thats left is a small list of things i don't want. Now i'm free to meet people & make friends without treating every new woman as a potential spouse to fulfill me.
Anyways, just some suggestions about rethinking the idea of how to approach being single while looking for marriage. Its a collection of knowledge i've obtained over the years from talking to others, reading, & just thinking about people. Again, nothing was meant to be critical or attacking.
