Is it Biblical to marry a divorced person?

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Naamini

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It's clear that divorce is not allowed unless it's because of unfaithfulness in marriage. So should we go ahead and get into marriage with other divorced person?
I don't know indepth of this topic from the Bible that's why I asked here.
Thanks for your contribution and study. Iron sharpens iron indeed.
 

2ndTimothyGroup

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The Apostle Paul teaches that if you are a True Christian, and if you happen to be single . . . remain in that position. The point is to offer yourself as a living sacrifice to the Lord and to not be divided in your professed dedication.

Is Jesus our Master . . . or not? Is Jesus the object of our Faith and lives . . . or not?
 

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It's clear that divorce is not allowed unless it's because of unfaithfulness in marriage. So should we go ahead and get into marriage with other divorced person?
I don't know indepth of this topic from the Bible that's why I asked here.
Thanks for your contribution and study. Iron sharpens iron indeed.
Suppose someone gets married, and it is not to the person God wants them to marry. They have acted in disobedience. Such a marriage may well not last. You cannot dictate to God what you will do, and therefore go against his will for your life.
So, it is possible it is God's will for you to marry a divorced person, if they did not marry in accordance with God's will. Someone said to me once:
Trust your gut feeling, it will never let you down.''

So, if you wanted to marry a divorced person, would you have peace in your heart at the thought of doing so?
 

2ndTimothyGroup

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Suppose someone gets married, and it is not to the person God wants them to marry. They have acted in disobedience. Such a marriage may well not last. You cannot dictate to God what you will do, and therefore go against his will for your life.
So, it is possible it is God's will for you to marry a divorced person, if they did not marry in accordance with God's will. Someone said to me once:
Trust your gut feeling, it will never let you down.''

So, if you wanted to marry a divorced person, would you have peace in your heart at the thought of doing so?
Do you believe it is wise to go against the teaching of Paul?

1 Corinthians 7:17 NLT - "Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches."
 
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Do you believe it is wise to go against the teaching of Paul?

1 Corinthians 7:17 NLT - "Each of you should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you, and remain as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches."
The important thing in your quote is:
''You should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you.''

What if you married against God's will for your life?
 

2ndTimothyGroup

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The important thing in your quote is:
''You should continue to live in whatever situation the Lord has placed you.''

What if you married against God's will for your life?
Again, Paul wrote:

1 Corinthians 7:16 NLT - "Don't you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don't you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?"

This statement would cause a person to conclude that these wives had married "against God's will."

Should we go against this teaching, too?
 
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Again, Paul wrote:

1 Corinthians 7:16 NLT - "Don't you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? And don't you husbands realize that your wives might be saved because of you?"

This statement would cause a person to conclude that these wives had married "against God's will."

Should we go against this teaching, too?
I think there is a difference between marrying without consulting God as to whether you should marry someone, and God specifically showing you, you should not marry someone but you do it anyway
 

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I think there is a difference between marrying without consulting God as to whether you should marry someone, and God specifically showing you, you should not marry someone but you do it anyway
Do you advise that people go against the clear Word of God?

1 Peter 3:1-2 NKJV - "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear."

Again, we are to remain in the position that we are in. This is clear . . . and Peter taught that the words of Paul are the Word of God.
 
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Do you advise that people go against the clear Word of God?

1 Peter 3:1-2 NKJV - "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear."

Again, we are to remain in the position that we are in. This is clear . . . and Peter taught that the words of Paul are the Word of God.
I believe, if God specifically shows someone they should not marry a particular person and they go ahead and marry the person anyway, in disobedience to God, God may not wish them to remain in the marriage.
You cannot say to God.:
I have disobeyed you, BUT now you will have to bless my marriage because you do not want people to divorce
 

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I believe, if God specifically shows someone they should not marry a particular person and they go ahead and marry the person anyway, in disobedience to God, God may not wish them to remain in the marriage.
You cannot say to God.:
I have disobeyed you, BUT now you will have to bless my marriage because you do not want people to divorce
Ok, then. Let's all disobey the Word of Paul, the Word given to him by the Lord (according to Peter - who agreed with Paul on this matter, by the way.)

At this point, we just don't need the Bible if we're going to follow the philosophies of "men."

@Naamini - I hope you follow the Word of God and not the words of "men."
 
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Ok, then. Let's all disobey the Word of Paul, the Word given to him by the Lord (according to Peter - who agreed with Paul on this matter, by the way.)

At this point, we just don't need the Bible if we're going to follow the philosophies of "men."

@Naamini - I hope you follow the Word of God and not the words of "men."
So in your view, a person can disobey God, in respect of marrying someone whom God has specifically told them not to marry, for it is not God's will for their life they marry the person, and because they are then married God then has to bless the marriage he did not want to take place?
 
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I'm sure some will wish to use the bible to attack me, however, seven years ago I married a seventh day adventist. I had asked God to show me if I should marry the person. He showed me dramatically I should not. However, I married them anyway due to circumstances I will not now reveal. It was wrong of me, and I bitterly regret it. It very quickly became obvious we were two very different people with no agreement concerning our christian convictions. Then the woman got pregnant and insisted the child be raised in an sda church. I refused to agree, and told her if she would not agree to the child being raised in the church of my choice I would have no choice but to leave her. She would not agree to my request so we parted. All I can say is, God has blessed me greatly since I left her and kept me safe when I had to initially sleep rough upon our parting. I went against God's will for my life, and no matter how I might try, by doing so I could never find peace, happiness, or success by doing so. And at my age, I know, if I had left the woman against God's will, I would not have the peace I have now, nor would I have received the utterly underserved blessings I have since received. In most circumstances, if you are married you should remain married, but if you married, knowing it was going against God's will for your life to do so, I believe that is an entirely different scenario
 

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So in your view, a person can disobey God, in respect of marrying someone whom God has specifically told them not to marry, for it is not God's will for their life they marry the person, and because they are then married God then has to bless the marriage he did not want to take place?
I'm sorry, but I couldn't possibly add to what Peter and Paul have made perfectly clear. These things aren't up for debate. I will say, however, that Paul made an exemption, and it is this:

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 NKJV - "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

There is nothing left to be said on this matter (by me). Scripture is 100% crystal clear.
 
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I'm sorry, but I couldn't possibly add to what Peter and Paul have made perfectly clear. These things aren't up for debate. I will say, however, that Paul made an exemption, and it is this:

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 NKJV - "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

There is nothing left to be said on this matter (by me). Scripture is 100% crystal clear.
Except you have not addressed the point I made
 

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It's clear that divorce is not allowed unless it's because of unfaithfulness in marriage. So should we go ahead and get into marriage with other divorced person?
Interesting 6:50 min video -----on the different laws of divorce in scripture ------

The Four Causes of Biblical Divorce by Dr David Instone-Brewer

 

JohnDB

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Remarriage after divorce is not prohibited.

It just is not a good idea.

The statistics for second marriages are not good.

Third marriages are even worse.

Just saying...


And the Matthew 19 passage has never been translated straight. Because women caught in adultery we're routinely stoned to death AND the men could routinely practice polygamy.

And the Corinthian passage was written to Greeks/Romans. Where that culture was different. Men only had one wife but often had a consort...which was a recognized position in Roman life. (Which today we consider adultery and cheating...but they didn't when Paul wrote his letter)

Paul also was a bit sarcastic in his demeanor because he referred to the consorts as wives. This of course infuriated the consorts and men and recognized wives. (Everyone)

So...there's the history after the current situations.
 

Naamini

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TimothyGroup, post: 4750324, member: 305370"]I'm sorry, but I couldn't possibly add to what Peter and Paul have made perfectly clear. These things aren't up for debate. I will say, however, that Paul made an exemption, and it is this:

1 Corinthians 7:8-9 NKJV - "But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion."

There is nothing left to be said on this matter (by me). Scripture is 100% crystal clear.[/QUOTE]

I think this verse about it's better to marry than burn with passion is for widows and the unmarried (have not divorced,)