Married people don't need to SAY anything. When I look at married women I find very few of them to still be attractive.Child baring and the aging process are not very kind to female beauty. Then I notice on a couple of occasions married men have tried to push me into relationships with women much older and I've caught this angry vibe from the men which seems to say "If I have to be stuck with an unattractive woman dedicated to her for life then so should you!"
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Everyone I know is either divorced or scared to death by marriage.
Before I got married, people didn't give me a lot of advice. More like horrified looks and expressions like, "you SURE you wanna do this?"
According to the divorcees I know, it doesn't matter how great you think the relationship is or how sure you are that you'll be together forever. IT'S ALL A LIE! THEY'RE OUT TO DESTROY YOU! RUUUUNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!
It's a load of garbage, really. The people I know that were divorced weren't in Christian marriages and were clearly asserting their own will when they got married in the first place. I think it's a bit unfair of them to assume everyone will make the same mistakes they did. Of course, it's probably delusional of me to think I will avoid them all lol
Before I got married, people didn't give me a lot of advice. More like horrified looks and expressions like, "you SURE you wanna do this?"
According to the divorcees I know, it doesn't matter how great you think the relationship is or how sure you are that you'll be together forever. IT'S ALL A LIE! THEY'RE OUT TO DESTROY YOU! RUUUUNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!
It's a load of garbage, really. The people I know that were divorced weren't in Christian marriages and were clearly asserting their own will when they got married in the first place. I think it's a bit unfair of them to assume everyone will make the same mistakes they did. Of course, it's probably delusional of me to think I will avoid them all lol
J
I wrote out three paragraphs of worded examples and testimonies to dispute persecuted's claim that married women whom have aged and had children are unattractive to their spouses.. but once mistype and my browser sent me back a page and erased it all.. So I said "blast it all", it's not worth it to write it out again...
I hear your pain... that's happened to me on a number of occasions on here. You'll be glad to know I can understand somebody seeing beauty in their wife as in this is the woman who bore my children for me... but just the same, when on the outside looking at marriages, it doesn't exactly look so very good... and I have come across the men I described in the post you were going to reference who seem to have become bitter and beaten up by marriage.
J
Well see... that can be considered a tricky subject. I could go all philosophical and say that married women aren't "supposed" to be seen as all-out attractive to people other than their husbands. Kind've like aging is natures way of making husbands less likely to get jealous of wandering eyes from other men. But anything about that statement could possibly be refuted.
Also, the whole "beaten up by marriage" part only comes into play if you entered into the marriage and carried it out without God's guidance. If you're following what God wants you to do in order to have a marriage that makes you thankful for what God has done... then I don't see why you would be disgruntled..
Also, the whole "beaten up by marriage" part only comes into play if you entered into the marriage and carried it out without God's guidance. If you're following what God wants you to do in order to have a marriage that makes you thankful for what God has done... then I don't see why you would be disgruntled..
Yeah, well I'm not going to pick too closely through details but have thought maybe the loss of beauty was part of a design as you describe. Kinda wonder how anyone is supposed to have these mysterious marriages with God's guidance given the grand design is all scoffed at anyhow... like on this very chat sight I have people telling me I'm a sinner if I expect a virgin bride. Makes me think that the commitment INTENDED by God doesn't really matter anymore and marriage is more about being played by society into some long term financial provider for a scheming woman than any actual holy union sanctioned by God. Cuz over all it just doesn't look very inspiring.
A
I don't know I'm inspired by the great Christian marriages of people who have been together for over 50 years and still as much in love as ever.
I like listening to them more then the ones who are bitter and hateful.
They shine brighter with God's love and light and aren't so sad or mad all the time. Its nice to be in the presence of people who shine with God's love and look towards Jesus and show the fruits of the Spirit to learn how to live in the world and not be apart of the world.
I just praise God for the success stories that give me hope that marriage and love still works in this world and shows that GOD is in control and that it is HIS plans that runs our lives not the bitterness or darkness people like to focus on. We should instead look towards God's light and His answer of how to love Him and one another.
May God bless you all and give you friendships and love that last a lifetime and beyond. Hope to see you all in Heaven.
I like listening to them more then the ones who are bitter and hateful.
They shine brighter with God's love and light and aren't so sad or mad all the time. Its nice to be in the presence of people who shine with God's love and look towards Jesus and show the fruits of the Spirit to learn how to live in the world and not be apart of the world.
I just praise God for the success stories that give me hope that marriage and love still works in this world and shows that GOD is in control and that it is HIS plans that runs our lives not the bitterness or darkness people like to focus on. We should instead look towards God's light and His answer of how to love Him and one another.
May God bless you all and give you friendships and love that last a lifetime and beyond. Hope to see you all in Heaven.
S
People can be so insensitive. For years my best friend would tell me I needed to find a man, even a "sugar daddy" who would take care of me financially, but who was old--it didn't matter to her, as long as I was taken care of materially. #1--I didn't think I needed a man at all, since I felt completely happy being single, #2--I certainly wouldn't marry just for money, #3--I didn't feel inadequate or incomplete being single, #4--If I wanted to find a man he'd certainly need to have something going for him other than his bank account! I couldn't believe she would say these things to me, since she is a christian but it always made me feel so offended. On top of that, when I did cave in to her constant prodding the guy I became interested in was a complete dud and the whole thing ended up feeling like a disaster. If and when I do find the right guy it won't be because I feel inadequate or incomplete without him! And if he doesn't help me grow spiritually then I figure he's not worth wasting energy on. (Ok, that probably sounded a bit harsh...lol...sorry).
S
Don't lower your standards--there are virgins out there who refuse to compromise! I know many guys and girls who are still virgins and have made a commitment to this standard of purity--I did, and I don't have any regrets about saving myself for marriage!! I know a girl who is still a virgin--she's VERY attractive and VERY smart, funny, athletic, etc. Her own mother encouraged her to go ahead and "test drive" the field ("to make sure she was sexually compatible") and I was shocked and horrified. This girl refused to compromise and I am so proud of her. Seriously, she is GORGEOUS. There is nothing wrong with you standing up for the highest possible standards and you are to be commended.
S
whatever!!
I'm 51, I am HAPPILY married and take care of myself. Don't generalize. THere are still some happily married people out there, and every day I ask God to protect my spouse so that I don't have to go the rest of my life without him.
And yah, I still look good for being 51... like i said, don't generalize. Posts like this piss me off.
P
Don't lower your standards--there are virgins out there who refuse to compromise! I know many guys and girls who are still virgins and have made a commitment to this standard of purity--I did, and I don't have any regrets about saving myself for marriage!! I know a girl who is still a virgin--she's VERY attractive and VERY smart, funny, athletic, etc. Her own mother encouraged her to go ahead and "test drive" the field ("to make sure she was sexually compatible") and I was shocked and horrified. This girl refused to compromise and I am so proud of her. Seriously, she is GORGEOUS. There is nothing wrong with you standing up for the highest possible standards and you are to be commended.
lol... I'm sorry but I couldn't help but to laugh at these two posts... I feel like a naughty child that just got overheard in a conversation not meant for somebody else. For the first one, luckily you're happily married so you won't want to hear this too repulsive to be married bachelor try to tell you that you're more beautiful than the 21 year old cheerleaders and for the second, as if married people don't get together roll their eyes and share stories of the pathetic behaviours of their singles acquaintences.
Okay, I just thought of another one: I HATE it when people ask me if I'm getting "out there." WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?!?! No one can even explain it! When I hear that, I think of things like going to bars and clubs, and no, I don't do that. But if I say "Well I don't go to bars, if that's what you mean," then people are like "No I don't mean bars...just getting out there." Out where?! Makes it sound like there are single people just outside on the street and all you have to do is walk up to one of them and say "Hey, I notice you're out here and I'm out here too...want to marry me?" If only it were so simple!
T
Out There is a mysterious land found in Absolutelynowhereville. Not many people live there, but lots visit regularly. Out There is so shrouded in mystery that no one knows exactly where it is and so when they get there they don't know they have arrived. When you are in Out There, you don't now it and the people who are there with you don't know it either. So usually when you are Out There you will not meet anyone anyway.
S
I don't know I'm inspired by the great Christian marriages of people who have been together for over 50 years and still as much in love as ever.
I like listening to them more then the ones who are bitter and hateful.
They shine brighter with God's love and light and aren't so sad or mad all the time. Its nice to be in the presence of people who shine with God's love and look towards Jesus and show the fruits of the Spirit to learn how to live in the world and not be apart of the world.
I just praise God for the success stories that give me hope that marriage and love still works in this world and shows that GOD is in control and that it is HIS plans that runs our lives not the bitterness or darkness people like to focus on. We should instead look towards God's light and His answer of how to love Him and one another.
May God bless you all and give you friendships and love that last a lifetime and beyond. Hope to see you all in Heaven.
I like listening to them more then the ones who are bitter and hateful.
They shine brighter with God's love and light and aren't so sad or mad all the time. Its nice to be in the presence of people who shine with God's love and look towards Jesus and show the fruits of the Spirit to learn how to live in the world and not be apart of the world.
I just praise God for the success stories that give me hope that marriage and love still works in this world and shows that GOD is in control and that it is HIS plans that runs our lives not the bitterness or darkness people like to focus on. We should instead look towards God's light and His answer of how to love Him and one another.
May God bless you all and give you friendships and love that last a lifetime and beyond. Hope to see you all in Heaven.
lol.. that's good. The one I used to notice when I complained about not meeting good girls was that people would give me this story that there was this amazing nice girl just waiting around the library for some man to come by and ask her out. I used to spend hours at libraries and wanted to shout "No, there isn't! She doesn't exist!" Or maybe give a speech that people studying in libraries weren't exactly the best candidates for being hit on. Strangely, I think I might have actually saw her for the first time a few days ago... problem is, wasn't like she was sitting around for hours, just saw her walk by about the same as all of the girls at the mall. Anyhow, it just struck me as funny how many times I heard the story about the nice girl at the library from couples who admitted they themselves never frequented libraries.
