He's/She's Just Not That Into You

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

He's got a point.............

 

[Jullianna]

I think that went out back quite some time ago...but I wouldn't mind it coming back.

HAHAHA Apparently you didn't see my post in The Dance thread

 

[thimsrebma]

Cognitive Dissonance is an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding conflicting ideas simultaneously. Like buyers remorse, especially in something expensive. Like when I bought my Mini Cooper S, I really wanted a Porsche Boxster but, the Mini seemed like the sensible alternative. Not actually knowing if I was going to live in Washington State or Georgia, influenced my choice and I played it safe. I wound up living in Florida and San Diego with a Mini that had higher maintenance costs and was ferociously unreliable. What hurt the most was that I had compromised myself and what I knew was true for the sake of appealing to some idea of reasonable practicality.

Its hard for me to fall in love with someone I don't know. Even harder for me to try to get to know someone without giving off the impression that I'm interested in them. I know what love is; I've been there before. I know it is not a measure of justifiable reasons to be with someone. It is not a cerebral action to be taken like picking out parking spaces. But what I don't know is how to get there from here, back to finding that visceral spark, back to feeling the pressure of the unstoppable force that sleeps within me.

I have a LOT of female friends and I could come up with a variety of reasons why I would want to date any of them. At the end of the day, I don't want to be stuck with someone knowing that there is no spark but, there could have been if I was listening hard enough.






I agree with what Hommer has said.

Liamson, I love you so much.

How can anyone not love a guy that starts off a post by saying the phrase "cognitive dissonance..."?

YYYEEEEEESSSSS!!!!!! I LOVE IT

 

[kayem77]

We have a saying in spanish....Idk if you have it, in english it would be: Who leaves without being kicked out, comes back without being called back.
So my answer is NO. I think you shouldn't fight for someone for so many reasons Julianna already mentioned.

 

[persecuted]

Can you elaborate? Not quite sure what you mean..

I thought about it and decided it would be just plain wrong for me to elaborate. Just as there is a big "SISTERHOOD" amongst females hiding the secrets of their gender, it would be wrong for me to further divulge secrets from the male battle plan.

 

[kayem77]

I thought about it and decided it would be just plain wrong for me to elaborate. Just as there is a big "SISTERHOOD" amongst females hiding the secrets of their gender, it would be wrong for me to further divulge secrets from the male battle plan.

I thought nobody knew about our secret meetings every thursday after getting our nails done.

 

[persecuted]

I thought nobody knew about our secret meetings every thursday after getting our nails done.

Yeah, well you sort of blew it when you switched from monday nights to thursday nights when you all heard about Thursday night football... its not as regular as monday night football so we all started to get a little bit curious what was going on when we had nothing to mesmerize our easily amused minds on off nights.

 

[kayem77]

Yeah, well you sort of blew it when you switched from monday nights to thursday nights when you all heard about Thursday night football... its not as regular as monday night football so we all started to get a little bit curious what was going on when we had nothing to mesmerize our easily amused minds on off nights.

Oopsy ! we have to change that to monday then, after our romantic movies evening , just before our pedicures.

 

[Jullianna]

I thought about it and decided it would be just plain wrong for me to elaborate. Just as there is a big "SISTERHOOD" amongst females hiding the secrets of their gender, it would be wrong for me to further divulge secrets from the male battle plan.

Hahahaha! Okay. Far be it from me to cause you to have to relinquish your man card.

 

[Ugly]

I think in marriage though it's different. If you know someone is trying to persuade your partner away from you, wouldn't you do anything and everything to make sure that they wouldn't go?

I know someone is going to post "Well if they really loved you they wouldn't look at the other person!" Yes, that is true, but people do make mistakes in the heat of an argument, if there are troubling times. It happens.

But this is listed in the singles forum. So i think the implication would not be within marriage, but within the context of initial attraction &/or dating. Also i think most people would agree there is a distinct difference between fighting to save your marriage & fighting for the attentions of someone you aren't even in a committed relationship with. Or even a committed relationship.


That said, from a non-marital point of view i would never fight for anyone. Even in a dating relationship. Either they want to be with just me or they don't.

 

[HoneyDew]

But this is listed in the singles forum. So i think the implication would not be within marriage, but within the context of initial attraction &/or dating. Also i think most people would agree there is a distinct difference between fighting to save your marriage & fighting for the attentions of someone you aren't even in a committed relationship with. Or even a committed relationship.


That said, from a non-marital point of view i would never fight for anyone. Even in a dating relationship. Either they want to be with just me or they don't.